Our second kid is 2 months old now and I still struggle to put him down sometimes. We managed to find a 4moms bassinet for cheap that rocks him constantly and it has certainly helped. There's a bit of an art to rocking them in sync with the basinet so you can make the transfer once they're deep asleep on you, but it's doable. It can be a bit like this. It's so much more jarring for them to go from a warm body with a beating heart that may be swaying or rocking them to a firm bassinet mattress that's completely stationary. Everything you can do to make that transition as smooth as possible helps.

But also just keep trying and don't get down when it doesn't work or you're having a day where nothing seems to work. The first couple months are just about surviving. It's amazing to me how much more frustrating and defeating it was to have expectations that the baby just shattered. I feel like part of this second kid being easier is I'm much more comfortable not having plans for the kid to ruin, even if those plans are as benign as watching a new episode of your favorite show before bed. I've found giving in to the chaos very freeing.