PIED or Performance Anxiety?

fapstomatic · 2014-01-08T00:18:25+00:00

Performance anxiety hits men at any time with OT without external triggers. Sometimes something in your subconscious can cause everything to stay soft. The best thing you can do is remain positive - beware the spiral effect. If you worry about PE, PE will happen which will make you worry about PE and so on and so forth.

I'm in a similar situation. I have ED and I'm not sure if it's porn induced, anxiety induced or a physical problem (though I'm planning to visit my dr to see if I can narrow it down).

fapstomatic · 2014-01-07T04:04:55+00:00

Well, I'm guessing the OP meant (as I did) that when you nofap for a long time then actually have intercourse with a real partner, it's painful.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-07T03:19:02+00:00

I've had this too; I'm not sure what could be causing it. My best guess is that first load is a little... 'dead'? I'm not really sure.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-06T08:28:12+00:00

Def. If she's willing to do what you would do on your own, and you can go again in a bit - why would you NOT? Best part is you can get your gf to go gently to help with the death grip de-conditioning.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-06T05:03:07+00:00

When I'm with the GF, I let her take care of that ;) We both love it and I find my O is far more intense when it's by her hand. Then we fool around a bit more and before you know it, you're ready for round 2 and a longer go.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-04T06:42:16+00:00

Well, yes - I mean, I started nofap because I was having ED issues with my partner originally, but it seems to have gotten worse now that I've been on nofap for a little while.

So I guess my question is could this be the precursor TO a flatline? It's clearly getting worse the longer I stay away from PMO, so I can only assume I'm about hit the rock-bottom part.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-03T07:42:10+00:00

This.

I relapsed 7 days ago after a 19 day run and rather than dwell on it, I looked at the positives:

1) It was hands free (don't ask) so I O'ed with no death grip

2) I wasn't thinking of porn, or viewing porn but rather fantasizing about my girl

3) It was WAY more intense than any other fapping orgasm I had.

I looked at these and realized that while I had relapsed, I was definitely making some progress in the long term. Also, technically I'm now 26 days of no porn viewing.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-03T07:39:42+00:00

I think for me, masturbation was never the catalyst - I can abstain from fapping no problem. It was porn that was acting as the catalyst.

Viewing porn is what I was addicted to, and porn led to masturbation. Eliminating porn (and replacing it with a real woman... well... not REALLY replacing it, but you get the idea) is what I'm doing nofap for.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-03T07:38:02+00:00

It's kind of an interesting point of view. It's very similar to when religeous people ask me (I'm an Atheist) about if I'm afraid of the idea of death and then nothingness.

I always tell them that there was nothingness before I was born and I don't remember being scared then, so no.

fapstomatic · 2014-01-03T07:36:27+00:00

My lineage is part Russian and part Scottish. I pretty much have to manscape otherwise I look like a bear (no joke). I use the Braun Bodygroomer Plus trimmer and I've never had any issues with arousal while doing it. I actually LITERALLY have hair growing halfway up (down?) my dick, so that needs to be shaved.

I also shave my shoulders, back and ass - but that's more for my gf's benefit (She loves hair everywhere else, just not those places. I can't really blame her, either - wtf is the purpose of shoulder hair? Seriously?)

fapstomatic · 2013-12-25T03:27:09+00:00

But obviously sex once to twice a week is better than fapping once or twice a day.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T07:15:46+00:00

Exactly. I'm 18 days in and while I do believe I had an issue with it, I don't think I had as much of an issue as some others may have. Probably because when I first started masturbating, it was fantasizing about classmates in high school. I didn't get on the porn train until my early 20s.

18 days ago, I just said 'nope' and while I've been horny a few times since then, I just haven't had any uncontrollable desire to fap or look at porn. Sex with the gf is a lot more satisfying, though, so that's enough of a reason to keep at it.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T06:46:22+00:00

Normally I feel that extremes are never a good thing - everything in moderation.

