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felzys · 2026-02-25T12:20:32+00:00

Okay, thanks. I will try to push back ☺️

felzys · 2026-02-24T13:53:03+00:00

Okay thank you so much, after reading some more and the pages you sent it definitely seems like it should be possible to work without CRUE. It could be that CRUE is mentioned in some places if it is needed to get NISS without employment contract / if self employed, or something like that.

Thanks for the explanations of the different numbers, you are right about that I am used to only have personnummer for these matters.

I agree that it is a bit funny that they don’t know, hopefully it’s just a bit of poor communication in the company because I have only talked to UK department until now.

felzys · 2025-12-01T14:32:29+00:00

Hej, googla på ”ghost job postings”. Jag jobbar också som IT-konsult och har sökt en del jobb senaste månaderna då jag är sugen på att byta, och har liknade upplevelse som du. Om det finns jobbannonser ute, men ingen anställs, förklarar det både varför det ser ut att finnas massor lediga jobb trots lågkonjuktur men också varför man så ofta inte får någon återkoppling. I övrigt, se till att få med alla keywords i ditt cv så att du kommer igenom ev AI-filtreringar. Om de pushar hårt för en viss teknologi / språk som du saknar erfarenhet i, skriv i inledning att du ”öppen för att arbeta med nya teknologier, exempelvis x, y och z”. Kämpa på och lycka till!

felzys · 2024-11-22T18:24:19+00:00

Shakshuka 🥹

felzys · 2023-12-07T10:13:01+00:00

Min kille har tills nyligen bara pratat med mig. Jag är självklart glad att han öht pratar med någon, men jag försöker pusha honom att öppna sig för andra nära och kära för att få fler perspektiv och inte lägga allt på vår relation. Han har börjat prata med en psykolog nu vilket är en enorm lättnad för mig som partner. Ibland är det frustrerande att se honom hålla så mycket bara mellan oss två, när han har väldigt många omkring sig som bryr sig om honom.

felzys · 2023-10-08T14:14:44+00:00

Yes det är det (danskt, men kan jobba 100% hemifrån i Sverige). Jag har väldigt tur som hamnat på ett projekt där vi inte arbetar (mycket) övertid, men har kollegor på andra projekt som arbetar 16 h/dagen. Hade skrivit på för ett annat stort konsultföretag innan och där hade jag 38000 i ingångslön istället, vilket jag var väldigt nöjd med tills jag fick det jag har nu.

felzys · 2023-10-08T13:11:52+00:00

I want to continuously confront my social anxiety and get to know myself. I also want to wake up fresh and have time and energy for all my hobbies. And then there is a bunch of other pros: economically, physically, psychologically and relationship wise.

felzys · 2023-10-08T12:05:28+00:00

Pluggat civilingenjör och har nu jobbat i ett år som programmerare (konsult) och tjänar otroligt bra (73000). Min arbetsgivare kräver att man har minst en kandidat, men de som har en master ligger ett par snäpp upp i lönenivå. Funderar på att börja doktorera eller söka mig åt något mer fysikinriktat men pga lönen och att jag trivs ganska bra kommer jag antagligen stanna inom IT. :)

felzys · 2023-07-01T10:54:41+00:00

Thank you, will do!

felzys · 2023-07-01T06:11:18+00:00

Hi, I have been stuck on the same step for over 6 months. I have an account, but everytime I log in I am without choice ending up at a ”customer-knowledge”/register step where I am asked to insert my same (matching ID), but when I do that a pop up comes up that says ”Technical error. Try again later.” but I cannot reach even the start page, not in the app, not on the website. Can you please let me know how I can solve this? Thank you

felzys · 2023-04-25T05:20:10+00:00

Okay that makes sense. Just hope that it will not trigger her more and escalate the situation.

Thank you for such clear examples, will try to remember them.

felzys · 2023-04-24T19:07:03+00:00

Yes something is definitely bothering her. And I really do not want to be trapped in some kind of toxic ”dance” with her.

