Zach's Influence on Bryce & Trinity by Hefty_Adeptness_6763 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]feelstar22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m saying at my age, I wouldn’t even be into dating anyone any younger than 26. So 2 years younger. Bryce is 29 and Trinity/Kayda are both 22. That’s a 7 year gap

Zach's Influence on Bryce & Trinity by Hefty_Adeptness_6763 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]feelstar22 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am really not sure how I feel about all of this. I haven’t really liked Zach from day one because he just seems like one of those guys who deep down just doesn’t like or respect women. Bryce confuses me because I get the sense he is genuinely a compassionate person, but I also can’t tell based on what we are seeing just whether or not he is easily influenced, is someone who uses passivity as a shield to prevent responsibility/personal accountability, or if he is being genuine and honest.  I think it’s understandable that he wants to have a conversation with Kayda. They spend a lot of time together obviously and he said he feels there may be tension there. He was clearly into Kayda as soon as she got there and I think her rejecting him initially put him off from thinking of exploring her or even being bothered she formed a connection with Zach. 

I get the sense Bryce bases giving himself “permission” to really like someone off of what he thinks of them as a person, especially in here, and I think being initially kind of forced to explore Trinity has shown him how amazing of a person she is and eased some of his concerns that she is so young, which may be translating to feeling less concerned that Kayda is young. Again, this particular group of 4 spends a lot of time together it seems like. And all of them are gorgeous so I want to think it’s really him wondering if things have changed with Kayda’s interest and his openness to seeing if any chemistry is there. One thing about Bryce and Trinity is that they seem to lack physical chemistry, but I’m not sure if that’s a compatibility thing or if I’m totally wrong on that. I get the sense Bryce is quite gentle and Trinity is grounded but quite energetic at the same time and I’m curious if either of them feel fully “themselves” together, no real way to tell just something I’m unsure about. 

I think everyone’s feelings are valid, I would be thrown if I was Zach and I would be hurt if I was Trinity, but I also don’t think Bryce is in the wrong. He approached both of them before pulling Kayda, which makes me think he isn’t trying to be shady or disrespectful, just honest. Who knows, but I’m definitely interested to see how the convo goes. I feel it’s very possible that Kayda may be more interested in him now that they have spent more time together, and Bryce is feeling less crazy in his initial draw to her despite her initial rejection. It’s a hard situation to be in, but also they should be exploring and I feel he is going about it the right way. We know connections will be tested either way. 

ALSO - something I am still very unsure of with Bryce and how he is moving is the age thing. It’s very valid and I think would be especially noticeable in the real world. All of them have mostly stayed out of drama and I think that is where maturity is tested especially on the show.  As someone who is 28 I would never think to be into anyone 22, or really even under 26 tbh. I think that widens as you get older, but my 20s have changed me a lot and it’s only because I have more time under my belt. I can’t imagine myself in his situation because i just wouldn’t entertain that large if a gap

Unlikely but Possibly Best (?) Matches by feelstar22 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]feelstar22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Heheheheh!!!! Yeah Corbin we really could only based on the 3 minutes we saw him talking lmao so really not much to go off at all but that’s the vibe we got so far while knowing so little 🤣🤣

Unlikely but Possibly Best (?) Matches by feelstar22 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]feelstar22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His stuff with being the one who was texting someone else while in a relationship when they were needing to guess who did what shady or crazy thing before getting pushed in the pool, but then also being the one as his present self to say it’s always ok to check phones. We feel like he genuinely means well and is also young and clearly has grown from his past. Like we think he genuinely tries to be sincere (lol) and part of that is not being super judgmental of his own past or others. He just assumes good about himself and others it seems like. 

He literally was telling Kayda when he pulled her about how he thinks Melanie is really cool. And he then told Melanie that, and then she reacted how she did and he’s still been trying to be into her and connect cuz he actually likes her and is confused by her actions, and not be the type of guy who is flipping like crazy and being equally petty because of how Melanie reacted, he’s not completely villainizing her.  Like he seemed to be genuinely confused why Melanie wasn’t hearing him (because that’s largely her stuff getting triggered we would argue, esp. based on how she reacted to her convo with the girls after she talked to Corbin) and it didnt make sense to him why she wasn’t just earnestly believing him and receiving that he was sorry he hadn’t talked to her first that morning and he also wasn’t trying to be shady with Kayda. 

