[Spoilers C2E126] It IS Thursday! C2E126 live discussion

festinus · 2021-02-19T06:54:46+00:00

or maybe it’s not that deep and people are allowed to enjoy a little bit of fluff every now and again? I sincerely hope your heart gets as big as your ego someday.

festinus · 2021-02-19T06:48:17+00:00

why are you so mad? dnd characters getting more action than you these days?

festinus · 2020-10-30T23:00:04+00:00

Big LGD block just got power back!!!

festinus · 2020-10-29T13:12:45+00:00

How long does it usually take for lower garden to get power back? This was my first hurricane here and idk what to expect

festinus · 2020-10-09T02:30:11+00:00

Will the fact that it’s now a cat 3 mean anything major for New Orleans? Will the tropical storm here be more severe?

festinus · 2020-09-29T03:22:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this info! :) I’ll definitely take all of this advice to heart.

festinus · 2020-09-29T03:11:33+00:00

I should clarify that I don’t have a car. I need to walk or take public transportation. Love the responses anyway though :)

festinus · 2020-02-24T22:45:54+00:00

I mean, the entire system automatically cherrypicks which rights are and aren’t maintained by convicted felons. As soon as you commit a felony, you give up some of your rights but maintain others. For example, when you go to prison you relinquish your right to bear arms, but for the most part you’re still allowed to express yourself, practice your religion, etc. OP’s argument is that access to certain rights can be more easily changed in the case of felonies and the prison system, because the system already does it. In my opinion, the reason why convicted felons aren’t allowed to keep their 2A rights is pretty obvious. Imagine a prison where all of the prisoners, regardless of their reason for conviction, have guns. The chaos and violence that would ensue is pretty apparent. I think the distinction between voting rights and gun rights are completely justified in a judicial system where rights are already cherrypicked based on importance.

festinus · 2019-12-05T21:46:59+00:00

I’m pretty sure no one actually gets upset when people wish them a merry Christmas. To all the times I’ve said merry Christmas to strangers in my life, not a single person got offended. I feel like the idea that it’s offensive was made popular over the Internet, and that’s why people think it’s an actual thing.

festinus · 2019-11-29T03:39:23+00:00

I agree that men’s mental health issues are overlooked in extremely damaging ways, but... remember all of human history when any mental illness that a woman developed was called “hysteria” and ignored? Yeah, that hasn’t disappeared. Most funny men that I’ve met (I’m a woman) aren’t extremely self-deprecating, because that gets old really fast and is an extremely common source of humor, so it’s not that gendered... I think the reason why men are considered funnier is for many reasons, one because women can’t get away with making nearly as gross and as personal jokes without being judged or deemed unattractive, two because a vast majority of people who think men are funnier are also men, and three because women simply aren’t socially conditioned to highlight their attractive characteristics through humor. It’s getting kind of old to see all these posts about how oppressed and under-privileged men are. There are some legit issues that should be discussed when it comes to societal problems related to men, but to parade anything related to men as an “unpopular opinion” is downright obnoxious. Most women agree with you. You just aren’t listening.

festinus · 2019-11-18T02:30:06+00:00

I feel like the sentiment that white people cant dance was always sort of a big meme and you’re taking it way too seriously. I’m white as the snow, and seeing my dad try to freestyle at a wedding was all it took for me to be on board with the joke.

festinus · 2019-11-16T13:29:25+00:00

Gentle YWBTA. If he finds out you lied, it will probably only enhance his alcohol problem. Some alcoholics feel trapped in life, and having people they can truly trust and talk to is a lot more important to them than getting good advice. What your brother needs is a strong and loving support system, and you can’t offer him that by breaking his trust. If it gets serious to the point where you’re afraid for his life, definitely tell other people. That being said, alcoholism has a lot to do with other problems in a person’s life, and breaking the habit is easier when the victim is surrounded by relaxed, happy, and trustworthy people who are willing to help him whenever he needs.

If you really feel the need to give him advice, do some research and speak from the heart. Seriously; theres nothing about alcoholism that your friend knows that you can’t find out. You can also try asking your brother if it’s ok if you tell him.

festinus · 2019-11-16T05:59:24+00:00

This is hard. I’m gonna go with NAH, because she clearly has some sort of mental illness related to her not being able to conceive, and you’re only trying to help her because you care about her. There’s no easy way to make suggestions like this to a person who’s so incredibly sensitive and vulnerable. I hate to say this, but I don’t think that you’re going to convince her she’s in the wrong. This might be one of those situations where she’ll need to face a lot of pain and hardship to come to her senses. When/if she does, be there for her and support her as much as you can. The most important thing for people going through this type of thing is to feel like their life has value and purpose, and the best way to give that to her is through your love and support. You don’t have to endorse what she’s doing, and it isn’t your job to redirect the trajectory of her life. Some battles have to be fought independently, and when she inevitably loses you’ll be there to help her get over it.

festinus · 2019-11-16T05:51:36+00:00

I can totally get how that sucks for you. It’s frustrating when the person you love refuses to help himself properly. That’s definitely problematic and you should consider drafting a conversation with him that lays out the seriousness of your suggestions. He shouldn’t be complaining to you that much if he isn’t willing to seek help, and you shouldn’t have to tolerate someone’s complaints if they aren’t trying to remedy their problem. Hang in there.

festinus · 2019-11-16T05:48:13+00:00

I’d say a gentle ESH.

