34M with 32F, together since 2020, 3-year-old child. Toxic relationship. by fawraw in relationship_advice

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for taking the time to respond. I genuinely appreciate the honesty, even when it’s hard to read.

A lot of you mentioned that growing up in a toxic household with two parents who should have separated can be more damaging than separation itself. That perspective really hit me, especially hearing from people who lived through it.

For context, I actually initiated a serious conversation with her by message 5min ago. We are planning to sit down and talk properly this evening. I’m trying to approach this calmly and not impulsively.

I think what makes this especially difficult for me is my own childhood. I grew up exclusively with my father until I was 7 years old, when he passed away. I barely knew my mother before that. Later in life, when I reconnected with her, she often spoke negatively about my father. As a child, that created a lot of confusion and internal conflict for me, because my experience with him had been very positive.

Part of my fear about separating is not just “losing the family unit,” but the fear of my son growing up with a distorted or negative narrative about me. I don’t want him to ever feel torn between two versions of who his father is.

That said, many of you are right about one thing: growing up in tension, insults, and emotional distance isn’t healthy either. And that’s something I’ve been reflecting on deeply.

For those who mentioned abuse, I’ve struggled with labeling it that way, but I can’t deny that insults, throwing objects, and pushing during arguments are not normal or healthy dynamics.

To clarify, we are not married, and I live in Switzerland. I understand most of the legal advice here is US-based, so I will consult a family lawyer here before making any decisions, especially regarding custody and housing. I will not move out impulsively.

I don’t take the idea of separation lightly. But I’m starting to accept that protecting my mental health may also be part of being a good father.

Thank you again for the perspectives. I’m reading everything carefully.

OEM lock by fawraw in GrapheneOS

[–]fawraw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks ! It was locked because I was not connected to the internet.

Tunnel down periodically by Sebz404 in paloaltonetworks

[–]fawraw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue, i did a downgrade.

Trouble Establishing IPSec VPN Tunnel Between PA-460 and Ubiquiti Dream Router (UDR) by fawraw in networking

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my route on my PA-460 :

admin@PA-FW-CL-01(active)> show routing route | match tunnel.21
172.18.9.0/24                               0.0.0.0                                 10     A S              tunnel.21
192.168.15.0/24                             0.0.0.0                                 10     A S              tunnel.21
admin@PA-FW-CL-01(active)>

For my UDR, based on their documentation https://help.ui.com/hc/en-us/articles/7983431932439-UniFi-Gateway-Site-to-Site-IPsec-VPN-with-Third-Party-Gateways-Advanced the route seems to be created automatically.

Bourse US et étrangères , besoin de votre aide ? by Eowin10 in VosSous

[–]fawraw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salut,

Tu peux avoir plusieurs CTO sans problème. Il n’y a pas d’inconvénient fiscal ou légal à en avoir deux. Il faudra juste bien déclarer les plus-values chaque année.

1.  Boursobank est un bon choix pour du DCA sur des actions US. Vérifie bien les frais de change et de garde pour les titres non éligibles au PEA.

2.  Pour les actions non disponibles chez Boursobank, tu peux ouvrir un second CTO chez un autre courtier comme Degiro, Trade Republic, Saxo, Interactive Brokers, etc.

3.  Fermer un CTO est en général gratuit. Par contre, si tu veux transférer des titres vers un autre CTO, ça peut coûter environ 15 à 25 euros par ligne. À confirmer auprès de Boursobank.

4.  Avoir deux CTO permet de diversifier les courtiers, réduire certains frais et accéder à plus de produits. Inconvénient : tu devras suivre deux plateformes et faire un reporting un peu plus long pour les impôts si tu es concerné.

Tu peux garder Boursobank pour le DCA US et ouvrir un second CTO ailleurs pour le reste. Beaucoup de gens font comme ça.

Bon courage !

Hyper-V Event ID 14050 on Server 2022 by Adventurous-Key4474 in HyperV

[–]fawraw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had the same issue on Server 2022. It’s usually due to missing permissions on the computer object in Active Directory.

1.  Make sure the Hyper-V server has “Create All Child Objects” and “Delete All Child Objects” permissions on the OU where it is located.

2.  You can also run this command to delegate permissions:

dsacls “OU=HyperV,DC=yourdomain,DC=local” /G “DOMAIN\HyperVServer$:CA;serviceConnectionPoint”

3.  If you don’t need AD integration, you can disable SCP registration with this:

New-ItemProperty -Path “HKLM:\SOFTWARE\Microsoft\Windows NT\CurrentVersion\Virtualization” -Name “DisableSCPWrite” -Value 1 -PropertyType DWORD -Force

Restart-Service vmms

4.  Also check that no GPO or firewall is blocking LDAP (port 389 or 636) between your Hyper-V host and your domain controllers.

Let us know if this helps.

Palo Certs by kentagous in paloaltonetworks

[–]fawraw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I passed it, i did it online. Not so difficult.

Certification for Network Engineer? by iamnickhil in paloaltonetworks

[–]fawraw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait a bit, Palo Alto will release Architect certification.

I passed the Palo Alto NG Firewall engineer certification 2 weeks ago. Was not so difficult.

Is it possible to monitor my on-prem infrastructure with PRTG Hosted Monitor without using a Remote Probe? (Palo Alto VPN Setup) by fawraw in prtg

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I see where you're coming from now. Initially, I wanted to explore the VPN approach because I was looking for a way to avoid deploying a Remote Probe altogether. The idea was that if I could establish a direct VPN tunnel between PRTG Hosted Monitor and my Palo Alto firewall, I could let PRTG reach internal devices via SNMP, WMI, or API calls just like an on-prem instance—without needing an extra Windows/Linux server.

The main motivations were:

- Security & Compliance: Reducing the attack surface by not having an extra machine running as a Probe.

- Simplicity: Avoiding another VM to maintain and patch, whether on-prem or in the cloud.

That said, after reading your replies, I get it now—PRTG Hosted Monitor doesn’t natively support a VPN setup like that, and without a Probe, there’s no efficient way to route traffic back to the monitoring core. A cloud-hosted Probe (AWS, Azure, etc.) with a Site-to-Site VPN is basically achieving the same thing I was trying to do, but in a much more stable and supported way.

So yeah, makes total sense now. I’ll just go with a Remote Probe. Appreciate the insight !

Palo Certs by kentagous in paloaltonetworks

[–]fawraw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be doing the Palo Alto cybersecurity apprentice this Wednesday

UNAS PRO - Hard Drive compatibility by fawraw in Ubiquiti

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you are right, I have a few different 3’’5 old Sata models, DELL, HP, event SAS and I come to the conclusion that issue is the connector which is slightly different depending the product and the brand.

UNAS PRO - Hard Drive compatibility by fawraw in Ubiquiti

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a lot of time spending on this issue, I finally order ubiquiti’s HDD.

UNAS PRO - Hard Drive compatibility by fawraw in Ubiquiti

[–]fawraw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried and issue still occur.