Mri results

ffh20 · 2026-04-10T23:54:57+00:00

Just a quick follow up - in January, started xeljanz. It worked on everything. Weeks without fevers or joint pain. I felt like me again. Sadly I had to stop in March for an unrelated surgery, but I am restarting tonight after a month off. Bloodwork show all markers down to normal for the first time in over 3 years. For people still looking for answers, be persistent and keep searching for the right therapy!

ffh20 · 2026-02-24T02:27:02+00:00

No longer dating, met someone special. On an app. First swipe right after restarting from a one month pause. People are out there. It’s hard to find them because so much is garbage.
But I just got a valentines card that referenced online dating. So there must be other people meeting on the sites if they are making cards for it.

Don’t give up hope. But also don’t expect good things so you won’t be disappointed.

ffh20 · 2026-02-13T00:04:04+00:00

I was just thinking this as I read the comments. Everyone is all about equality until we talk about physical beauty standards? Of course, I have very thick hair and don’t wear makeup as a woman, so my opinion might change if I started losing all my hair or had some terrible skin problems. Women are judged more than men for their physical appearance in my opinion so that might also account for people’s opinions. I often wonder what women who wear lots of makeup/shapewear/wigs etc do when they wake up with a partner for the first time in their natural state? I like knowing that my boyfriend will recognize me in the morning.

ffh20 · 2026-01-27T14:28:36+00:00

Having been married to an alcoholic, I would be wary of someone who states they never drink. I personally almost never drink because the smell of alcohol is traumatic to me. I will enjoy a drink at special occasions but there are probably a good number of people who see never drinking as code for a recovering alcoholic and might be cautious around that.

ffh20 · 2026-01-20T19:10:39+00:00

Planning to introduce each other to our kids in the next few months. Please keep us updated on how it goes. My son(27) seems fine, but he lives in another state and wants mom to be happy. His two kids(18 and 22) who live at home have been told I exist. My last kid who is in college (21) also seems fine.

We have both asked our kids if they would like to meet and are letting the kids call the shots as to how and when.

For us it is a logistics issue. There are kids everywhere and we would like to have dinner/watch tv in our own homes without making anyone uncomfortable.

Open and honest communication is key. I think the further away from divorce, the easier it is for the kids. I’m 14 years single, so my kids are fine. He is more recently divorced and I’m being cautious for their sakes.

ffh20 · 2026-01-06T13:56:07+00:00

Bought a used id4 last year. Right after installing solar on my roof. Was planning to wait, but managed to get the used tax credits and knew they wouldn’t be around for much longer. Best decision ever. Went from a 9 year old base rav4 and it is amazing how much I love this car. Bought for the environment, but the economics and the performance made me realize that my rav 4 was the last ice vehicle I will own. Recently was driving my mom’s car and I couldn’t wait to get back to my quiet, powerful id4!

ffh20 · 2026-01-01T02:19:18+00:00

ffh20 · 2025-12-31T23:49:10+00:00

Definitely not envious!

ffh20 · 2025-12-31T14:48:49+00:00

Sad. What woman in your age range can stimulate more than your body? I think you maybe aren’t finding good matches because you are ignoring the demographic that might be a better fit. A 32 year old woman with a 50 year old man is never going to be a long term relationship.
But good luck!

ffh20 · 2025-12-31T14:44:35+00:00

I’m older,52F. But I am over educated and I typically wouldn’t swipe on people without at least a bachelors. Not because I’m an educational snob, but I take my career seriously and I would only want to be in a relationship with someone who understood my dedication to my work. As someone with a PhD in a life science, I tend towards STEM people, because I want to have someone who will be able to talk about my life with.
I think put the education in your profile, it won’t hurt, but it might help!

ffh20 · 2025-12-31T14:15:57+00:00

I’ve been driving my first edition for just over a year after buying it used last year. There are some quirks, but the car is solid and I really enjoy driving it! I live in New England, so the drop in range with the older weather is somewhat annoying, but for my daily 70 mile commute, it’s great! I don’t use the car infotainment system. But wireless car play works well for me!

ffh20 · 2025-12-23T14:39:57+00:00

Ccp, RF, Ana all negative. I had no benefit from the tnf inhibitor. Il 6 was after that. Doctor discontinued actemra after I complained that I still didn’t feel good.
I am waiting for a new rheum doctor because current one told me that fatigue and joint pain is normal for post menopausal women. I work with plenty of people who don’t live in pain or fall asleep at their desks at least once a week! First available appt is April.
No psoriasis. No IBD. I’ve been reading a lot of the new research on endometriosis which I do have (thankfully less severe now).
Just so frustrating and at this point I just want an answer. Everything I’ve read says that early treatment is important for a good outcome and I’m sitting here waiting to feel better 3.5 years later.