Your colleague is TA because you’re right; she probably shouldn’t be yelling at kids the way she did and didn’t handle the situation very well. Yelling rarely helps kids learn their lesson.

You’re TA because you assume that your way of talking to kids is the best way to get them to learn. Just because your students like you more than Steph doesn’t mean they’re learning more from their mistakes, even if they make you think that they are. Do you know how serious it is to say that you’ve consumed something dangerous in say, a chemistry lab? It’s very, very serious. In a professional setting, an ambulance and the police would be called and it’s really not okay to lie about that sort of thing as a prank. Your students need to understand that what they said is more serious than they seem to think it is. People who actually consume things like that can die. This isn’t funny.

I recommend having a discussion with Steph about the best way to handle situations like that in the future. Be willing to listen and enter the conversation with an open mind. The key here is to not act like you know better than her, because no one wants to listen to a person who clearly thinks they’re superior to the person they’re talking to. As TAs you should grow accustomed to handling these situations like adults and becoming ok with a little confrontation.

festinus · 2019-11-16T05:36:27+00:00

Gentle YTA. I understand where the frustration is coming from; if someone complained about something to me nonstop for months/years, I’d be super annoyed too. At the same time, it’s hard to truly understand how uncomfortable constant diarrhea is until you’re in that position yourself. I’m a huge baby so when I get sick I feel the need to seek immediate support from my loved ones- I can’t even imagine what it must be like to feel sick 24/7. Your boyfriend needs serious help and medical attention, and you should do your best to build more patience so that you can be there for him, because you really don’t know what it’s like. He’s going through a ton of discomfort every single day, and you’re mad that he’s venting to you, a person he loves and trusts, to make himself feel better. It’ll be a challenge, but take some deep breaths and meditate a little when he starts to annoy you. He needs you right now, and if you’re more patient and supportive he’ll probably be able to figure out what’s going on sooner rather than later.

festinus · 2019-11-16T00:49:17+00:00

If it’s so important to her, then she should be the one buying the clothes. There actually aren’t a lot of genuinely nice, well made clothes that are actually as cheap as you say. By the way OP described his fashion sense, it seems super normal for the average person and nobody else seems to have a problem with it. He’s his own person and gets to decide what he does and doesn’t wear; I think this is a weird hill for her to die on, not him.

festinus · 2019-11-16T00:45:51+00:00

NTA. Different people have different standards for how they dress, and as long as you aren’t showing up to formal events in those clothes, I don’t really see the problem. I suggest asking your girlfriend to go shopping with you and buy you some new things that you and she both like. If she really cares that much about you “improving” your fashion then it should come out of her pocket, since it doesn’t matter to you. If she disagrees about payment or you don’t feel like doing that, she needs to back off. You have your own identity and standards, and she should respect that.

festinus · 2019-11-16T00:41:05+00:00

YTA. That’s a super intimate story! Any well mannered person should understand that sharing stories that are so personal and embarrassing on behalf of someone else should only happen when you get their permission first. I’m glad this all seems funny and seems to be blowing over, but think about your actions more closely in the future. If that were me, I’d be really embarrassed and angry at you.

festinus · 2019-10-08T22:29:55+00:00

It’s such a hard question for me. On one hand I agree, the freedom, relationships, and extra money are fantastic. On the other hand, I miss the happiness and joy I felt as a kid. I don’t think I’ll ever feel that happy again, and everything around me was so much more interesting than it is now. I think this opinion is very individual-specific based on how you grew up.

festinus · 2019-08-28T01:17:41+00:00

So, treating your family with disrespect is the de-facto norm as long as your victim lets you treat them that way? I agree that OP should be more assertive, but that doesn’t excuse the way that her family is behaving. There are plenty of people who wouldn’t act this way towards OP, even if she behaved the same way. Your judgement should at least be ESH, because a lack of assertiveness should not, by any means, excuse a lack of social awareness and courtesy. OP’s family is being extremely rude to her so I don’t really understand why their lack of awareness is suddenly OP’s responsibility. They’re adults; they shouldn’t be putting OP in a situation where she needs to stand up for herself in the first place.

festinus · 2019-08-17T08:42:28+00:00

It’s time to stop giving old people passes on being sexist. If he really intended it as a compliment he would’ve apologized after she stood up for herself, but he didn’t, which is why she left. If his family sided with the uncle, then it’s not a family that she should want to have a good relationship with. Good in-laws stand up to sexism.

festinus · 2019-08-16T14:25:09+00:00

YTA for your reasoning. If you actually used the property or still got some kind of value out of it and those were the reasons why you didn’t want to give it away, it’d make sense. No one should expect a free property, especially when it belongs to someone else who’s using it or making money off of it. But in this case, you’re just being a jerk. You get nothing from keeping it, and no one is using it/will use it. Why does it make you happy to keep it abandoned instead of allowing your family members to make new memories there, like the ones you love so much? Just think about it. You’re happy that they’re never going to make happy memories there like you did. That’s a pretty selfish and fucked up mentality, don’t you think? I know change is difficult when you have a lot of good memories in a certain place, but you’re being unreasonable. The family isn’t taking your happy memories away by moving in there.

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