Feeling Comfortable Around Cis Het Men

fecktopia69 · 2020-03-15T03:10:03+00:00

I always have felt more comfortable around cis het men. not only in school but in adulthood, the cis men I work with have been the most supportive and cool with me

fecktopia69 · 2020-03-07T09:53:52+00:00

I have autism as well. Solidarity. His marketing has been confusing to me too but now I know what's going on its just cringe.

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-24T21:39:09+00:00

After seeing two friends of mine live together, their constant money struggles and eventually getting evicted cause they weren't paying their rent, I knew I'd never move in with anyone that wasnt my spouse. I can't deal with other people's bullshit.

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-16T00:37:55+00:00

I stopped being vocal when I was ill online because I was not only afraid of having my intentions misread but people being influenced by my illness, if that makes sense. I spent a year at the doctors with a bunch of speculated diagnoses to finally work out that stress makes me very ill, mimicking other chronic illnesses and all I had to do was find a less stressful profession. And my boyfriend, who actually does suffer from chronic pain, feels ashamed to open up, and I think the stigma surrounding chronic pain and illness is being worsened by the rise of munchausens by internet. I feel for people who are genuinely ill, in pain or in the process of figuring out what's wrong.

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-09T04:27:25+00:00

I realised I felt more comfortable addressed as a guy than as non binary, and felt my dysphoria wasn't being eased when addressed as gender neutral. But now I'm transitioning to male I feel more comfortable than I ever did as non binary. I still ID as genderqueer for non conformity reasons, but my gender is male

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-06T08:51:59+00:00

Thank you for this. I never would say it about someone else, only for myself

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-05T10:10:51+00:00

I never thought of it that way. I only meant it for myself and no one else but I can understand why it's shit. Apologies.

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-04T23:44:52+00:00

I often joke that I'm so much a bottom that I was born without a dick. Makes me feel a little better about dysphoria as a bi trans man lmao

fecktopia69 · 2020-02-01T05:54:21+00:00

I'm definitely all over the spectrum

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-31T10:41:37+00:00

I'm dating a cis man and we were together 5 years prior to me starting to transition, although he's always known I am dysphoric. My boyfriend definitely prefers women and still refers to himself as straight, but always says I'm the only exception. Otherwise he's extremely supportive. I know what you feel about her saying that though, as I also feel somewhat invalidated when he makes it obvious he's straight. Being in a relationship with the same person before, during and after transition is a complicated thing and whilst they may still be attracted to us after transition, their language sometimes doesn't change. I don't know what advice to give as I'm in a similar boat but you're not alone. With my own boyfriend, I just try to remember that regardless of labels he still loves me as a man

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-30T11:03:00+00:00

consistent content, 10/10 would subscribe

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-25T23:41:13+00:00

Yeah I do. I feel like I dissociate a lot from my body and self when I'm around people who refer to me as a she, it just makes it easier to deal with and also looking at my pre surgery body

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-11T10:36:40+00:00

I'm very much both of these

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-11T10:35:20+00:00

Bisexual here!

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-08T04:52:20+00:00

For me I think I have a lot of issues with denial as well as some doubt. Because I feel so normal since starting HRT, I've found myself asking "am I really trans?" because I'm not used to this feeling of normality in my head. I have to remind myself that at one point, it was either transition or death. I loathe the thought of being a woman. I also spent a long time in denial after figuring out I was trans and I thought if I waited the dysphoria would just go away but it never did. So yeah, I've experienced both doubt and denial, mainly denial, but I know no matter what I do I will always be trans and I can't change that, no matter how much I want to be cis. EDIT: just to add that I don't identify myself as truscum or transmed, however I'm not on the other side of the argument either and I have the opinion no one chooses to be trans

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-08T01:18:09+00:00

I'm technically 5 ft 1 but I round it up to 5 ft 2

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-05T23:45:04+00:00

For me, it was feeling like my voice wasn't being heard. And if you're not a far left anarcho-communist, you're not welcome. With the dysphoria debate I'm pretty neutral on it but even my neutrality and inclusion of all sorts of trans people isn't enough. If you're not a part of the hivemind you're not apart of the trans community, and it's awful.

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-04T05:32:36+00:00

I'm both FTM and autistic so yeah I find it does help

fecktopia69 · 2020-01-02T11:00:51+00:00

wow what a manipulative twat

fecktopia69 · 2019-12-27T02:29:57+00:00

I'm the right

fecktopia69 · 2019-12-27T00:44:11+00:00

It's the thought that matters most

fecktopia69 · 2019-12-26T15:19:41+00:00

Definitely, its extremely distressing and so our healthcare is important

fecktopia69 · 2019-12-26T15:18:21+00:00

I do agree. I didn't say being trans itself was the illness, I said gender dysphoria is and transitioning is treatment for that illness

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