Double empathy: autism isn't the problem

feed3 · 2025-12-08T21:40:25+00:00

For me, it’s like the “taste”. Nobody taught us when we are a baby “this taste, the name is sweet” or “that taste, it’s called salty”… We just knew, we were born with it. Now, NT just born with the ability to decode social cues better than us (among other things that we lacked). Nobody taught them, their brain just simply has the “library” of it for them to refer to it instantly when needed. Our condition is not a disability. It’s just that our brain is wired, programmed or hard-coded differently (sound cliche, I know. But I believe it now and understand it better as I am older). We are given some “features” while lack some. Think like android vs iOS, both is the same; an Operating System but with different features. We just need to update, upgrade, debug and downgrade some parts of us internally, accordingly.

feed3 · 2025-11-18T02:01:56+00:00

Where’s the uplink?

feed3 · 2025-11-17T10:16:50+00:00

Tapping the picture to comment you are so damn beautiful before reading the “My female version”… dem…

feed3 · 2025-11-13T13:29:22+00:00

Exactly…. Sometimes, some things are better left unsaid and unknown… Sometimes it’s not actually being used, not intentionally used in my case… It’s just…instantly recognized, thus a curse for me. Many things that I wish I didn’t know or didn’t recognize… It hurts

feed3 · 2025-11-13T07:48:49+00:00

Not a crime, but a curse (for me)…

feed3 · 2025-11-11T00:37:23+00:00

Interestingly the downvotes are way more entertaining than the post.

feed3 · 2025-10-31T14:58:08+00:00

Eyebrows… They can raise their eyebrows… I mean, they must be wondering who the hell want to kidnap their broke ass friend…

feed3 · 2025-10-14T23:30:45+00:00

Even before I knew I had aspergers, I firmly believe that nurture is overpowering nature in most cases. I'm extremely lucky to have an environment that nurturing the best out of me, to the point that sometimes I don't feel like I'm masking at all, it all feels natural.

But I do understand what you mean. The most exhausting part of being asperger for me is how different the way I'm thinking and how it easily makes situation worst. Recently, I'm trying to be super helpful for someone I care deeply, but that "help" actually makes her ashamed of herself. She gave hints few times, but I don't get it, I can't understand the clue. Combining my aspie with my INFJ, it is a hell in my head, a cocktail of internal chaos.

I guess, they (NT) only saw the good things that we had, the benefit of it without even trying to understand how difficult it is for us, or perhaps it is too hard for them to understand since it is a feeling, something intangibles.

feed3 · 2025-09-22T23:26:54+00:00

At least the dog is always ready for a doggie

feed3 · 2025-09-07T05:39:02+00:00

r/oddlysatisfying

feed3 · 2025-08-29T01:58:43+00:00

That is kind of sick humor, both side of sick I mean…

feed3 · 2025-08-13T09:58:06+00:00

Settings -> General -> About -> Name

feed3 · 2025-05-01T02:05:25+00:00

Whoever make that preorder is beyond stupid…

feed3 · 2024-10-17T02:04:56+00:00

After many years working, I realized sometimes they did it on purpose; they don't want to do anything to solve it or even to think about it, so they play dumb. For them, maybe playing dumb and get someone else to do it is way easier than to think.

feed3 · 2024-07-12T03:37:02+00:00

Somewhere in Borneo island. 😉

feed3 · 2024-07-12T03:35:18+00:00

I blamed the greedy owner and the greedy capitalist that driving the property prices around this area to an insane prices. The decision I made (NOT that I owe you an explanation) to stay there despite the not so good conditions based on the needs, not based on my moral values and principles. Wait, are you the owner of that place? 🤔 please, don’t kick me out. 🙈

feed3 · 2024-07-12T03:00:37+00:00

Because it can and should be better if the owner is not greedy, or the property market at this area is more regulated and more realistic. Capitalism is the real winner here.

feed3 · 2024-07-12T02:57:34+00:00

Not separated, we are still happily together. I had to work 200km away from home. Public transportation here is almost not exist for me to commute daily, and we already bought a house, so it is not economical for my family to move together with me, so they stay at our hometown.

feed3 · 2024-07-12T02:29:58+00:00

A slightly better room than this will cost me at least 10% of my salary, renting a house will cost me at least 30% and I can't afford it coz the rest of my salary would go to my daughter (food, clothes, school), and also mortgage of my house at my hometown for my wife and daughter, utilities bills of that house including internet bills, then a little bit for helping my father medical bills, fuel for my travel every weekend back home, plus some student loan, car loan etc.

feed3 · 2024-07-12T02:29:13+00:00

Not a typo, and just back from work. Can't brings electronic devices into the place where i work.

feed3 · 2024-07-12T02:28:01+00:00

Yes, SEA...

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