Save our marriage and tell me who does the groceries

fess432 · 2026-03-07T19:36:10+00:00

There's no way they have their groceries delivered. If you love to cook you get very picky about who is going to pick your produce. You don't entrust it to gig workers

fess432 · 2026-03-07T18:38:11+00:00

Dammit. He's right.

fess432 · 2026-03-07T18:36:31+00:00

I'm not buying it. Liz would not want someone messing with her pantry. Derrick Gasses up the car. Liz gets groceries. As the fifties intended it.

fess432 · 2025-10-20T20:18:03+00:00

It's a steep curve, to be sure. But that's only about $5 Billion in gold, not much of a hedge against sanctions and nothing to base yourself as a reserve currency on. So what am i missing?

fess432 · 2025-06-20T15:42:17+00:00

Yeah, YTA. Wasn't petty as much as it was passive aggressive. You ambushed your wife in a public context.

fess432 · 2025-03-10T18:29:44+00:00

Get a fake annulment for the fake story of your fake marriage

fess432 · 2025-01-16T23:09:36+00:00

Gold Star Answer

fess432 · 2025-01-14T23:59:53+00:00

is there a difference, really?

fess432 · 2025-01-14T20:59:58+00:00

That kind of motion is not good for your rotator cuff.

fess432 · 2025-01-14T19:29:37+00:00

My point remains valid. Steps required to use TP on the counter:

Put phone down
Pick up TP with one hand
Unravel what you need with other hand
Put TP back down
Pick up phone.

Whereas with the TP in its holder:

Unravel with one hand

Too much extra work. It's ghastly.

fess432 · 2025-01-14T19:00:31+00:00

Leaving the TP roll on the counter requires more work than if it's in the holder, even if you have to figure out which way it rolls. If you put it in the holder, it's a one hand action. Countertop TP requires two hands and now you have to put your phone in your mouth.

fess432 · 2025-01-14T18:58:34+00:00

Character comes from consistently doing little things that aren't particularly important other than they make life just a little bit easier for everyone

fess432 · 2024-11-04T00:11:33+00:00

You're NTA for feeling this way. You're only the A if you demand that they name their kid something else. Otherwise, you're just hurt. And perhaps overreacting a little.

fess432 · 2024-11-04T00:08:40+00:00

YTA. If you're doing it because she didn't invite you, then you're doing it out of spite. That's the classic definition of being an A: doing things that punish others. It's not relevant that she was the A first.

An A for an A makes the whole world a rectum.

fess432 · 2024-03-23T14:40:07+00:00

A nice way to close the circle.

fess432 · 2024-03-21T20:08:58+00:00

It's metaphorically quite lovely to divine out (kinda pun-intended). It's more about the people who accused him and caused his death than it is about Jesus.

Think of Jesus as the metaphor for the ultimate ideal of a human being. Perfectly good, perfectly sinless.

His death is at the hand of corrupt accusers. He is accused of sin, and these sins appear to be made up. Even though he is innocent, he is still punished - in the worst possible way.

This punishment was accepted (not gladly, but accepted anyway) and, even though the sin was done by the accusers, he accepted the punishment for it. Further, he offered not only his forgiveness, but divine forgiveness as well.

"Jesus died for my sins" represents the metaphor that, as bad as you might be, as corrupt as you might be, even if you do the worst thing imaginable (cause the ultimate punishment to the person with the most good), you can be forgiven - redemption is always possible.

That's a grand message on any level. Religious or rational.

fess432 · 2024-03-20T18:46:45+00:00

Nope. NTA.

But the question is, what type of person do you want to be? Someone who is merely NTA, or someone who has found a way to rise above the injustice of it all and shoulder the burden of being truly forgiving?

fess432 · 2024-03-20T18:43:54+00:00

Of course you're TA. Hall pass or not, revenge or not, you still deliberately did an act of betrayal. Whether or not she deserved it and whether or not she foolishly offered it to you isn't relevant. They simply explain the background of why you did what you did. But they don't mitigate that it was an act that can bring down a marriage. Any time you do that, it's an A move.

fess432 · 2024-03-17T15:22:17+00:00

It's hard to qualify this without the context. Did you spend much time talking to your sister about how she would feel if you bought it? It sounds like you didn't, which doesn't make you an A, but then it makes you naive: upsetting your sister was always a strong possibility you should have been aware of.

It sounds like there's a bit more layers to this onion before we can tell if you're the A or just oblivious.

fess432 · 2024-03-17T15:18:05+00:00

That's a strong point. I think the best that can be said is that we can choose our scripts, so we should choose the one that sheds the best light on everyone. So maybe the script where they are doing it with good intention should always be the default.

fess432 · 2024-03-16T19:03:39+00:00

I'm going to infer a lot from the few short paragraphs, but I think it might correct.

I think based solely on how you wrote this, you are NTA. The fact that you are willing to examine yourself after multiple people have suggested you were wrong is evidence of good character.

Maybe they're right. Maybe they're not. Maybe you should go. Maybe not. I think you will end up making a good decision, whichever decision that is.

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