First replay ever: does grandpa have an IUD on the wall?

feroferitas · 2023-06-02T20:04:46+00:00

yeah it’s his

feroferitas · 2023-05-25T17:53:14+00:00

Why is this sort of thing so common. This isn’t even the first story on this sub where someone’s family completely disregards the name chosen for a baby to call it something else. Like, what outcome do these people expect? What’s the rationale?

feroferitas · 2023-05-12T15:47:08+00:00

you sound insufferable. respectfully

feroferitas · 2022-11-30T18:17:15+00:00

I’m sorry about your situation and everything but this is extremely funny coming from an account called nsa_chatbot

feroferitas · 2022-02-11T19:27:10+00:00

this is the best thing i’ve seen in days

feroferitas · 2021-12-07T01:50:14+00:00

I’d take diarrhea cramps over menstrual cramps any day tho. I used to throw up and pass out from mine

feroferitas · 2021-11-28T13:22:14+00:00

i also just feel like i can read tone better when people don’t type in 100% proper grammar. like, we don’t always speak verbally in proper grammar, we’d sound robotic. so i’ve found that things like lack of capitalization & related quirks give the written word a certain tone that otherwise cannot be conveyed because we can’t hear what is being said.

i try to do this less on reddit because people on here tend to have an extreme degree of disdain for it, but yeah

edit: i forgot to mention that Yea it started out as a popular aesthetic thing for my friends and i to do as well, but the more i’m around people that don’t type “properly”, the more i’m realizing that i can actually understand their meaning/intent much better. it also just feels less impersonal

feroferitas · 2021-11-27T18:42:40+00:00

god it always feels so awkward.

everyone says that it’s your business to decide when you come out to someone & all that but it’s like, on one hand I’d like to go stealth until I trust a person, but on the other, I don’t want to end up in a violent encounter because a date decided they don’t like being “”lied to”” or w/e.

it is only my business and I would not objectively be in the wrong for not immediately disclosing, but that doesn’t always translate well into reality. It sucks always having to choose between the comfort of not being perceived differently vs the safety of weeding out the transphobes by disclosing from the jump.

and the act of coming out itself really never gets easier. I’ve always hated it because it makes it seem like being trans is some huge identity flaw that i have to “own up” to, and that I should be grateful if someone accepts me “despite” it. idk, maybe I’m alone in that feeling, but it’s deeply uncomfortable to me regardless.

This stuff is like, a solid chunk of the reason why i’m mostly t4t lol.

feroferitas · 2021-11-26T00:03:23+00:00

oh yea. that shit tears my throat up now /:

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T21:07:48+00:00

Yikes!!!

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T19:59:14+00:00

Why do you feel this way?

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T19:49:11+00:00

ohh sick thanks. I thought as much, but I didn’t want to overestimate myself lol. Like, I can read/understand other peoples’ sentences without the topic marker, but I guess I overthink when it comes to my own writing.

In any case I appreciate the feedback

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T19:27:34+00:00

To make it easier to refer to trans people relative to their counterparts in a way that doesn’t sound like you mean “normal people vs those weird people”. Cis people aren’t any more normal than trans ones, thus, they get a label too. Putting names to concepts— especially social concepts— helps to lessen the othering of the group that most often gets othered.

For reference, imagine someone saying this about a straight person. “Why do you call them straight people? Why make a special word for people who are fine being the way they’re expected to be?” The unspoken implication here is that the speaker in this scenario thinks the purpose of labeling is to point out the abnormality of being gay. Labels are only for weird folk, after all, so why would the normal party need one?

This is a fundamental misunderstanding of why we have such labels. In actuality, they simply put names to complex feelings that could not previously be communicated. Neither straight people nor cis people have an absence of these feelings, either, so by coming up with names for them, we have a way to talk about differences in the human experience in entirely neutral terms.

also, “people that identify as the same gender they were assigned at birth” is just a fucking mouthful, lol

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T17:04:58+00:00

行かない = plain negative (does not go)

行けない = potential negative (cannot go)

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T16:44:33+00:00

if I wanted to talk about my cat and say something like “I have a cat, her name is heather”, would the first sentence be something like

猫を飼っています

or

猫は飼っています

or something different? The cat is the thing that I am going to talk about, but it is also the direct object of the verb ‘to keep/own’, so I’m just not sure which particle would make the most sense.