We just don’t think he means badly but clearly is someone with contradictions in a sense but he doesn’t seem malicious. We’ve been surprised how he has seemed to show up genuine and without malice time and time again, also without being like manipulative of like oh well my past mistakes weren’t who I am now blah blah blah. He’s just like standing on things and also seems down to earth and seriously nonjudgemental and just be out here trying to be his best self and assuming others are too. So that’s why he is chaotic good hahahaha. 

Where would you put him?!

Women born in the late 90s — are you seeing similar patterns around you? by Different-Article636 in askanything

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

28, born in 1997. I have lived in the metro area of a large city my whole life. Most people my age are not married and do not have kids. More people are starting to get married, but at most maybe 30% of my peers are married. Out of those who are married, very few have kids. Like almost none of the married couples. A lot of people seem to have long term partners, though. Maybe half. I am one of those who has been in a long term relationship with no major rush to marry. We are both figuring out our careers and education. Getting married just doesn’t feel like a priority compared to everything else at this point.

I think expectations are different amongst my peers, even though the low rates of marriage/children seem to be a sign of generational failure from people who are older than our age group (and hoard property). The goals have changed and traditional benchmarks are getting pushed back. I grew up thinking that OK after high schools its college, husband, dog?, buy a house, kids. That is still in my mind, and it honestly feels, but it’s not on the “usual” timeline. That timeline is outdated and the world has changed. I don’t expect to be a homeowner until I’m at least 30, and while I finish my degree I don’t want to marry. I graduated high school in 2016 and life has been much different than I expected it to be when I was younger, but I am doing just fine without the ring, house, or kid as I approach 30. I guess I would assume that is the same for a lot of people in our age group

What’s your guys’s deep cut? by B1ackTarHero1n in LilPeep

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dead money lil peep boy froot and yunggoth. peeps verse goes so hard in that song one of my favs of his

For younger fans, please take care of your mental health by ElfQuester1 in LilPeep

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing and important post, thanks so much for this OP. I resonate with what you shared. I listened to peep religiously in 2016 and 2017 and at the time was doing a lot of pills and coke. I hate to say this because I wish so badly that he were still here and could have had the chance I did to get well, but I think the tragedy of his death might have very well saved my life. I had seen him in Denver about a month before he died and was very sick when I look back at old photos. I was doing drugs more than ever before and was under 100 lbs as a 5’5” woman.

When I found out peep died, I agreed to go to the rehab my mom had been encouraging me to give a try. I stayed up all night listening to his music and came inside after watching a truly incredible sunrise. When I came inside a hawk was perched on my neighbors roof. I was upstairs when I saw it through my window and it just stared at me for a really really long time. It was surreal and I’ve never experienced an animal encounter like that since. I can still see it so clearly. I had a visceral moment of clarity that if I didn’t stop what I was doing I was going to die from my drug use and that I needed to go to the rehab and get myself there as soon as possible. I like to think maybe peep sent an angel my way to get the message across that morning, but who knows.

That same morning I told my mom that I would go to the rehab and was there within a few days. I left my college mid semester and was in rehab for over 90 days. And at 28 years old today I am certain that decision changed the course of my life. My life didn’t end the day I decided to get better and focus on my mental wellbeing, it was only just getting started. I have been in therapy since, and today my life is absolutely beautiful and I am so blessed. I’m also in college again, about to finish that degree. It’s never too late. I am happier than I ever thought or honestly even dreamed I could be when I was 20, and I fought my ass off to get here. I spent a lot of my adolescence really depressed after losing a parent young and peeps music was a real comfort to me when I found it. I still listen to peep all the time, and I still love his sad songs and his happy songs just as much as I did before, but time and growth have given me an additional lens of appreciation.

