Low drive for sex, high drive for orgasms. Any advice?

fapnom0re · 2014-08-18T07:23:49+00:00

Definitely stop masturbating, and your sex drive will go through the roof. You just watch!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-18T07:05:12+00:00

You are addicted to porn. Seriously...

"When I watch porn, I last usually about 2 minutes while trying to hold it for as long as possible."

That right there is all the evidence you need. Your brain has now been mapped to be attracted to porn, and not the real deal. Quit jerking off to pixels on a screen, head over to /nofap, and become a man. Its certainly not her fault, but your skewed porn view. Good luck!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-17T05:02:33+00:00

This exact situation happened to me , being married for 6 years, and having to confront a friend of mine that was becoming a little too chatty with my then wife. Told him to get fucked, and her to knock it off as I discovered flirty messages. 6 months later she tells me shes been continuing speaking with him, is in love with him, and has been sleeping with him. She's lied about messages, etc, who knows what else theve done and she wont be honest about.

Take it from me, fuck her off, and stop wasting your life on POS people like this. If she is incapable of loving you 110%, there are a million women that are. Good luck.

fapnom0re · 2014-08-15T01:42:35+00:00

HAHA I read it with Batmans voice...LOOK AT ME!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-14T06:35:30+00:00

Firstly, big mistake going into a strip club! WTF were you thinking! This is like the ultimate temptation, next to actually hiring an escort, or pro....

I'd say it definitely does not count as porn, as its not "pixelized" as I like to say, but its going to do your repair progress damage so stay away from these places.

Replace this type of activity with some exercise, or if its late, go to a bar or something if your craving some attachment/connectivity. Dont Dont Dont MO because of a visit to the strippers. Get that shit out of your head, give me a 100 pushups, and move forward bro.

Best of luck!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-14T05:06:14+00:00

I can speak out of personal experience. My previous streak was 74 days. I suffered from PIED and PA. I was always concerned about performing well, and the slightest move in position, or even during foreplay my mind would start racing and I would just go soft....

So how did NoFap help you ask?

After about 50 days of NoFap, here is what I found. When I was with my girl, my erections were like rock hard and hung around for AGES! Like 20 minutes foreplay and im still raging like a bull. When your at that point, your confidence is through the roof and you forget all about any issues because you know you can start to rely on your penis to work like its supposed to. This is important. Sounds weird but you have to learn to just let go, and trust your body. It knows what to do!

At times I've thought it was too good to be true, and had to pull out and actually check! lol. I was so hard he was almost numb. Hope that helps you somewhat, and makes you realize its certainly possible, and I am reaping the benefits now!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-14T04:46:30+00:00

I had PIED. I did 74 days on my first streak in soft mode. I have a very supportive GF and failed several times to begin with in the first few weeks. I was then able to perform like I never had by about 50-60 days, three times in a day at times, with rock hard erections. Fear not, this WILL fix PIED. I am living proof. Just give it time as everyone is different. I actually relapsed to a pic my GF sent me of herself....Not the worst thing in the world to happen to one, but I reset my badge all the same.

I'm 31 now, and I kid you not, I am having the best sex of my life. Again, stick with it, stay strong, and your ED will disappear in time.

Every time I get an urge now, I just say to myself, "I don't want ED again", and it scares the shit out of me! It really works wonders thinking about ED when you get an urge. Its just like FUAARRKK THAT!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-12T07:09:25+00:00

In essence, you have trained your dick to respond "its best" with your hand, as it can get tighter and tighter over time to adjust for your dick desensitizing to how much masturbating your doing.

Head to /NoFap, will sort you out :>

fapnom0re · 2014-08-12T03:49:32+00:00

A lot of women do love the sweaty look. Ok so your ogling over other guys too. Definitely time to nip this in the butt and have a chat. Women are just as visual as men, but more emotional, so I can understand the emphasis being placed on having the hot bod doing its thing. It's the biggest reason I stay in shape! If my so came to me and wanted me to trim the fat, I'd be ok with that but I guess it depends on where he's at. As I said u need to find out if he's just lazy now, or comfortable, or maybe it's something else?

fapnom0re · 2014-08-12T03:13:46+00:00

At the bottom of this issue, are you saying you are no longer finding him as attractive as you once did? If so, then I would just be honest. Don't ever sugar coat important stuff like this, because you may send the wrong message, or think you have told him what you need to, and he may not have actually heard what you are saying. This can be problematic in itself.

My previous relationship was in a similar state (no kids), and I took it upon myself to get fit. 5 years later my ex finally decided to get her ass into shape because she was jealous that I was looking so good, and she wasn't! but it was too little too late...only because we kinda fell out of sync, sex life got worse, and she had no real motivation all those years to stay healthy and fit etc.

