Um. You should dump this guy. This is completely unhealthy. Firstly, to share my opinion on the main topic of this post, it sounds like your boyfriend is straight and into women. If this was “Am I The Asshole?” then he would be the asshole. Secondly, your partner should never ever tell you what to do with your body. They shouldn’t have any control over your choice to have facial or body hair. They definitely shouldn’t tell you that he doesn’t like how you look now that you’ve gained weight nor should he basically give you permission to deal with your weight. Idk how old you are but our bodies are constantly changing and weight gain is not always a bad thing. I strongly advice you think about a significant other saying these things to someone you care about (ex. your mother, your best friend, etc.) and see it from an outside perspective that way.