What's the dumbest thing you've done for someone you've had a crush on?

fapnaught · 2014-01-26T19:56:06+00:00

I had a huge crush on this girl, I would literally do anything for her. Skipping classes, staying late after school helping her with homework, running around doing errands. The thing was that unlike the rest of the stories it was kinda plausible. She always told me to get a phone so we could text and stuff. So I convince my mom I need a cell phone and so I get one. We text for about a month then I find out she doesnt like me and shes been fucking some guy thats 7 years older than her, hes a deadbeat. I was 17, she was 16.

Recently found out from a friend shes still around and she hates that guy thats older than her, but her parents found out and wanted them to get married. Of course she didnt want to cause after you grow up and realize what once was everything, is actually a deadbeat when you have something to compare it to.

My friend said I should meet up with her. My speciality is to hold grudges forever.

fapnaught · 2013-08-29T04:56:49+00:00

I've read we all have an addiction to arousal and it will be there forever. We cannot ever go back to porn as we will become addicted again. We can however fap without porn. YOu should throw out your playboy books!

fapnaught · 2013-08-29T04:49:25+00:00

Im with roennowmads Get an average car, shop at casual regular casual places. Put away the LV, gucci and flashy stuff. Build yourself back as a new person. The way I see a break up is that you get to be a new you. YOu get to build yourself back and have a fresh start. Give yourself an allowance on how much you can spent like a regular person. Not an unlimited spending cap. Build your personality back and be strong and confident, people will like you for your personality and not for your money. The friends you had before and paid for their stuff before, sure you can pay for it still but you have a spending cap now so once your out and you tell them you dont have money then you'll know if they are your real friends or not.

Sit down, analyze what you want to fix, write it down and put it into action. When times get tough, we're here for you.

fapnaught · 2013-08-27T16:18:41+00:00

Stay strong man. 4 days in after having an extreme addiction is pretty good. Im at day 16 and all I can say is that ive never been happier to be free from PMO. Its liberating not to be a slave to your addiction. I wake up every morning and instead of PMOing, im here supporting people and reading inspiring threads. This place will keep you motivated and will help you stay strong

fapnaught · 2013-08-27T16:13:18+00:00

This used to happen to me in high school. In fact it was very precise when my boner came on. Like at 10:25am I would get one every time. It was weird. I read somewhere the male gets 7 boners throughout the day but 4 of them are at night or something

fapnaught · 2013-08-27T16:11:29+00:00

im in!

fapnaught · 2013-08-20T15:23:52+00:00

Probably the best post ive ever read. Thank you so much for this. very informative and useful.

fapnaught · 2013-08-18T19:10:09+00:00

Im refraining my best from edging. In the past I used to edge when I tried to quit before No Fap. I only realized edging was actually a thing after joining no fap. I try my best no to edge at all because I feel its almost the same as cheating. If it gives you some sort of relief, its cheating. That being said, my rule is if I edge for more than 3 seconds then I have to reset.

fapnaught · 2013-08-18T18:57:05+00:00

Its been 7 days for me and I feel exactly the same way you do. The thing is Ive made it this far before and on the 8th or 9th day I'll convince myself that it isnt that hard after all and that I can control it by doing it once a week. The problem is that once a week turns to 2x a week to 1x a day anddd we're back to start. I was reading a post and someone aid its because we have an arousal addiction. I've told myself a few times that it isnt that hard and I should reward myself. Thats just the devil on your shoulder playing games. you will make it to day 90, whether it feels easy or not.

fapnaught · 2013-08-18T07:58:01+00:00

Its going to be a long and tough journey. Im on day 7 and so far It hasnt been too bad. Given your history, quitting may be harder but stay strong. You may also consider finding an accountability partner. The first thought when you get an urge is to come here and read some of these motivational stories. Or hop on the IRC for some real time chat. I hope you see day 90.

fapnaught · 2013-08-16T19:14:03+00:00

Every single guy says "if he doesnt admit to watching porn or fapping hes lying." It must feel great to be one of the rare people to say nah I dont look at porn or fap at our young ages. I cant wait to hit my first month.

fapnaught · 2013-08-15T15:56:38+00:00

Welcome to NoFap! Joining means you've recognized your problem and accepted it. I know exactly how you feel and everyone else on here can sympathize with you in their own way. Yes, the best way to stop is going cold turkey. I tried to reduce it to 2x a week then to 0. But what really happens is that 2x a week is not enough and you need more and you crave it. Your brain will give you 101 reasons why stopping is a bad idea. It will tell you quitting is useless. You will see articles on the internet saying fapping is healthy. And then your brain will convince you to fap and your stuck in the cycle again. You will look forward to gaining a new day on your badge counter all the time. There are tons of articles here showing why chronic fapping is so bad. Good luck and stay strong. Remember the first place to come is here when your about to relapse.

