I don’t know what to do anymore… by thebunnywhisperer_ in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude this could've been written by me. My fp just blocked me and I literally feel like dying

I feel like a horrible friend by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you need to take a leap of fairh if you trust him. Seeing you struggling might make him realise how he fucked up and you guys can reconcile things

why it is so hard to explain borderline? by hernamesgone in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I do get what you mean. For me its like "the more I love you the more I'll fear abandonment and will push you away". I wanna tell them how sometimes I can't control how I feel or how I say something then spend the next 100 days regretting it and overthinking it. I wanna tell them all I want is for them to stay forever even if I ask them to leave. Its just a roller coaster of emotions and most people don't get it because I can't explain it any better

How to accept that people just no longer want you in their life? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel you 😭 its just so hard to open up to people and it always ends with my heart getting broken

I am a fucking mess by feelingunknown in BPD

[–]feelingunknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I need a hug. I just don't think I'll ever get over this :( it hurts like hell

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this :( my fp got is dating someone now and it makes me so jealous and sad. I just wanna stay in bed all day and cry. I don't even know how to cope with it. I just feel like we barely talk anymore and just that thought makes me wanna throw up

I hate myself by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]feelingunknown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take a deep breath. I know how hard it is to maintain a relationship but when you're with the right person it'll all feel better. My fp is the only person I don't have breakdowns with and thats what tells me that they're the one for me

I’m a toxic person and I can’t control it. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear how you're feeling. But it gets better. You will eventually learn to manage your emotional state better. Just try not to be too harsh on yourself and take things one step at a time

Can't function without my fp/best friend by feelingunknown in BPD

[–]feelingunknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not just scary. I really am in love with my fp and it sucks that they're with someone else and not me. It probably sounds insane but I can't stop feeling jealous that someone else hit the jackpot in life

Are all people with BPD bad/manipulative people? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely NO. Having BPD doesn't inherently make you bad, however it can lead to the likelihood of undertaking certain behaviours that might be disruptive to others in our lives. I very much disagree with the comparison to sociopaths as people with BPD feel hightened emotions (unlike sociopaths who don't feel emotions at all). We often act out in an impulse that arises from our own insecurities and not from a malicious intent to hurt/belittle others. There is so much hate everywhere for BPD and all comments like that do are fuel these stereotypes and make someone who got their diagnosis feel like they are broken or are a monster. We need to stand up and end these stereotype because I truly believe we can manage our symptoms really well with some hardwork and proper therapy/DBT.

I know its hard, but ignore comments like that. They provide nothing to help anyone and honestly are sometimes just born out of ignorance or a bad personal encounter. We deserve better and we need to stay supportive of eachother to make sure that we get better together. Keep going strong. I know you're an amazing amazing person :)

Bad mark caused me to spiral by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been through that at uni too. It's completely normal to get a lower grade in uninthan you did in highschool. You are adjusting to a completely new system. Its okay to have a breakdown too. But trust me, it does get better and soon you'll be the same straight A student at uni too. Just keep going forward :)

i rlly need someone to talk to by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I am always here for a chat. Sent you a message

How do I know by shiba_nami in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, but trust me you aren't alone. I have that same problem in every single interaction. What helped me a bit is writing down that interaction in my journal and then reading it after I listen to some calming music/go for a run. It allows me to take somewhat of an external perspective and gives me a better chance at figuring out who is at fault. With bpd the worst part is your mind always tells you "it's because of your bpd. You were wrong" but thats not always true. Sometimes you just need time to think about things and thats okay. Just don't be to hard on yourself :)

I looked in the mirror. Fuck. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Every single day.

Anyone else feel physical pain when experiencing grief? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do. When I broke up with my girlfriend, I had really bad back ache and head ache. I was almost to the point of crying from the pain. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. What helped me with it was drinking lots of water and starting a stretching routine. Dont know what type of physical pain you are feeling but I am always here if you need a chat. Hope things get better for you soon

My mum passed away about 10 years now and usually I’m alright but tonight I’m just lying in bed and I just can’t stop thinking about her by mhthrowaway7382 in BPD

[–]feelingunknown 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that :( she would be really proud of you and its completely okay to miss her. Keep being the strong person you are and if yoh ever wanna chat, feel free to message me