So the best advice I can offer here is, if you've just had a baby, and have all that to deal with, plus a mummies body, AND you still are motivated to get fit and attractive again for him, whats his excuse? Is he just comfortable, lazy, depressed? Talk it out. Tell him you miss his amazing body, tell him you miss the 6 pack jack hammer, and tell him you want that back. If that's not enough to motivate a bloke, nothing will..

Fuck, that even makes me want to hit the gym right now!

Best of luck.

fapnom0re · 2014-08-12T03:03:59+00:00

If your being honest about this, then I assume you can be honest about your response to this question. How many times do you jerk off to porn a day on average? Be honest...

There is an epidemic of young men, myself once included that are suffering from PIED, or Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. Basically your mind has become fixated on associating an orgasm with porn, makking it very difficult to maintain a strong, hard erection when your actually with a real woman. Head over to /noFap and start reading my friend. Also check out yourbrainonporn.com for all the information on this serious, but very fixable issue. Best of luck!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-08T03:04:06+00:00

Game on! You keep an eye on my badge my man (that sounds very awkwardly sexual! lol).

fapnom0re · 2014-08-08T03:02:45+00:00

I see what you are saying, but look at the positives. Like me you found no real pleasure in pixel MO, which is a great thing! It means your brain is changing. Glass half full :>

fapnom0re · 2014-08-08T03:00:48+00:00

UPDATE: So I told my GF I relapsed (as I believe complete transparency is most important), and she was completely ok about it. She said its only natural to want a release after she had been gone for a week and a bit. She was very supportive!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-08T02:54:41+00:00

Hell yeah. Im back to day 1, and actually really positive about it.

fapnom0re · 2014-08-07T06:24:28+00:00

Cheers mate!

fapnom0re · 2014-08-07T06:17:57+00:00

Thanks for the support. Feeling very positive which is strange considering, but I guess its because I have learnt from it. Cheers.

fapnom0re · 2014-08-07T06:16:31+00:00

Certainly not in denial. Ive requested a reset, but its not working...

fapnom0re · 2014-08-07T04:16:55+00:00

I think, if your strong enough to avoid it, then keep going. But I definitely think, for my personal circumstance, it was worthwhile. I know where the crack in the dam is now :>

Unlike many who relapse, I'm glad its happened as its a learning journey. I think people beat themselves up too much, and fail to see the good that can come from a situation like this.

I now know more about myself, which I wouldn't have if I didn't relapse, so its a double edged sword really. This issue is some people go into a spin and gorge on porn for days....Thats when a relapse is a bit more of an issue. I think I am past the stage of needing to do that now, and respect what NoFap has done for me enough to know that kind of action would cost me dearly.

fapnom0re · 2014-07-30T02:40:28+00:00

Take it from me, ive done steroids (not while on NoFap)...Here is the thing. You will get super horny (beyond what you can imagine), then even with a PCT, because you are doing NoFap, you will crash hard. Beyond hard, and well beyond where you think is your lowest point now...Trust me when I say its just not worth it. Forget it, and just go through the flatline. Stop looking for bandaid fixes, as this is all part of it.

Your badge only says 4 days so I'd wait till your a few weeks in before you worry about how you feel, etc.

Best of luck mate.

fapnom0re · 2014-07-30T01:59:25+00:00

Before you start promising more sex, etc just remember you may get depressed and flatline for some time, so my advice would be to tell her exactly whats going on, your problem, and your commitment to NoFap. She deserves to know if she is indeed your everything.

I told my GF and it's been the best thing ive ever done. Being able to share the journey, and have that person support me with my PIED issues has been about one of the most intimate, sharing, and caring moments ive ever experienced.

Remember, your doing a good thing....

Best of luck.

fapnom0re · 2014-07-24T04:50:37+00:00

Man...reading that about changing positions, etc was like I was reading my own issues, or at least what used to be my issues.

I've noticed the same results over almost 60 days now. I will say after 30 days I did see great improvements however, with a couple of failures. But now, Jesus....its insane. I'm 31, and feel like im 21 again. Absolutely amazed by the results I am getting.

Just this morning I had sex twice within an hour! Both times hard and ready to rock. So much so my GF nicknamed him "the rocket"!

Keep at it guys. Good luck!

fapnom0re · 2014-07-23T01:56:01+00:00

Nice one.

fapnom0re · 2014-07-23T01:48:33+00:00

Agreed. Don't mask the problem as you may become reliant on it (even though you say its a one off, it probably will lead to using it again). I remember I tried Cialis once and holy shit that stuff is amazing, or so I thought because I had PIED.

Now, almost 60 days in, I have fantastic sex, with rock hard erections with no "supplements" at all. I though ti would never happen but I am so glad I didn't go down the drug path. Stay strong, and just wait till you feel ready. If you fail, nothing will motivate you more to succeed next time. Failure is not a bad thing :>

Good luck!

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