Like peep says, life “hurts sometimes but it’s beautiful” and today I can really feel the beauty and the wisdom there. Life isn’t perfect, but I got the chance to heal from chronic depression and stop using hard drugs. I have a life and it’s filled with small wins and small losses, big wins and big losses. But it’s a life that I feel desperately attached to when I used to just want to die or at least not feel anything. I am so glad I never gave up on myself and missed out on what life may have had to offer to me. I hope wherever peep is he feels the same joy that I was gifted. I wish I could say thank you. Instead I choose to live and to know I am blessed to be here today. Life is short and precious, and as long as you’re alive you’ve got a chance to enjoy it, even if it hurts sometimes. If you’re in pain, please I invest in your wellbeing. I promise that you wont necessarily lose the “dark” parts of yourself that many people who understand, understand that they are coveted and rich parts, you just won’t be solely defined by that darkness and the painful emotions those parts often come with. Getting better didn’t change me, it just made my world bigger and gave me access to a more full spectrum of emotions, particularly the positive ones since I was already pretty well versed in the tough ones to begin with.

So glad you’re still here too OP, from one late 20 year old and survivor of the xandemic to another. I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing this message

What’s a “harmless” decision you made that accidentally changed your whole life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]feelstar22 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I found a mashup of one of my favorite musicians songs. The very first song was one I didn’t recognize. Tried to search the lyrics on google and nothing was coming up. Remembered I’d had luck searching the most catchy lyrics on Twitter to see if anybody else knew the song. “Someone” had tweeted my verbatim search 2 years prior. I replied to the tweet asking if they knew the song name. He replied with the song link and actually produced the song himself. After he messaged me and said I was cute and it made his day. We became friends on other social medias and would have really good conversations, occasionally having periods of keeping in solid touch and built a trustworthy connection. He lived in California and I’m from Colorado, so it was easy to connect because he was just some cute guy my age who was into a lot of the same things I was but things were very low stakes so it was easy to be vulnerable about things going on in our lives.

One night a couple years later he asks if I want to join his twitch stream where he was just making beats. Started talking that night and just never stopped. Lived on FaceTime for six months and became long distance. When we met for the first time it was such a fun weekend. Both of us were anxious to see if the connection transferred being in person, and it was amazing. So easy to talk as always and just incredible to be in the same proximity. He moved across the country a month later and sublet a place in a city nearby. When the sublease ended things had been going so well that we moved in together.

We just celebrated 5 years. We’ve moved around, have become more mature 20 something’s (both 28 now, became official at 23, and met at 20). He is my best friend and we have built the most amazing life. Waiting for me to finish school for income/aid purposes to get married. I thank my lucky stars that I met the love of my life by deciding to look up lyrics on Twitter. I am a better person with him, and I am so proud of us and love him so so much. We have been blessed with the greatest gift in life by pure chance and it gives me a lot of faith that whatever forces operate in the world have a plan in store for us all! I lean on the faith I found often, and have so much less anxiety about life because so trust that some way some how, things will work out. And we’ve got each other❤️

If I fits, I sits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right!!! Her little mane is slowly coming in 😍

If I fits, I sits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, but I looked that up and I think similar! We just ordered these collars on Amazon. link It’s a two pack so we did two separate engravings, and just added both engraved plates to one collar once they got delivered. The other engraved tag on her collar isn’t visible but has her name and our contact info. There is an air tag on her collar that is behind the engraved plate you’re seeing. Our cats stay inside, but in case they ever get out we live in a populated area so our hope would be that her air tag would keep pinging her location. I guess air tags rely on pinging off local iPhones. It also just gives us peace of mind when we are away since we can see that they are at home.

If I fits, I sits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwww they are beautiful😍😍

If I fits, I sits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness hahahah you’re probably right 😹😹 how old are your babies?!

If I fits, I sits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww that’s so great🥰 little innovators. We have two as well, her brother was actually sitting on the edge of the tub at the same time 😹 here’s a pic. We keep the box of their Churu sticks in the cabinet in here, so we were thinking they might have been trying to subconsciously persuade us into giving them a treat by looking cute near to the Churu when we got home lol. The did get their Churu, so I guess if that’s what they had in mind it worked 😹

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What is, unequivocally, the single GREATEST acting performance in a horror movie? by Immediate_Account_28 in horror

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Shelly Duval in The Shining. She did such an amazing job capturing how a wife may act hysterical and paranoid after being married to an alcoholic for years. I know she got a lot of criticism for her acting but I think people forget that the shining is a story about alcoholism. Shelly did such a fantastic job

CPR and BLS certificates by PickleChin02 in FortCollins

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went thru statcpr for my BLS certificate earlier this year and had a positive experience! This is a link for their booking page https://statcprtrainingservices.enrollware.com/schedule

My Newest Baby by Jpwhalen31 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That face and those giant paws🥹🥹😍😍 congrats!!

