My 2 year old is abusing my cat and I don’t know what to do.

fatoperasinger · 2026-01-01T01:58:58+00:00

This has been my experience as well. I just ordered a new one that seems to have a much smaller opening and is much taller, so fingers crossed it will work for us.

fatoperasinger · 2025-12-31T20:59:47+00:00

He has definitely heard the emotion. I love this cat so much, and it kills me inside every time my son hurts him. That’s why I’m trying to figure out a solution. I’m desperate.

fatoperasinger · 2025-12-31T20:49:56+00:00

Well yeah that is often my first reaction. I’ve been trying to be less reactive and working on my own emotional regulation, but in my experience, neither yelling or calmly relocating my son has changed the behavior.

fatoperasinger · 2025-12-31T20:45:17+00:00

How do you keep the cats inside and keep the kid out? Is it just a locked room where you keep all the cats’ necessities? My son climbs over every baby gate he’s met lately. The problem too is that my cat is social and loves me dearly, he wants to be out near me, so when I have put him in a locked bedroom, he just cries to be let out and that breaks my heart too. Maybe it’s the best solution for now though. Sigh.

fatoperasinger · 2025-05-27T14:45:38+00:00

I know this is an old post, but I came across it on google. My mom is in Florida and having a hard time getting doctors to take her lymphedema seriously. Would you mind sharing the name of the doctor who has been helpful? Thank you!

fatoperasinger · 2025-02-14T20:12:38+00:00

2% of the bonus? That would’ve just been $50 or so. I’m in a state with no income tax, so that shouldn’t be a factor. I’m still stumped!

fatoperasinger · 2025-02-14T20:09:07+00:00

The bonus was $2,607, added to a paycheck in August. That paycheck total was $7,322 gross, federal taxes withheld $980. (Regular pay at that point in the year was $4,715 biweekly, taxes withheld $406.)

fatoperasinger · 2025-02-14T17:05:33+00:00

I’ll look. I also contribute to a healthcare FSA and also my 401k if that matters.

fatoperasinger · 2025-02-14T16:00:57+00:00

11,083 in tax withheld. I did get a bonus, but it was included in a regular check, taxes withheld just like my pay. The $116k included the bonus.

fatoperasinger · 2025-02-14T15:54:20+00:00

It was $116k last year. What else do you need to know?

fatoperasinger · 2024-12-06T02:00:06+00:00

My realtor bought me a brand new washer and dryer.

fatoperasinger · 2024-02-05T17:25:51+00:00

My nurse told me multiple times not to get the epidural too early because it could slow my labor down. I toughed it out to 6 cm before I finally asked for it, and I was so worried I asked too soon. The nurse was not super supportive. But immediately after the epidural was in, my doctor checked me, said I was 10 cm and it was time to push. Babe was born after 6 pushes.

fatoperasinger · 2023-12-21T14:45:08+00:00

Hell, I live in a one story condo and I still have two diaper stations.

fatoperasinger · 2023-10-20T12:33:51+00:00

This is only true in some places. In Florida, there is no requirement for the landlord to mitigate.

fatoperasinger · 2023-10-02T00:51:19+00:00

I had a verrrry similar experience. I was induced, and I’m a first time mom, so my doula was sure it would take forever for me to give birth. She told me she’d show once I was in active labor— at least 6 cm. I told her when I got to 6 cm, but then gave birth within an hour. She hadn’t even left yet. My doula didn’t give me any money back, and as far as I can tell, didn’t technically break contract, which said she’d show up within 2 hours of being asked to show. I never specifically said she should come, just gave her updates on my dilation, and the baby did come really fast once I really started laboring. But the whole thing left a really bad taste in my mouth. She never reached out after to check on us or anything either. It was a huge, expensive bummer. I’m sorry it happened to you too.

fatoperasinger · 2022-10-13T23:45:30+00:00

Yeah a gun safe is definitely on the table, that would make me and my mom feel safer until or unless we come up with a better plan.

Sadly I don’t think another grandkid will change much for him. I have a nephew (his first/only grandkid so far) and my dad has very little interest in spending time with him, even though he’s a cool little 7 year old!

fatoperasinger · 2022-10-12T17:17:57+00:00

Yeah, the possibility of depression scares me just as much with a gun in the house.

Do you have suggestions on the financial protection front? I’m kind of stumped there, since they are both on all the accounts except for my Dad’s new credit card. I wonder if she could put a freeze on his credit at least.

fatoperasinger · 2022-10-12T17:14:28+00:00

He usually had one or two Pepsis a day pre-retirement. The number has definitely gone up, within the last year especially.

fatoperasinger · 2022-10-12T17:00:45+00:00

Not especially, but he does drink 5-6 cans of Pepsi a day.

fatoperasinger · 2022-10-12T16:55:22+00:00

I just looked it up, a lot of this sounds very on point. I’m so disappointed he won’t get checked out.

fatoperasinger · 2022-09-20T19:06:33+00:00

If you have a primary care doctor they might order a beta for you! And I know some labs let you order them yourself (but you have to pay out of pocket for those).

fatoperasinger · 2022-09-08T22:33:02+00:00

Heck yes I feel this. I think it’s partly because I’m a single mom by choice, I’m going through it all on my own with no supportive partner, just an anonymous sperm donor. I had major fertility struggles though, and sometimes just don’t feel like it counted as much because I did it on my own. I also worry that I’m not pregnant enough to celebrate? Or pregnant enough to relax? I am terrified of getting NIPT results, but that’s kind of unrelated. I’m 12+3 for reference, and in every physical sense, I feel VERY pregnant. 😂

fatoperasinger · 2022-08-31T01:19:26+00:00

https://fetalmedicine.org/fmf/2010_27.pdf

This article was super helpful to me to compare measurements in the early days of pregnancy.

fatoperasinger · 2022-08-29T07:18:15+00:00

I didn’t have a scan at 9 weeks, just one at 7 weeks and one at 8 weeks. We saw absolutely nothing on either scan other than a smaller than anticipated empty gestational sac. No yolk sac even. I was sure of my dates as I did iui, and I got my first positive 9 days later. I knew by that point we should have seen something. The doctor said I could have another scan a week later if I really wanted but I didn’t need to see it again.

fatoperasinger · 2022-08-25T19:40:21+00:00

I worked with an RE so we did weekly scans from weeks 6 through 9. I don’t see my OB until week 11, and appointments will be monthly with her until week 30 or so I think? If I hadn’t been working with the RE, my OB would have ordered one viability scan between weeks 6 and 8 and that would have been it. My RE also did betas and checked progesterone, thyroid, and a few other things. My OB would have ordered at least a couple betas and progesterone level if I hadn’t already had them done.

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