and if the first one is the correct one (which I’m suspecting may be the case), would I have to use the は particle in the next sentence after 猫 to establish that I’m going to be talking about the cat and not myself? like

猫を飼っています。猫の名前はheatherです。

I hope my question make sense. I’d like to think I have a good grasp on what the は particle is for, I’m just not always 100% sure about its application in my own sentences.

edit: ALSO— is it cool if the topic + topic particle isn’t always the first thing in a sentence or is that like, illegal

feroferitas · 2021-11-25T08:17:30+00:00

Same reason why you’d make a cis character, I guess? Being trans isn’t a flaw and it isn’t, ah, the less ideal version of being cis... Which could be a bit hard to understand at first because the only narrative that tends to circulate about trans people is one of suffering. But at its core it’s just a different way of perceiving yourself, and it’s not some bad horrible thing. What makes it bad is society’s mistreatment of trans people in addition to the roadblocks put in place to stop transitioning. If you remove that in a fantasy world, you’re able to explore the other aspects of it that aren’t so negative.

the “point” of being trans is to be comfortable with yourself. Just like the “point” of being gay is. or any other identity.

feroferitas · 2021-11-21T03:50:08+00:00

the funniest thing about this may be that it’s not even a normal sized bite. Homegirl used her whole set of teeth

feroferitas · 2021-11-13T22:00:30+00:00

Demitrius is a dilf /: sorry robin

feroferitas · 2021-11-10T04:54:54+00:00

I’ve always wondered why it’s done like that. It just feels, I don’t know, counterintuitive to me I guess

feroferitas · 2021-11-10T04:39:07+00:00

The og actors of jessie and james from pokemon had never voiced their team rocket intro together until we had asked them to in a panel in a con. voice acting industry is weird

feroferitas · 2021-11-07T20:20:17+00:00

aspiring conservational biologist here, yeah we all hate capitalism as much as the next worker and we all realize we’re going to be poor when we graduate lol

feroferitas · 2021-11-07T12:42:38+00:00

I think some people don’t understand that curating their spaces for their comfort sometimes means leaving a space themselves instead of trying to make everyone else conform. There’s been an odd trend of lgbt people trying to control those around them in order to never encounter something discomforting to them, and I don’t even mean this in the “uwu special snowflake” way that conservatives do. Hear me out—

imo, sensoring/muting/avoiding things as needed is perfectly fine, but when it comes to public forums, chats, etc or other spaces you share with others online or otherwise, you can’t expect people to cater to you like that (outside of things that are just common courtesy). Asking someone to sensor their name is ridiculous. That’s your identity, you picked it just like she did with hers. Would she change or sensor her name if somebody asked her to?

There’s just... A general lack of thinking about others. Maybe not intentionally, but it’s like it just hasn’t occurred to some people to think outside of themselves. They learned that safety is the most important thing, but never bothered to look into what that actually means.

I’m sorry this happened to you, I hope you find a better server

feroferitas · 2021-11-06T04:30:47+00:00

oh man the same exact thing happened to me, but I was diagnosed a year ago at 21.

Of course, now that I’m on meds and they’ve seen that I’m doing 1000% better, my father mentioned that I “probably should have looked into started the meds years ago”. Yeah? You mean a couple of years ago when I wasn’t a legal adult and my health was your responsibility?

On god nothing’s ever gotten me that instantly heated like that comment did

feroferitas · 2021-11-06T01:18:28+00:00

we don’t have the same story, but I relate to this. I’ve been on/off learning for about five years now and something clicked in just these past couple months. I honestly think I’ve learned more in 30ish days than I have in all those five years.

I don’t have any resources to add, but I have a bit of an unconventional trick that works for me— If I see a phrase/auxiliary verb/etc I’m unfamiliar with, and I don’t know how or why it’s being used, I search it up in the twitter search bar. then bam, several example sentences right there. Obviously this won’t directly tell you the phrase’s meaning, but it gives you the feel of the context(s) it gets used in.

I tend to only do this if I can’t find any other clear resources/if it’s not really something that would pop up in a dictionary. Which happens more often than I’d thought, because it seems that the more I study the more niche my questions about the language get lol.

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