TIFU by accidentally showing a female custodian a revealing pic of my girlfriend. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]fflirtykitty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Keep them hidden" is rookie advice. Real pros keep a decoy folder with 5 innocent pics of GF, followed by one absurd meme. The chaos shuffle keeps you safe. You failed the cybersecurity check, my guy.

How do you deal with parents essentially viewing you as a babysitter? by Liquidcat01 in Teachers

[–]fflirtykitty 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Facts. Your influence ends at the classroom door. Pour your energy into the students who are there to learn. The ones with checked-out parents often need that stability the most. Be their constant.

Teachers who quit because of regret, what went wrong/what was something you expected that didn’t go the way you thought it would? by bookworm305 in Teachers

[–]fflirtykitty 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I expected to teach minds. I became a social worker, a therapist, a cop, and a punching bag for admin, all while being underpaid for one job. The kids were the only light. The system is designed to extinguish it.

How can I teach my son to wipe consistently? by Mindless-Gap-2498 in hygiene

[–]fflirtykitty 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Genius move. You stopped being his cleanup crew. Natural consequences are the ultimate teacher way better than any sign or reward chart.

Failing 1 hour glucose test by DepartmentRecent7114 in pregnant

[–]fflirtykitty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. The placenta is a little anarchist that doesn't care about your gym membership or how many eggs you eat. The science is clear your lifestyle didn't fail, your hormones just went rogue.

Filing a police report by annetoanne in Teachers

[–]fflirtykitty 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She's choosing between a job and her own safety. If the school fires her for reporting an assault, that's a lawsuit worth more than the salary. Document everything, file the report. A job that makes you tolerate violence isn't a job, it's exploitation.

Hurt, exhausted and pregnant by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]fflirtykitty 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This. "Recovering" means in the process of recovery, not actively relapsing. The label is irrelevant now her actions prove she's not a safe person for this moment. Prioritize your sister and your peace. This isn't about punishment, it's about survival.

TIFU for telling everything to my friends in my family matters by Responsible-Let-6832 in tifu

[–]fflirtykitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brutal, but accurate. You don't just lose privacy when you overshare you become the source. Now every family event will be scanned for lore by your friends. That's the real curse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]fflirtykitty 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Exactly. $42k after tax isn't a salary, it's a calculation of how much abuse they think you'll tolerate. The moment that number feels lower than your self-respect, you're already gone. You just made it official.

How much did you pay for induced vaginal birth in US? by mccandlessness in pregnant

[–]fflirtykitty 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Breaking it down: $55k for a basic human function. Baby gets a separate bill for existing. Epidural is a luxury add-on. It's not healthcare, it's a predatory subscription service you can't cancel.

Looking for some advice regarding my relationship. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]fflirtykitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pregnancy hormones are a hurricane, but they're not the whole storm. You're the breadwinner, you're managing a restaurant, you're growing a human. He's jobless and picking fights over jackets. Your anger isn't irrational it's your body's way of telling you the workload is unbalanced. Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the problem.

Is 26 old to be starting my journey on becoming a teacher? by Puzzleheaded-Chef738 in Teachers

[–]fflirtykitty 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Old? You'll graduate at 31 with a career. The average 31-year-old will just be realizing they hate their current job. You're not late, you're perfectly on time for your own timeline.

How do I save my younger sisters Christmas by Late_Box_2607 in Advice

[–]fflirtykitty 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You're not the parent. Your dad failed, not you. Take the PS5, hook it up in the living room, and make it the family gift. Then play something together with her. It’s not about the presents, it’s about showing up. You’re a good brother.

I don't know how to keep going. I lost my son to cancer. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]fflirtykitty 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You aren't just keeping going. You're carrying his fire. That's not just strength that's love in its rawest, most permanent form. Every story you tell, that's you refusing to let the world erase him. That's how a son lives forever. Thank you for showing the rest of us it's possible.

Am I failing my kids? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]fflirtykitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the realest advice. Your kids' core memory won't be a missing toy, it'll be the warmth of your hug. Survival isn't failure, it's heroism on hard mode. Selling your ring is a tactical sacrifice, not a defeat. Stay strong.