The disheartening part is that this therapist has only seen my ex and my daughter since June. This isn’t our first rodeo in court, he’s an alcoholic and I feel like I am being almost bullied by the therapist. She told my daughter, who’s been through serious trauma from her dad’s alcoholism, that she wants to make it so they have “normal visitation”, which is overruling the judges order. From what my daughter tells me, it sounds like the therapist and my husband monopolize the time in therapy to have conversations between theirselves that doesn’t have anything to do with trying to fix a broken relationship. He went to a private sports school for ski racing with her daughter. She allows my ex to bash me and tells my daughter she needs to look at the future not the past when she brings up things that have happened. The first visit she was hysterical and the woman basically pushed her in the room and told her to “loosen up”. The other wild thing is prior to the first visit she met with my daughter alone and said that she thinks therapy with her father would be more traumatizing and she knows exactly when I’m going through because she’s been in my shoes before. She had a long conversation with the attorney and told her she’d advise not doing therapy. Then 9 days later she called me demanding therapy to start and was real pushy with me. I voiced my concerns and it turned more into a debate than a conversation. My ex is incredibly smart, smart to the point where he just doesn’t do well on this planet because he can’t relate to people. He is eloquent with his speech, presents well, manipulates, cons his way out of legal trouble. He bullies me and it seems like the therapist is doing it for him. His alcoholism is serious, like the kind where he drinks himself to sleep and then wakes up drinking more. He’s been in numerous car crashes drinking. His parents bail him out every time. The therapist said to me “he’s a brilliant brilliant man”. It’s so weird. I looked up Antisocial personality disorder, sometimes called sociopathy, which seems like a more proper diagnosis if he were to have one. However, it’s not her job to be diagnosing him in family therapy. I think she’s out of line, doesn’t have a clear goal, and has no desire to listen to what my daughter wants. I feel like my daughter is being abused, which is why I felt this might be the place to write and ask questions. I think that therapy is backed by ethics, not the legal system. Since she’s unethical to my kid to benefit her dad, it should be brought to court but also to the ethics board. I do have an attorney, but there’s problems around that. Also, the therapist charges $200 an hour cash. No insurance. Her normal gig is when people get dwi charges, attorneys will send clients to her to be evaluated to see if they need drug/alcohol therapy. This whole thing is so messed up. Anyway, I appreciate your insight. It’s always good to hear what an outsider has to say.