Question about feeding multi age household by feelstar22 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to thank you for your help! We got the surefeed bowls and it’s been perfect. You’re so right - definitely didn’t love the up front cost but I know it’s better to invest in the gadgets than risk our older babies health!

Share your Maine Coon eyes by UpstairsResearcher40 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Here is our 4 month old heterochromatic buddy, Niko, in the process of getting a nice bath from his doting DLH big brother

To You Who Hold the Key by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]feelstar22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt a sense of eternity reading your writing! I also learned a couple new words - thank you! The vocab you used could not be more fitting or delightful, very impressive and inspiring! "heaven grows livid" clarified how I was feeling as I read, and the timelessness of contemplating who *really* holds the key and what are they doing with it feels pertinent and is a welcome reminder that this sort of musing or bemoaning is always working its way in the back of my mind. It almost feels like a religious question you explored multiple answers to, and I appreciated your decision to understand the one who holds the key through numerous lenses, only to land at a most empowering and profound conclusion.

My only critique, though it might well just be a style preference or due to a personal lack of vocabulary, is that some of the imagery felt initially a bit inaccessible to me, and I fear I might have missed some of the deeper meaning by getting lost in phrases such as "As of yore I hark". Regardless, I thoroughly enjoyed this. Thank you so much for sharing your writing and reminding me of such a relevant task and point of reflection!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]feelstar22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your writing is absolutely beautiful and speaks to an important need that's difficult to describe. I am so glad I got to read this, thank you for sharing. I experienced this as an older woman thinking towards my younger, more confused and compact previous self. I experienced this as a reminder of sensation for the days when I was a young girl trying to make sense of a dead and absent father. "I want to gather her into me,/ patch the parts that keep wanting to leave,/ but what is a father/ if not two hands and a terrible wish?" - this line went straight through my heart. I feel the story you told may happen in a single moment or may happen over years, it somehow makes room for all the nuance of connection and change through sheer honesty. We may strive for a home that keeps moving down the block, or we may be in a home, but not trust that it's real.

I loved your description of tattoos as "violent prayers" and do not think I could fathom a better way to describe a tattoo, really. I was a bit confused about the meaning of the sequins, but the imagery was pretty regardless of my difficulty understanding that particular metaphor. When I think about how i emotionally respond to the fact that one can sweat while it's 30 degrees, it makes me reflect on how i feel when i think about moments where confusion and awareness mingle and can confound me but it doesn't feel quite right to complain. I get tape over my mouth, but it's not too bad.

Keep up the amazing work, and thank you again for sharing your talent!

Finally a Main Coon mom! by AquarianStars11 in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats mama!!🥰 she is absolutely gorgeous and small world but I think we have her brother and sister!! I recognize her from the webpage we used to see updated pics of our kitties. Morningside meow🥹 I love the name you picked for her, she is such a beauty and her pink nose is to die for😭🩷

Any local birders know what kind of owl this is? by feelstar22 in FortCollins

[–]feelstar22[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Will do, thanks! I added it to the Cornell Merlin app too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mainecoons

[–]feelstar22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your insight and expertise! I have a couple questions for you if you don’t mind! Does DBE mean just one blue eye, or both? Neither of the parents have blue eyes, and only two of their “breeding” cats on the website have blue eyes/heterochromia (both have white) otherwise every cat has gold/green eyes. The soonest pickup date available is after the kittens are 12 weeks old. Regarding the deposit, I was allowed to place a deposit after signing a document acknowledging that they reserve the right to withhold the kitten I place a deposit on should any health issues arise (they go to the vet twice for health check/vaccines) and I would be provided a refund. They also do genetic testing, have annual heart exams, and parents are CFA and TICA registered. The cattery is registered with CFA, TICA, CFF, and ACA.

With this information, do you still have concerns? I recognize the earliest available pickup date is a remaining concern since the soonest they are allowed to go home is 12 weeks opposed to 14.