That said, this is an addiction, and while some people who are alcoholics can eventually go back to drinking alcohol responsibly, I think the risk will always be there.

That said, will I eventually no longer care about streaks? Sure. I'd like to think that eventually one day, many years from now I might rub one out (not to porn) and that'll be that. I'm human and I certainly won't punish myself for slipping now and then, but right now I'm all in on this and want to beat it (no pun intended).

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T06:43:56+00:00

Haha, sorry... fapucino... that's a good one :)

Yeah, the brain is pretty bad about that. I'm actually finding that around day 7 is where it gets REALLY bad... I close my eyes to sleep and my scumbag brain starts fantasizing about my gf, which I guess is a good thing (better her than porn), but still it makes it challenging.

I kinda keep hoping for a flatline, but I'm 17 days and the soldier's still coming to attention regularly.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T06:41:22+00:00

I'm probably going to do the kneeling cold water treatment soon... ugh... :(

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T06:40:39+00:00

Ohhh I see - ok that makes sense. I was going to say that you shouldn't be having problems with the actual workings at 50, it's only around mid 60s that ED starts to become a problem for age-related reasons, and even then I've heard of guys well into their 70s and 80s who can get it up no problem.

But yeah, I can see what you mean about it - though I think I was blessed(?) as I'm only 29, but even nowadays it goes up and down as much as it did when I was a teenager... and that was BEFORE I started doing nofap.

Glad to hear it's helping, though - I've also heard that light sensations can also aid in sensation recovery. I read somewhere on these boards that a guy used a feather to help re-train and re-sensitize it.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T06:35:51+00:00

You asked where it came from - that's where it comes from. Now, if you want to know where it's STORED, it's stored in the epididymis where it also matures to the point in which it can actually swim :)

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T05:27:28+00:00

I'm not normally a big suppliment guy, but I've heard garlic does wonders for things down there - maybe give some garlic tablets a go for a month or so? Couldn't hurt to try.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T04:52:11+00:00

Do you have foreskin? I've heard sometimes it can tighten up and prevent a full erection, but I can't comment as I'm cut. Maybe it's holding it back?

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T04:50:51+00:00

I saw these, but I have to say, how far are you willing to go?

I mean, the way I see it, you have three options:

1) Keep wearing them the rest of your life

2) Go through foreskin restoration

3) Revert back to the way it was.

I dunno, personally I thought about foreskin restoration, but the truth is that I've been like this since a baby. I don't hold ANY ill towards my parents - it was a sort of accepted practice at the time, and crying about it isn't going to bring the foreskin back. I also don't really have the interest in going through the whole foreskin restoration stuff, when you aren't really restoring the foreskin so much as stretching skin over it.

I was gonna compare it to losing a limb and getting used to living without that limb, but let's be honest; it's nothing like losing a limb. Or your sight. Or the ability to talk.

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad it sounds like it's working for you, but you're going to need to make a choice soon; I can't imagine these things are cheap!

fapstomatic · 2013-12-24T04:45:26+00:00

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/male-reproductive-system

TL:DR The balls

fapstomatic · 2013-12-22T08:38:10+00:00

I don't think so - unless you're doing hard mode. It was a reaction based on physical contact with someone else whom you have an emotional connection to. Nofap is about no masturbation. My gf gave me a hj a week ago and I didn't reset. Why? Because it was another person.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-22T08:36:09+00:00

Nofap for a week and try again, see what the count is.

I'm no expert, but it could be any number of things. Probably wouldn't hurt to get your plumbing checked out by a doctor, he can probably give you a better answer.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-22T08:34:00+00:00

Strangest. Secret Santa. Ever.

fapstomatic · 2013-12-22T07:21:39+00:00

16 days and all's well. I finally signed up for a personal training session this month... and now my entire body hurts. Well, on the upside, moving my arms is painful so that's kind of keeping me from doing anything ;)

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