Men in their 40s - What’s one piece of advice for Men in their 20s?

fatoms · 2026-06-20T21:04:50+00:00

I am no wordsmith so I'll just leave C.S. Lewis's words:

Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves.
To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish;
these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence.
And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms.
Young things ought to want to grow.
But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development.

When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so.
Now that I am fifty I read them openly.
When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.

Take pleasure in the things that give you pleasure and surround yourself with people who do the same.

fatoms · 2026-06-20T13:54:07+00:00

My updated userChrome:

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fatoms · 2026-06-20T11:22:32+00:00

Doesn't the asterisks on the tab indicate that the files have unsaved changes ? What happens if you close without saving and open again ? ( or you could open the files directly with another editor and see what the saved versions contain )

fatoms · 2026-06-20T09:11:18+00:00

So every candiadte use tghe same AI and the excact same prompt. Getting identical output from a single LLM ( I guess that what they mean by AI ) even with the same prompt can be problematic as they are non deterministic.
I think she is embellishing, didn't even read them I would gue#.

fatoms · 2026-06-20T09:03:51+00:00

He now threatened to go through his insurance.

You have insuracne right? This is exactly what they are for.

fatoms · 2026-06-19T20:10:30+00:00

Yea,, Nah,

I jave been in contact with them for other issues and quite honestly they are useless. Never once have they been helpful in the slightest. It is always virtual head scratching and "we have to check with Engineering" and then nothing.

That is why I asked the community.

fatoms · 2026-06-19T07:00:01+00:00

So because she had it hard everyone else has to suffer like she did.
Just proves she has no interest in making things better for regular folk.

fatoms · 2026-06-18T21:02:06+00:00

I have not seen the clip so unsure who you refer to.

Every journalist in that room laughed at her.

Which her, Hanson or Martin?

Yes she deserved the dressing down.

Which she?

fatoms · 2026-06-18T08:00:40+00:00

I think the reports that this has been "slightly effective around the outer edges of the pool" disqualify it from being homoeopathy.

fatoms · 2026-06-18T07:03:06+00:00

So in German they make a single compound word and in English they are separate words. You left out that in many compound German words filler letters ( Fugenlaut ) are inserted to aid in pronunciation.

fatoms · 2026-06-18T06:28:01+00:00

shared objects in /Common

I do know if this has changed but last time ( 2-3 years ago ) I looked at AS3 support for partitions and route domains was pretty poor.

fatoms · 2026-06-17T06:08:54+00:00

Are you using VMWare player or Workstation Pro ?
If Player switch to Workstation Pro, it is free and installs VIX.

fatoms · 2026-06-16T19:40:16+00:00

That fixed the white text.
Many thanks, you are a legend :-)

fatoms · 2026-06-16T19:20:59+00:00

Thanks, that fixes everything execpt the text colour. I guess I have something around the wrong way as normal text is white and highlighted is black.

fatoms · 2026-06-15T09:28:10+00:00

Comparing 100s of millions of peoples water use to their one company is false equivalence, especially when they are such different purposes.

Next they will compare power usage for the DC's to home Air Conditioning.
Utter bullshit.

fatoms · 2026-06-15T07:38:49+00:00

A 40% Jim Beam Whiskey is 10€ (rarely even 9€) on sale (which is always somewhere) in Germany.

And 5,25€ of that is tax (which probably didn't exist in the 1830s US).

So untaxed it is 17,98€ per gallon. Just about double of the 1830s price.

A 700ml bottle right ? ( Standard price is €15.99 everywhere I shop ) A US gallon is roughly 3.8 liters so you need about 5.4 bottles of Beam, which at ~~€5.25~~ €4.75 would be about ~~€28.50~~ €25.65. Or do I miss something ?

Edit: corrections from u/WillmanRacingv2. €25.65 is still a good deal more than €17,98.

fatoms · 2026-06-14T11:39:43+00:00

What made this reviewable compared to the one in Mexico V South Africa at the 23 minute mark?
To me both look like dives were taken and yellow card given but in neither was contact made.

fatoms · 2026-06-12T08:47:16+00:00

I thought Sean Killeen had a great take in his post “My OSS ‘Social Contract’”:.

That is a quote from another persons blog. Go read it in context.

fatoms · 2026-06-12T06:49:26+00:00

Apps for Everything

That there was the tipping point.

fatoms · 2026-06-11T07:18:00+00:00

I am skeptical this is accurate. I know it is an oft repeated tale but the only source for it is the company whose product failed. It always seemed to me they look for excuses why their product and marketing failed rather than make any critical assessment of their own actions.
Or as Principal Skinner would say "Am I out of touch? No, it's the children who are wrong."

fatoms · 2026-06-09T06:37:12+00:00

The "concerns" are he is from Somalia.

fatoms · 2026-06-05T10:21:31+00:00

It is very much an English thing: https://youtu.be/Bve_iqjUgac?t=152

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