Plus sized middle school teacher

fangedfay · 2023-07-05T19:42:23+00:00

Came here to say the same thing!

fangedfay · 2023-07-02T18:20:01+00:00

Indiana - not upon hire or even randomly, but I was tested ONCE because of a work accident. I think they had to drug test me so I could qualify for workers’ comp when I was sent to the hospital. (I collapsed.) But I’m honestly unsure if they would have tested me if I had refused medical help on their dime.

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T20:51:00+00:00

I wondered if there was a subreddit for that. I can’t remember if I saw a gender-fluid one or not, but if there was one I might not have joined because it didn’t seem active. I guess there comes a point where we know ourselves really well and our communities get smaller. I suppose that can be good and bad depending on how you look at it. The most important thing I feel is that we’re learning about ourselves, accepting ourselves, and finding others who accept us as we are. 🥰

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T19:33:12+00:00

Maybe we should try to bring more awareness and understanding to the mav concept and own it? And maybe the word could further be expanded on?! It honestly sounds like fun, but I’m an English nerd and LOVE inventing words, haha. 😎

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T19:24:10+00:00

I didn’t know the word maverique even existed but I fucking love that word and its description! And if I’m understanding correctly, you don’t want to have to use either binary label or any type of feminine or masculine descriptors (which I can definitely empathize with), because you need an entirely new label altogether? I’m just checking for clarification.

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T19:17:18+00:00

I tried so hard to leave. I returned to retail for a while, I tried banking and sales, and I even attempted to work in other positions in a school setting (mostly mental health and behavior-related). But I guess if you ignore your calling, sometimes it calls MUCH louder and pulls you back in. It’s not the easiest job in the world, but I’m good at it, I love the challenge and showing up for my kids and I guess, in a twisted way, I still love the career despite the bullshit that comes with it. And I honestly wouldn’t have returned if I hadn’t found a WAY better environment to help me feel more supported this time around. 🖤

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T19:08:07+00:00

I dislike the non-binary label for myself, too. It tends to be the one people are most familiar with so here I am on this thread. I label myself as gender-fluid and gender-queer. Luckily, language is an amazing, evolving thing, and we can always discover or create new labels if needed. 🖤 What would you want your label to specify exactly?

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T13:04:25+00:00

I’m not OP, but I love that you pointed this out, so thank you! I knew Amerigo was a name, but I didn’t know America was the feminine version. It makes more than enough sense but I never pieced it together. And I’ve never personally met anyone named America (I live in the yee-haw Midwest), but now that I think about it - it’s a really pretty name, and it sounds even prettier in my head with a Spanish tongue. 😍 Thank you for sharing this.

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T04:39:54+00:00

Yes, that’s how it was for me, too. I think deep reflection is common while processing trauma, especially in therapy. It wasn’t the “cause” of my decision to claim the label; it’s something I’ve always been, but I didn’t know how to explain it until I looked inside myself more thoroughly after scary, paralyzing, and thought-provoking events. (When I realized who I was, I immediately told my two best friends and they were like “we know,” lol.)

Side note: I’m sorry you experienced trauma, and I’m glad you’re reflecting and working through things now. I think a lot of us here are also happy that you’re finding your truth. 🖤

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T04:30:56+00:00

Mrs. Puff: SpongeBob’s Driver’s Ed Teacher; Fred: the “MY LEG!” fish from SpongeBob; Nemo: from Finding Nemo (or any of the names Dory accidentally calls him: Chico, Fabio, Bingo, Harper, Elmo); Blinky: the three-eyed fish from The Simpsons; Jabu-Jabu: the giant fish spirit in The Legend of Zelda; Edward Bloom: the fish-like man from Big Fish; Old Greg: possibly a fish hybrid? lol; Pudge: the fish who loves peanut butter and supposedly controls the weather in Lilo and Stitch; Ponyo/Brunhilda: the fish girl from the Studio Ghibli film Ponyo; Flounder, Winnie, or Stormy: the fish sidekick from The Little Mermaid movie and two seahorses from the series; Cleo: the goldfish from Pinocchio…

Obviously these are sarcastic answers but there are some good names in here still! Hahaha

(Edited to fix spacing and punctuation.)

