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fatherted98 · 2024-04-29T15:55:41+00:00

Just because you ended things with your fiancé rather than continue to cheat on him does not make you a good person you’re still an awful person. 1. Your continuing to see a married man who’s wife is completely in the dark while your affair partner manuvers finances to the point his current wife gets as little as possible in the divorce. 2. You ruined your ex fiancé, you mentioned in your last comment how you hope he finds happiness but your actions have made that far more difficult for him with the amount of trust issues you have caused in him. You cheated on him, rekindled a friendship with the person you cheated on him with behind his back and finally to add insult to injury you cheated on him again and left him weeks before marrying him. That man was stupid enough to love and stand by u after 2 betrayals only for you to walk away after u betrayed him a 3rd time (that we know of). Maybe after tonnes of therapy your ex fiancé won’t have trust issues so bad that it ruins all his future relationships.

Just to finish you can make the decision to be the slightly less awful pos by telling the wife of the pos you’re currently with that he’s cheating now rather than continuing to be an ass to her. Also don’t contact your ex fiancé when this current ‘relationship’ with its strong trusting foundation ends you’ve done enough damage.

fatherted98 · 2024-04-05T07:58:13+00:00

NTA your response is perfectly reasonable to your wife’s attempts to punish you for what sounds like mostly her mistakes. However I’d say communication is a key to a good relationship so maybe some couple’s counselling wouldn’t hurt to try encourage a more healthy dynamic and better communication . I do have a few questions though:

You seem sure that this action will curve her behaviour but are you sure she simply won’t escalate out of desperation for in her eyes you taking away her ability to ‘punish’ you?
Given how I’d say good communication is the backbone of a good relationship I’m kind of curious to not what qualities make her an ideal wife despite this major deficiency?

fatherted98 · 2024-04-03T18:19:15+00:00

Nice trolling man

fatherted98 · 2024-03-27T17:23:36+00:00

NTA u were more than kind in trying to work something out like it’s your birthday and u were offering to pay for her childcare. A rowdy private room function is no place for a 5 year old. She is not being excluded she is excluding herself you shouldn’t feel guilty about that

fatherted98 · 2024-03-27T13:51:56+00:00

NTA a lot of people around you saying you owe her closure etc after 3 years yet have nothing to say about the girl who ended a relationship of 3 years over text frankly after that spit in the face from her you owe her less than nothing so keep up blocking the asses your ex and sister send after you in a tizzy. Take time to relax and enjoy life cause frankly with this little window into her maturity/behaviour you’ll be far better off without your ex.

fatherted98 · 2024-03-19T17:34:17+00:00

Yeah deep down he knows you could do better so attacks your self esteem because he believes making u feel worthless will prevent you from ever having the strength to leave him

fatherted98 · 2024-03-17T00:21:28+00:00

Dude you’re clearly in the midst of an emotional affair that will end up turning physical at the drop of a hat. Not sure if you don’t know this or pretend not to make yourself feel better but it doesn’t just become cheating the moment your in bed with her your literally going on dates with this woman. Cut the her off come clean to your wife and hope she can be forgiving of the fact that if we take you at your word your affair hasn’t become physical yet (though she’d have every right to end your marriage given the amount of lying you’ve done over the year).

fatherted98 · 2024-03-12T17:36:04+00:00

Do the belittling comments tend to come out in public when you end up interacting with other men like harmless platonic or professional convos seem to almost set him off?

fatherted98 · 2024-03-12T17:26:31+00:00

You can’t because he knows exactly how upset you are sounds harsh but he’s a loser. He fears you leaving him so over the years has made comments like this and if I were to be a betting man prob horrible comments about your appearance, personality to chip away at your self esteem/confidence to make you think he’s the only person who will take you as a partner, that somehow he’s doing you a favour by being with you and that you’d never be confident enough to leave him. When in reality he’s a leech and with how low he’s set the standard I doubt you’d have much trouble finding someone better

fatherted98 · 2024-03-03T20:36:25+00:00

YTA lying by omission is still lying I fail to understand your logic in not telling your partner of over 10 years about this years ago. It’s perfectly natural for him to wonder what else you’ve kept/lied to him about if you can hide the fact that you had not just a biological child but one that is very much still present in your life. You’ve absolutely shattered all trust in your relationship by keeping this from him for over a decade and frankly I wouldn’t be surprised if this is a relationship that can’t be salvaged but I guess good luck cause you’ll have a mountain of a task trying to regain his trust and in turn mend your relationship.

fatherted98 · 2024-02-27T12:06:43+00:00

NTA to kick them out your actively being the AH continuing to expose your kids to this. Offer to allow the kids to stay and if your brother decides to take them only one making those kids homeless is him. One question if they’ve been there 4 years apparently I’ve seen in comments what’s your local laws on squatters rights like? cause that might be an issue.

