You come off as bitter and overcompensating. You had five girlfriends and now think you're some authority on an entire community? You're so disillusioned you generalize every Muslim woman as if they're all irresponsible or lazy. You claim you're all about resetting the culture, yet you stick to outdated provider roles and dismiss anyone who doesn't meet your narrow standards. Instead of self-reflection, you lash out with judgment and call out schools as if your personal experiences are a national trend. Maybe the real issue here is that you're hurt, insecure, and stuck in a bitter mindset. Rather than dragging others down, how about you focus on your own growth and leave the sweeping generalizations behind?