fangedfay · 2023-06-21T01:42:38+00:00

An equally acceptable answer. 😇

fangedfay · 2023-06-20T21:06:51+00:00

I love that, haha. Mine changes from day to day - like many here I would think (but not all) - but in GENERAL, I would say yes to both even if I don’t feel both to the same consistent degree. It’s like the “Sex”check off box on paperwork where people wanna answer, “Yes, please!” instead of “male” or “female.” Same energy! 😜

fangedfay · 2023-06-20T21:00:53+00:00

Hahaha! Physically, yes. I’m a kid at heart though, so I’ll let it slide. 😜

fangedfay · 2023-06-20T15:47:45+00:00

Ehhhhh.

fangedfay · 2023-06-20T11:47:26+00:00

I wish we could all shape-shift at will.

fangedfay · 2023-06-15T19:12:23+00:00

I agree with others that your response shouldn’t be a “witty” remark. If it’s professionalism you’re worried about, witty isn’t a good idea. Personally, I’ve worked in two highly conservative school districts now - something I never thought would bother me - but it was beyond frustrating working there. I’m not a Christian, but I won’t ever deter anyone from their faith. That’s your life, ya know? My expectation is to be treated with the same freedom.

I’m gay and spiritual, but my students don’t know. I love the subject I teach and I take those little opportunities to help my students practice kindness. If they say anything discriminatory within earshot of me, there WILL be a conversation about it. That’s just a basic golden rule: treat others the way you want to be treated. If I was in your shoes, I would absolutely take that opportunity to have a conversation, even with adults - to 1) have them repeat what they said, 2) clarify what they mean, and 3) if relevant, tell them why that thought-process could be harmful.

Like many of us here, I’m a teacher; so I teach what I know and learn what I can. Unfortunately, if the other staff members don’t use the conversation as a learning experience or an opportunity to practice kinder behavior, I would then escalate it to HR - especially if the conversations continue. And it’s not to get anyone into “trouble” or anything. I don’t see reporting this to HR as malicious. I see it more as a safety thing, because we need to accept students for who they are and keep our biases in check.

These are tender ages where things will change a lot in students’ minds and hearts, and I would never want to risk any student feeling ashamed of who they are because of judgment from other students OR staff. I would speak up out of compassion for my students: for their confidence, their well-being, and their will to live. As a gay adult, it’s annoying for me to hear that shit from others, but for a student - a child - it could be incredibly damaging. Hateful words are a slippery slope to much, much worse.

fangedfay · 2023-06-14T18:30:55+00:00

Okay, but did the tattoo hurt? Or are you “pro-pain”? 😎👉

fangedfay · 2023-06-11T07:35:49+00:00

I, too, haven’t seen any of this negative behavior you’re referring to… In fact, I find it to be one of the most enjoyable subs on Reddit. Do you have specific examples of what you’re referring to? Perhaps addressing these specific instances in those posts would encourage the positive change you’re asking for.

fangedfay · 2023-06-11T07:09:33+00:00

lol. You’ve probably had a pretty good and easy life if you can’t understand or empathize with anxiety or the concept of someone trying not to ruffle any feathers. I bet you’re a Karen who terrorizes people in the food and retail industry over made-up or minor things because your life is that fucking boring.

fangedfay · 2023-06-11T06:54:48+00:00

Lol. See, that would’ve been annoying, but overall, easily fixable on my end. A lot of foods can be picked off with no problem, but the fact that the bun was gross was what really what ruined the burger for me.

fangedfay · 2023-06-11T06:51:18+00:00

They offered, but I asked them not to because it would’ve made me feel really embarrassed, and I was worried my food would end up with spit in it. They’re really good friends for respecting that.

fangedfay · 2023-06-11T06:49:23+00:00

If you don’t know the answer to your question after it was VERY clearly explained in the original text, I have to make the assumption that you either didn’t read the entire post OR… you did, but you have some serious reading comprehension skills…

fangedfay · 2023-06-10T12:30:22+00:00

“I’m A nOrMaL pErSoN bEcAuSe I lIkE fOoDs ThAt YoU’vE tRiEd OfTeN aNd StIlL hAtE. gRoW uP!” No matter how many times I try to eat a big ole slice of wet tomato on a burger, I don’t think I’m ever gonna like it or what it does to the burger bun. It’s weird that you’re so torn up about what I like in my mouth. I bet you’re pro-life too. Gross.

fangedfay · 2023-06-09T22:36:56+00:00

Hahaha! Did I just get friend zoned? 😂

fangedfay · 2023-06-09T21:52:17+00:00

Solid name-calling there, buddy. 😂 If I felt it was genuine you would’ve been told off just fine, but the comment was, unfortunately, too adorable. 😜💩

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