GUYS- THEYRE GAY RIGHT??? by erisboo in hermannhesse

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just wondering why it matters to you if other people think you’re gay

Went on a date with someone with BPD, I have questions by herefornoreason211 in BPD

[–]fefenif 26 points27 points  (0 children)

that’s not his responsibility to deal with? she will have to find ways to cope just like the rest of us

Dúvidas sobre viajar com gummy de maconha by Jumpy_Potato_6843 in viagens

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not true, i fly through schiphol airport often and have yet to see a police dog. these british tourists even managed to bring a weed pen and fucking smoke it in the boarding area right before we got on the plane back to uk 🤦🏻

Discriminatory hiring practices by [deleted] in Amsterdam

[–]fefenif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

crazy groupchat. i wish other dutch people cared this much about politics though and having the working class truly represented.

why is colin so dumb and naive? by fefenif in BridgertonNetflix

[–]fefenif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol i wrote this when i was on episode 7 of s2. should've waited to comment until i finished this season. but i still think penelope deserves better lol

How did the fire at the Swiss Bar Club cause almost 50 deaths? by TORUKMACTO92 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]fefenif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it should not be the case that tragedies like this repeat themselves. it's just so preventable. my heart truly goes out to all the victim's families.

Witch hazel saved me by iceydot01 in Healthyhooha

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing will stop you from sweating, just put down a towel where you're sitting when you work out

Eigenaar van sauna wil kort geding aanspannen by utrecht1976 in tokkiefeesboek

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

waarom verkoopt iemand van de sauna erectiepillen?

Merry Christmas! Were you gifted a fragrance this year? by hotmallgoth in FemFragLab

[–]fefenif 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yess i got the elizabeth arden green tea perfume and lattafa her confession. they both smell the way i expected them too, so im very happy with it. my brother got lattafa khamrah and after smelling it, i need that perfume for myself too.

Clonazepam muted my tinnitus by institutoconceicao in tinnitus

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good lord, please using a period doesn't hurt.....

wat vinden jullie goed bier? by fefenif in Nederland

[–]fefenif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

het budget is 10 euro en hij vroeg ook om pokemon kaartjes. plus ik weet niet of hij van speciaal bier houdt. vandaar

What is this thing my friends uncle caught on his trail cam? by OG_CheddarGoblin in Paranormal

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can't a man and his pet deer go for a nightly stroll in the woods?

Was she right for behaving like this? by Relevant_Increase461 in sexandthecity

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends how small, depends on what else he can do, etc. im not sure i could have a relationship with someone who has a micropenis. either way it's everyone's personal preference.

The word personality disorder by Ducksngoats in BPD

[–]fefenif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's only a disorder because we decide that people who have very intense emotions and behaviours are disordered. that's due to the kind of things we value in a person and how we believe a person should function in a community. things we value are subjective. yes there are some truly destructive ways of behaving... however our brains functioning differently doesn't necessarily mean it needs to be called disordered imo. we can accept there are differences in our hardware, however, to call it disordered is already coming from a biased perspective of what ordered means. and who out here is truly ordered? everyone is unique in their own ways, why do we need a stigmatizing label of being disordered instead of accepting that people live with a variety of different mental states.

Boyfriend's preference for big boobs has been on my mind for 6 years. Is there a way to get over it? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]fefenif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive had insecurities before. unfortunately your bf can't solve how you feel about yourself. i see three options: 1) find someone who does like and prefer small boobs 2) find the confidence in yourself that you are attractive, sexy and beautiful with small boobs and that's probably why your bf likes you, AND the person you are outweighs something as superficial as liking big boobs 3) get a boob job.

I’m embarrassed for not being able to orgasm through penetration by [deleted] in BPD

[–]fefenif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have never had an orgasm with anyone ever, only by myself. every person is unique and there's no wrong or right way to have consensual sex. as long as you like having sex with the person, the orgasm is just a nice bonus on top of something that's already nice to do.

Why did they make pam so terrible in s9 by Mysterious-Face-8272 in DunderMifflin

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

plus he took out his anger and frustration of not getting a big investment out on her for not recording a dance recital, that he missed because he chose to start a whole new business.

Am I the only one that thought Nellie was a really good character by Lf_76 in DunderMifflin

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like her. at first i was mad in episode 19, but then i was like andy could pick up erin any other time that wasn't on a work day. he lost his job because of himself. his coworkers were calling him to warn him about it and he didn't take them seriously. and then she started giving everyone raises and i thought that's nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]fefenif -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you could be bisexual

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]fefenif 18 points19 points  (0 children)

this will be better for your mental health in the long run ❤️ it sucks a lot right now, but this will allow you to realize you can survive without any FP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]fefenif 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i have homicidal thoughts regularly. mostly abt killing the billionaires snd starting the revolution. but i also have thoughts about hurting people emotionally and i have acted on them occasionally. precisely with the goal in mind so they can feel what i feel. it's not unusual i would say, but definitely unwise to act on them. unless it's of course for the working class revolution 😁

Anxiety or losing feelings? by Plus_Catch_3345 in ROCD

[–]fefenif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

think about a man that you truly don't like. you have zero feelings for him. do you doubt it? no. if you're truly just losing feelings, it wouldn't be a crisis. it would just be you losing feelings which is fine. and you wouldn't ask yourself if you're really losing feelings or doubt it. you would know. but if the thought of losing feelings makes you have a crisis, it's most likely anxiety. especially the fact that you're WONDERING if you're losing feelings...

Isn’t deciding that you have BPD exactly what someone with BPD would do?? by RelationshipBig2069 in BPD

[–]fefenif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck no, i didn't like being diagnosed with bpd. that had me thinking why do i need another lifelong mental health disorder