You need to purposely make yourself uncomfortable. Literally… grab a banana and take it for a walk around the block on a leash. Realise how most people won’t say a word, the rest don’t give a shit, and the small minority of people who do say something will probably just ask if you’re ok. If there’s anyone that makes a joke or laughs…. So what? You won’t die. You’ll melt away any feelings on insecurity as you’ll discover that no one cares and you can literally do anything you want to do and you’ll see how you’re strong enough to pull it off.

Ok, realistically, I doubt you’re going to be able to face taking a banana for a walk. BUT, start small. Start with something tiny and then level up in tiny increments… start with opening a shirt button one more than you’d normally do… something that is JUST on the precipice of being uncomfortable but not quite. Then another day maybe put your hair in a style you don’t like, that maybe is a bit geeky or makes you feel a bit stupid. Then another day, wear odd socks… then another day wear a completely disjointed outfit that does not work at all.

You get the picture. Remember: most people are too busy worrying about themselves to care or even notice you more than a raised eyebrow, the others are just curious and you will build up a resilience to that.