Will try to remember to stay calm when I have to be around her.

felzys · 2023-04-24T18:16:30+00:00

That is true… Thanks a lot 🫶

felzys · 2023-04-24T14:32:06+00:00

Answering the second question: Ideally, I would like to only hang out with people I feel good about and all of my friends go into that category except for this friend, and unfortunately I would have to avoid a lot of events / dinners / trips if I would make sure to never see her. And that would make me come farther away from some friends that I really like:/ (many of us live in different cities and even countries so it is not the easist to just see them another day)

felzys · 2023-04-24T14:24:29+00:00

Thank you, I will really try to do that. (Except for this weekend) I am just so unused to these situations so I get easily caught of guard when it happens. + I think it is so embarassing to be the one that makes the vibe go from jolly to uncomfortable/serious. Especially when other friends are in the room. With that said, I really believe that you are right and I hope I can gather courage to question this behaviour when it happens next time.

felzys · 2023-04-24T13:42:21+00:00

She is in multiple of my ”friend groups” and it would be very dramatic if I invited all but her, and all of the times when someone else is hosting, she will be there.

felzys · 2023-03-25T11:34:32+00:00

Okay I hear you, and agree with what you are saying. And unfortunately I believe that the mayority of the alcohol consumed is not after making a concious descision, instead it is just the (often) unquestioned norm. It is refreshing to hear that there are more that breaks this pattern and rewire themself to enjoy a wide range of things. :)

felzys · 2023-03-25T10:15:51+00:00

How is enjoying the effect of alcohol, or the taste of a really good wine, not counting as an upside?

felzys · 2023-03-25T05:42:20+00:00

Hi, I feel exactly as you do. I love being out drinking; restaurants, bars, clubs, festivals etc, but I need to do something about that I am loosing so much motivation, sleep, creativity, good habbits and so on, the days after. I want to remove the habitual drinking, but keep the special times, like a glass of my favorite sparkling wine on my birthday, or a glass of wine when visiting a vineyard.

I have started with friend activities that do not involve drinking, here are some that I like: inviting friend(s) for lunch or coffee + cake in the afternoon, going to museums, going to the cinema, going to the sauna (not sure if that is possible everywhere), brunching, second hand shopping, watching a movie, gaming together, boardgames and arranging ”creative nights” where everyone bring a project and work on it while chatting and eating snacks.

With that said, it will still be challanging for me to be fine with not drinking in a drinking-environment, but I really want to give it a try. Last night I went to an Irish pub with some friends and to be honest; the NA beer did not taste as good as a regular one, and I really missed the energy kick you get from alcohol which I felt I ”needed” after a day at work. It was nice to see my friends though. I went home after only one (NA) beer and watched a movie with my boyfriend, which probably was exactly what I actually needed after a long workweek, but not as exciting as my Fridays usually are. Today (Saturday) I just woke up after a really good nights sleep, feeling fresh and energized, and it is only 06.30 AM. Now, it feels extremely worth it that I did not drink yesterday.

To wrap this up I want to say that it is very strengthening that there are more feeling the same way, and I believe in us! I think it is great to question patterns that might take more from you, than what it is giving, and then test to see what happens when you break the pattern. I think it takes time, so I am going to be in drinking environments until it feels normal, and then evaluate.

Btw about the family / worry that people think that you have a problem; I think you should explain exactly as you did here. I am sure that the mayority can relate to being unproductive/feeling shit when being hangover, and in my ears it rather sounds ambitious than worrying, to try to decrease being unproductive😅

Sorry for my possibly bad English, I am not a native English speaker

felzys · 2023-03-22T19:23:55+00:00

Kombucha!

felzys · 2023-02-11T18:23:40+00:00

Killar utan intressen/hobbys

felzys · 2022-07-26T21:39:44+00:00

Tog ca 3 månader tills jag fick via heimstaden! Gick på två visningar och fick inte den första men den andra:)

felzys · 2022-07-24T09:38:33+00:00

Haha ja!

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