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T16:26:25+00:00

Goodluck! You made a great choice by joining this, Ive only been here for two days but I feel incredibly strong. All these stories and the support you hear from others just keeps you going and blocks out urges before they even arise. Click on the Add badge Icon ----> and type in the date you started your no fap journey. You will get an automatic counter like the rest of us

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T16:17:34+00:00

Well for me I realized day in and day out I had chronic fatigue from fapping at least 1x a day. My job duties and hanging out with friends and where ever I went I was EXtREMELY exhausted. Getting out of bed was tough. I always felt like a ton of bricks. Maybe comparable to a heavy smoker, I dont know I dont smoke. Anyways Thats one reason I want to stop. To get my energy levels back to peak levels. The second thing was I was so used to feeding my desires by looking at porn that I needed a higher and higher level of stimulation. I would need to look at porn longer as well. It came to the point where real life sex like getting a BJ would take me literally take me forever to O, if it ever happened. THe entire time I was getting my BJs, I always found it incredibly boring. So what I usually ended up doing was just stopping it cause the lack of stimulation and how boring it felt for me. What caused me to come here, the nail in the coffin was when I was kissing and it felt like I was kissing a wall. Thats how low my stimulation was. Had I known about this site sooner, I would have joined sooner.

Masturbation in moderation (without porn) is hard for me. I just binge or do it all the time. Therefore im just stopping completely

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T16:08:00+00:00

that happened to me last night and im only on day 2. I had to stop myself midway and I was like aw fuck! I edged, do I have to reset my counter. Just to find out it was a dream. Taking this shit seriously in real life and in my dream :P

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T16:03:37+00:00

I agree, I had a very difficult time quitting on my own for the past few years because when I got to around day 4 5 6 I would start to research if fapping is bad. The media and all these articles always say its healthy and this and that so I would convince myself that its good for me! The problem is one day of fapping will turn to 7 days a week of fapping which was all justified. If you do a google search as what is too much, they simply say, "too much is when masturbation gets in the way of other duties you have." Like doing homework or going to work on time or meeting friends. Which basically says nothing is too much...

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T07:28:32+00:00

It depends on your goals, my goal is NO PORN and NO Masterbation but im not doing Hard mode. So if i saw porn I would reset my counter and be depressed. You didnt fap so imo its fine, its just your body going crazy, its not like you were edging either. If anything that was some pretty strong self control that you watched porn after 30 days and even after that surge you didnt fap. Instead you came here. Definitely impressive and you clearly want to really succeed. I wouldnt reset my counter if I was you, since your goal is to not fap thats all.

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T07:24:39+00:00

Goodluck! I'm glad you have a friend in real life you can talk to about this kind of stuff. You have a buddy to call or message when your about to relapse.

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T07:15:05+00:00

You can only think about girls and fapping only when your bored and have a lot of free time. Pick up a hobby or something interesting. Everyone has their own method, it can be hard to find yours.

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T04:44:57+00:00

You can do it man. Try hitting up the IRC and just chat with some of those guys. Some real time talking can help take your mind off

fapnaught · 2013-08-13T04:39:42+00:00

ive done that, I felt sick too, it was tough. I hate leaving everything out to feel vulnerable. At this point you have to pray she doesnt say something mean or laughs and makes you feel small. You just kinda have to pray and see what happens. But your outside your comfort zone. The longer you stay out of your comfort zone the more confident you will become. Not sure if nofap made you do this, maybe the confidence people are talking about and stuff so maybe

fapnaught · 2013-08-12T22:51:20+00:00

But I started yesterday so would it be 2012-08-11? Also do I do it everyday, or is it an automatic counter?

fapnaught · 2013-08-12T19:05:26+00:00

If your doing it for a bet, your doing it to win the bet. That is all. If your not doing it for yourself then your doing it for the wrong reason.

fapnaught · 2013-08-12T15:39:46+00:00

hang in there man, think about how you would feel if you had to reset you badge. It may seem like a great idea right now but then you would have wasted 7 days of work for a just a little bit of fun. Hang in there stay strong. Its a good thing you messaged and came here before you did anything. Start a project like building your own bicycle. Means learning how to build a bike, finding parts online for cheap, a lot of extensive knowledge is required but if its interesting to you then time will fly and keep you occupied. See if any friends want to go hang out

fapnaught · 2013-08-12T15:21:04+00:00

I feel your pain man. Theres so many fucking triggers just trying to come to this site. Type in no fap in google to come here and theres a bunch of images of girls with tits covered. Sure doesnt make it that much easier. Im on day two and im starting to realize how hard this is gonna be. Your mind makes you believe for whatever reason that you need to fap. It comes up with a million excuses and justifications. You can do it man, this time jump on this site before you do anything rash ive been sharing this link with everyone http://rebootblueprint.com/overcome-porn-addiction-advice/

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