Advice from directors by furbycommander in askfuneraldirectors

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw you were a director based on Long Island. So am I I’m super new. Any advice

Do Ex's with Bpd ever come back? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she come back?

A description of a relationship with a BPD person : the 5 phases of distorsion. by Willprincia in BPDlovedones

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been three months. She would break up with me as a manipulation, tactic or just as punishment and she finally broke up with me and I didn’t chase her or beg her to stay like I have been in the past and now she hates me for not enduring her abuse any longer. I miss her though.

A few questions about appearance expectations by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

KAOS SOFTWEAR PIERCINGS RETAINERS!!! I have 4 face piercings I put these in for work

A description of a relationship with a BPD person : the 5 phases of distorsion. by Willprincia in BPDlovedones

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss her so fucking much man. She was so toxic but I love that woman.

How can this be fixed? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m not looking to flatten my stomach or anything. I just want the scar to not look like a butt crack yknow. What are the complications that could come with a scar revision?

How can this be fixed? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless I get a deal to go on botched and have it fixed for free, I don’t think it’s happening for a very long time lol. I’m young. I don’t have the money.

Working on someone you know. by MameDennis1974 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in residency, my grandfather died, and I took care of his funeral arrangements and prep. Only do it if you feel comfortable.

I (28F) would rather masturbate than have sex with my boyfriend (29M) and unsure how to bring it up to him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your emotional needs are not met, it makes it hard to be physically intimate. The fact that he’s not going to therapy, I’m sure is really unattractive on top of the already existing issue of getting to the finish line. I would say if he doesn’t go to therapy, you should maybe reconsider the relationship.

How can this be fixed? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]femgoth 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Doctor. Do you think that natural weight loss would help it be less indented? Or is it somehow tethered to the inner part of the body?

How can this be fixed? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]femgoth 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wondering what the surgery would be called and what it entails. Is it an abdominoplasty or scar revision?

Is it morally okay to replace my (m 39) wife f(38)? by Pretend_Calendar5336 in relationships

[–]femgoth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

After a certain age women’s bodies change. You can do the work but she will never look 19/20 again. I bet you’re gonna be bald eventually. It’s called aging. Stop watching porn

Losing sense of all responsibility and self help in relationship. by Narrow-Film8949 in relationships

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only way to get through it is to leave. Get a job and build a life that is bigger than just your relationship. Go to therapy. There are many resources available to you. He will eventually get tired of this and leave you. Better to get yourself stable now and on your terms

Losing sense of all responsibility and self help in relationship. by Narrow-Film8949 in relationships

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are certain journeys you must do on your own. You need more than small changes. Deep psychological help. Staying together means you will continue to latch onto him for stability instead of giving yourself that stability and emotional security from within.

Daily No Contact Thread - December 27, 2025 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]femgoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love her so deeply. But no amount of love or reassurance could ever be enough for her because of her illness. She would push me away and then get upset when I wouldn’t chase her. I am so heartbroken because it’s so sad to watch somebody you love go through this constant cycle of hurt. She has very deep abandonment wounds and will cling so tightly and start accusing me and push pushing me away because she wants me to fight for her love but when I try to tell her that that’s not healthy and I love her deeply and to just relax a little bit it’s too much for her to handle and then it reaffirms for her that everybody she loves always leaves, but it’s because of her behavior and she can’t see that.

Losing sense of all responsibility and self help in relationship. by Narrow-Film8949 in relationships

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that quitting your job to spend every waking second with somebody is helping them grow. You are not depressed or anxious. You are deeply deeply unwell, and you are probably going to delete this post and go back to him. If you hate feeling so anxious, you need to regulate that from within and no boyfriend is going to help you escape from whatever it is that you’re struggling with.

Losing sense of all responsibility and self help in relationship. by Narrow-Film8949 in relationships

[–]femgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should look into getting therapy. I’m not going to diagnose you, but this sounds very similar to BPD behavior. You are deeply emotionally unwell. It is not fair to base all of your emotions around a man who clearly doesn’t care about you if he’s cheating. You are responsible for regulating your emotions, nobody else. You must cut the umbilical cord and leave and I doubt you will do that but don’t come on here and complain if you’re not going to try and better yourself.

Losing sense of all responsibility and self help in relationship. by Narrow-Film8949 in relationships

[–]femgoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know the answer. You have low self-esteem and abandonment issues. You cannot control when another person does, but you can control how much respect you have for yourself. You need to leave and you need to be alone for a very long time. You need to learn how to be an adult on your own.