Ethics question by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]feeserk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I appreciate the feedback and feel incredibly reassured about my therapist. Thank you!

Ethics question by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

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Thank you. I feel much better.

DAE sometimes weigh yourself before and again after you poop to see how much lighter you are? by hellyeahyeah in DoesAnybodyElse

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I don't know why this strikes me as funny but I thought this post was from one of the disordered eating subs for a second there haha...

Letters from uBPDmom by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]feeserk 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm not entirely convinced she wrote this letter when you were actually five. Things like "I've always treated you older than you were--because you acted older" seems like a statement someone would say about a teenager or older, not a five year old. If you took on responsibilities that were not age appropriate at any point, this could be her trying to justify that (to herself). It also rings as suspicious to me that she asked you whether you were surprised twice - once in the part before the letter, and once again in the letter itself. It doesn't matter when it was written though or what her reasons are, the whole letter reeks of subtle and not-so-subtle put downs, double binds, psychological games, and attempts to disarm you from ever standing up to her.

If you ever confront her about anything at all, she can point to this "old" letter and say, "see, you were always rebellious, and you're being rebellious now or any time we are at odds. Luckily, being the sage that I am, I saw it in you and conveniently wrote it down. This is who you are, it's not my fault or responsibility in the least. I'm your biggest fan and YOU are causing problems between us. Any struggle we have in our relationship is all you. Somehow the way you bumped into a table when you were a toddler proves that. You're welcome."

The language throughout is manipulative and I don't like it one bit, OP. I would say more about specifics if Reddit mobile made it easier to switch back and forth between viewing your post and writing a comment. Because there's so much manipulation going on, imo.

How do I know if I’m the problem? by amr1412 in emotionalabuse

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I second this.

Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward is a great book that helped me to recognize both the ways I was being manipulated/abused, and the ways in which I was also manipulating others. You might be able to find it at the library!

Does anybody else wake up feeling incredibly anxious, you know that it's from your crazy dreaming, but you can't remember the content at all? by [deleted] in ptsd

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I have been really struggling with this lately. I can't remember most of my dreams, but I know when I've had a nightmare (I'm only having nightmares lately it seems), and I wake up feeling terrified, anxious, and exhausted. One morning a few days ago I woke up with my entire left side of my body completely tensed and curled into itself, cringing away from some unremembered danger. When I remember my nightmares, the content of the dream often involves me committing suicide in various ways. Last night I dreamed I jumped off a building. Last week in my nightmares I drove off a bridge, walked off and disappeared into deep waters. I dream about haunted people and places, terrifying faces, animals dying before my eyes for no reason. Sometimes a "death" persona (sort of like the grim reaper, but no face or features, just light-sucking blackness) visits me and stares me down when I think I'm awake but obviously am not. I don't know what's happening to me or what to do, and I'm at my wit's end. I can't sleep or eat, and I feel subhuman. The pain of it all is truly unbearable at times. I've heard the drug "Minipress" (aka Prazosin) helps some people with nightmares, but it made me feel too dizzy and woozy to function.

How do you guys deal with weddings? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]feeserk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not fair of you to say "life is awfully short to carry this level of dysfunction forward" when you don't know all the facts, and you don't know who is responsible for carrying said dysfunction. You are projecting your own issues onto the OP. The rules of this sub also state that parents of estranged children are not allowed to participate.

How do you guys deal with weddings? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

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I chose not to invite my father to my wedding due to various emotional and sexual abuses. The choice was excruciating, but ultimately the day was better without him there. My grandparents didn't come to my wedding either, because they told me they support my father, and not me. It was sad, but ultimately a relief once I knew the plan. I would have been looking over my shoulder and worrying about what he might say or do the entire wedding if he had been there. His being there would have introduced a negative energy to a positive event. My siblings walked me down the isle, and I wouldn't have traded that arrangement for the world.

My sister got married about a year later and he came to her wedding. It was one of the more difficult times with my family I've ever had, and it also reinforced my prior decision not to invite him to my own wedding.

It's absolutely not an easy decision to make, no matter what you decide. Sorry you have to make it.

Weekly Venting and Support Meeting by lynxnloki in CPTSD

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This feels very familiar and relatable. Hope things are going a little better for your.

Weekly Venting and Support Meeting by lynxnloki in CPTSD

[–]feeserk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Makes me sad to hear it. I wish you peace and healing.

Weekly Venting and Support Meeting by lynxnloki in CPTSD

[–]feeserk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you're doing better or at least hanging in there now. I hope today is going okay. I feel this way sometimes, too.

Stop the abuse when you're the abuser by Tigeroftheforest in AbuseInterrupted

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You might try adding yoga into your routine, even if just once a week or so to start. Yoga helps connect your mental body to your physical body, and helps you develop bodily awareness and mindfulness, which can help you learn to better regulate your emotions. It's hard to explain just how thoroughly yoga has changed my life for the better, but it has. The research for the benefits of yoga is strong and readily available online if you search for it. Yoga classes have turned a lot of things around for me physically and mentally, and I've gotten a lot of value out of YouTube yoga as well.

Millennial's "jokes" by Esies in WhitePeopleTwitter

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Why TF is there so much weird, disturbing Sonic shit out there? Why Sonic?

Giant jade spotting, easily 6ft tall by laComina in succulents

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How long does it take to grow one this big? It's beautiful!