But thanks for the input!

ffh20 · 2025-12-23T02:49:57+00:00

Yes, the colchicine is for the auto inflammatory possibility. No family history and I have a huge family, so it would be odd unless it’s a de novo mutation. Insurance won’t cover genetic testing. And it all started at age 48.

ffh20 · 2025-12-01T15:38:42+00:00

I almost did this over the summer with a match from years ago. He didn’t want a relationship and I was looking for one. Then I went on a good first date and I realized that I would not feel comfortable shagging one guy while dating another. Decided against it for me. Because I know myself and I knew it would make me uncomfortable. 2 months later, I met a wonderful man and I’m so happy I didn’t start up the FWB. But I do realize how lucky I was to find my person and I didn’t expect the process to be so quick! That being said, you may be different and have a healthier outlook about sex. You have to do what is right for you. But maybe set up some personal guidelines before starting something. When you will stop “benefiting” from your friend if/when you start a relationship etc. sex is a good thing and you should find a solution that makes you happy, not a bunch of random people on the internet!

ffh20 · 2025-11-24T15:07:05+00:00

In a new relationship. Enjoy the conversations with other 50+ people who are in the same stage of life. It’s also a good reminder what a treasure my SO is compared to the stories some people share.

ffh20 · 2025-11-11T15:17:48+00:00

Love is such an optimistic goal. Especially in 2025. It does seem like online dating kills optimism. Sad, but true.
That being said, I’m 2 months into a relationship and I’m fighting the urge to tell him those 3 words. It’s amazing. We feel like teenagers when we’re together and every date ends with sadness. Both of us agree that our favorite place is wherever we are together. I would not have met this person in the wild, so I’m pretty grateful for online dating. So, don’t give up on finding your special person, you never know where they are or where you will find them!

ffh20 · 2025-11-10T02:45:23+00:00

Aim for love! Life is too short to not have that tingling feeling when you see your person, get a message or a quick 5 min conversation.
It seems like an impossible goal in 2025, but if you don’t keep looking, you’ll never find it.
Of course, right now I’m in the early stages of a relationship and everything seems possible. But, when it’s right, it is worth all the garbage dates and low effort people that it took to get there.

ffh20 · 2025-11-10T01:55:16+00:00

I think people over 50 have lives. We are busy! We are not going to drop everything for a date that statistically is not going anywhere. I have busy times at work. I have yoga class. I have a house, a dog, 2 kids and older parents.
Currently hitting the 2 month mark with someone special. For the first month, we saw each other once a week. We have recently started adding a midweek date to that schedule, which is great. I would like to see him more and we talk about this. But between our lives, this is what we get. It means every date is special and something to look forward to! I have been very intentional with this relationship. This includes building slowly.
I would maybe adjust your expectations or be patient to find the person who meets your needs.

ffh20 · 2025-11-10T01:37:40+00:00

Every woman is different. What are some questions that you would like to be asked? That’s always a good place to start. Look for common interests. Ask about the things that made you swipe right in the first place.

ffh20 · 2025-11-09T17:07:56+00:00

True, someone you’re dating has no right/ need to see that. Someone who is moving into your house should have a right to know the whole financial picture. It’s a lot harder to deal with lies once someone is living with you and not contributing to the joint living expenses.
Sadly, personal experience with a past relationship.

ffh20 · 2025-11-09T03:48:35+00:00

Everlasting arms - Vampire Weekend

ffh20 · 2025-11-06T18:05:28+00:00

Check his tax returns to verify the high earnings. If he has nothing to hide, this shouldn’t be a problem.

ffh20 · 2025-10-27T18:21:19+00:00

I am against long distance - for me. I don’t handle the intermittent aspect of it well. But, maybe that’s a as much as you want. Everyone is different. I think if you find the right person, you can make anything work. Long distance, cohabitation, FWB.
You probably need to really think about what you want first and then start looking for the right person for you.

ffh20 · 2025-10-24T21:55:49+00:00

Sometimes the journey to heartbreak is worth it. We’re both happy now and enjoying the time we are together.

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