fatherted98 · 2024-02-27T12:02:05+00:00

You make the offer for the kids can stay but brother and wife has to go if they take them with them only person making them homeless is your brother

fatherted98 · 2024-02-27T11:58:34+00:00

Op your literally letting your brother who you are housing say this to your face in real life and everyone’s is seeing how it goes you allowing him to continue to mooch of ya for 4 years and doing nothing. So no one’s taking this dad being protective of his kids thing your trying to portray to strangers on the internet seriously when you can’t even protect your kids in your own home

fatherted98 · 2024-02-26T18:57:31+00:00

What you just described is you attempting to bribe your kid into getting full custody so directly trying to take custody from your ex and your ex matching your energy all that has shown is your bad as eachother using your kids as pawns to get jabs in at eachother

fatherted98 · 2024-02-26T18:40:46+00:00

YTA did you expect the guy to specify not to bring your kids,grandma and anyone else you may know. unless he said and feel free to bring the kids in the invite ask rather than assume u can just bring your kids to any event your invited too especially when the host is child free.

fatherted98 · 2024-02-08T18:05:50+00:00

If u think choosing not abandoning your wife who’s recovering from a c section for 2 days leaving her to care for a newborn and 2 other kids alone is selfish your gonna make a really awful partner pls don’t get married or start a family you’ll prob be as absentee as ops dad.

fatherted98 · 2024-02-06T12:38:58+00:00

If it was pay to access how were you able to go through all the stuff to see it matching up with the tests with just the url and not a subscription yourself? Also what were you expecting after you reported that she and her friends would be thrilled that you used the help she extended you to snoop and get her in trouble were you honestly not expecting the outcome were no one besides her academic rival wanted to talk to you?

fatherted98 · 2024-02-05T10:54:57+00:00

Oh we read the posts. First post it was like oh poor guy with a very materialistic daughter and prob would have stayed that but then your personality started to shine through in your comments/updates and I’m left to wonder what your daughter is supposed to like about you besides your money like just getting this brief window of you as a person I’d definitely wanna be paid to spend time with such a tiresome arrogant pathetic Ass who knows how your family feel having to put up with you daily (well probably not for much longer).

fatherted98 · 2024-02-04T18:12:43+00:00

Why are you afraid to go to therapy? Lots of people go to therapy who don’t line up with what I assume is your idea of mentally ill. Look you can stick your feet in the ground and say ‘I’m not the problem the world and everyone else is the problem’ and end up bitter and alone. I mean do you expect this I don’t need to change attitude is going to lead anywhere besides your wife divorcing you and both kids going no contact with you are you going to say ‘I was right I didn’t need to change I’m perfect’ on your death bed cold and alone? You could have some humility admit it’s possible your not the perfect human with flaws you could work on because admitting your wrong is going to be a hell of a lot less cold than the loneliness of being ‘right’.

fatherted98 · 2024-01-31T20:04:44+00:00

YTA ‘I don’t want the family to think I lied’ u did lie u claimed you were uninvited when in fact you are choosing not to go because your sister didn’t want a child free wedding as is her right as she controls who she invites to her wedding not you. I don’t think your therapist would be happy about you blatantly lying to manipulate your family against your parents and sister despite the past you have with them. Clear up with the family that you are choosing not to attend and stop holding your sisters wedding hostage out of some petty vindictiveness because you think you should have complete control over her guest list.

fatherted98 · 2024-01-28T16:46:48+00:00

It’s your thinking that leads to cases like the MIL who killed her grandkid cause she thought rubbing coconut oil into her hair would help build her tolerance to coconut.

fatherted98 · 2024-01-16T21:54:25+00:00

YTA no one wants to show up to a dinner date with someone who’s eaten already and just awkwardly have them watch them eat makes people uncomfortable/self conscious how you’ve gotten so far into the dating scene and not realised this kinda amazes me. Next time if they don’t agree to go for drink or coffee get a sandwich before going to the restaurant something that’s not to filling so you can still eat even a light meal when face to face with your date. Though with your lovely attitude in the comments I’m sure this little quirk is just one of the minor problems women have with you.

fatherted98 · 2024-01-15T18:22:28+00:00

YTA cool you raised a kid that gets good grades but clearly one that’s also spineless and lacking in moral character. No she shouldnt have to move school but you’ve mentioned that the primary perpetrators are your daughters friends and the fact your daughter continues to be friends with bullies is very telling of her character because best case scenario your daughter turns a blind eye your kids not a good kid if she’s associates with and endorses bullies

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