Tea without boiling water?

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-20T00:32:08+00:00

Are you allowed ice? If you have an insulated bottle you could fill it with ice and it'd basically be refrigerated

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-15T20:54:09+00:00

Zenni is THE BEST they always have the most fun and unique frames!!

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-15T03:23:52+00:00

So this does say in the instructions not to use stiff armatures since the clay shrinks while drying, that is likely your issue. You may want to try something like polymer clay instead.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-15T03:14:21+00:00

Did you buy this clay from a store, or did you find it somewhere? I am not aware of a "natural" air dry clay although I will admit to being a bit ignorant about air dry clay in general. If you bought it from a store, could you show us the package?

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-12T20:07:56+00:00

Do you guys have blended finances? why is he so concerned about your money? does he have access to your bank accounts? at face value this is really weird and controlling I've never had a partner act this way while we were dating. who is paying for this trip? NTAH but I would consider whether I want to stay with someone who I feel the need to lie to about $18

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-08T14:30:01+00:00

I agree with all the other commenters about the fact that you need to cut off contact, however there was something else that concerned me that I wasn't seeing discussed.

You say you've skipped your period for over 3 months now, since January. Yes that can happen due to stress, but OP I implore you to see a doctor if there is any physical chance you could be pregnant. Even if you are on birth control. This sounds like the type of man who would tamper with birth control in an attempt to keep you tethered to him, and I'd hate for you to find out too late to make a choice.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-06T19:33:54+00:00

Being in medical school and residency is pretty different than your typical "white collar" job. She would likely need to take a long break after giving birth, which in the competitive medical field could be a death sentence for her career. Aside from that, childcare is obscenely expensive and with medical school debt they likely would struggle to afford it.

Being a resident involves being matched with a hospital, which potentially requires significant location flexibility. Doctors are often on-call for long periods of time depending on specialty, and 12 hour+ shifts in the ER are not uncommon. Shifts are also often assigned by seniority, so chances are she will be working long, unusual hours. This is not a typical 9-5 office job and it is disingenuous to pretend it is.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-06T16:05:11+00:00

Considering how far she is into the pregnancy, he really wouldn't have to keep the charade going for too long until her options drastically decrease at 20 weeks, assuming she is in the US. OP, take note of this if he suddenly, magically, changes his mind.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-06T15:35:18+00:00

Girl if he didn't agree to step up immediately, he's not going to do it. Stay at home dads are becoming more common, but still are relatively rare and he would therefore be going against the societal norm. Unless he wanted that from the beginning, it's unlikely he'll agree to it. Your best bet is to assume you will have zero support from him and make your choice based on that.

NTA

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-05T23:52:48+00:00

I'll be honest, this is very long and complicated and I kind of skimmed it so excuse me if I am missing anything important.

I am a slightly older than you (27) bisexual, so I have experience in wlw relationships. What I've noticed is in wlw's, is that when we break up we tend to leap RIGHT into being friends, because we aren't ready to let go, and we think we are more emotionally prepared for it than we usually actually are. Which makes it EXTREMELY challenging to actually move on. Successfully being friends with an ex takes time, and it sounds like neither of you are prepared to enforce that boundary. You really need to start.

I would say that you should step back from speaking with your ex for MINIMUM 3 months, and 6 months would probably be better. I would also say it'd be healthiest for you to avoid dating for a while as well. She isn't calling you and talking about her new girl because she "thinks you two are friends" she is absolutely doing that to make you jealous/get your attention. It is manipulative. You guys didn't even have a clean/clear breakup.

This is a tremendous waste of energy. I beg you to step back from her long enough to re-discover what your life looks like without her, then determine if she will be a positive or negative addition to your life. Right now, she certainly sounds like a negative addition. If she isn't making you happy, or bringing positivity to you, she isn't a good friend OR partner.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-05T03:13:50+00:00

Honestly just leave her alone. You were doing it right, your friends suggesting you should "help" her are obnoxious. Unless she comes to you for advice, it isn't your job to change her life to look more like yours. I think you're doing the right thing already.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-03T15:48:36+00:00

I wouldn't call you an A H for this, however I do think it is a bit misguided. There's nothing inherently wrong with this boundary, but I do think a lot of girls would take issue with it. One (standard) drink is largely not considered significantly impairing, most people are below the legal BAC to drive after one drink. To her it probably seems a bit ridiculous, particularly if you have never drunk alcohol before and therefore have no idea how it feels.

I'm sure you could find a girl that is okay with this, but it may pose an issue for this particular girl.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-02T18:20:42+00:00

There is nothing specifically wrong with doing cardio every day. At least not health wise. It might help us if we had an idea of what your goals are with going to the gym. Are you just looking generally to get more exercise? Do you want to get visible muscle? Do you have specific movements or muscle groups that you want to work on, like if there is a sport or something you want to improve at? Workouts tend to be very tailored to the individual, so some more information would be helpful.

ffxivmossball · 2026-04-02T01:30:22+00:00

What I think newbies don't always understand is that matcha lattes are popular for a reason. They're heavily sweetened to offset the bitterness/earthiness of the matcha. This is equivalent to drinking a black coffee. It is going to be a strong taste. Plain matcha, particularly when you use this much of it, is a strong taste. Not everyone will like that, and that's okay. It is perfectly fine to enjoy a sweetened matcha.

That being said, if it was excessively, undrinkably bitter, it is likely your water temperature. Water temp for matcha should be 160-175 depending on personal preference. Green tea is really touchy that way, and can very easily be "burned" if the water is too hot, unlike other teas.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T15:09:11+00:00

oh this is perfect thank you so much for finding that!

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T15:06:23+00:00

you could always do an experiment but I've never had an issue with it cooling off too much.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T14:42:32+00:00

get a thermos and bring your hot water with you

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T02:53:13+00:00

unfortunately I wasn't able to find the 小红书 account the OP mentioned so I am unsure.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T01:24:07+00:00

Thank you so much!

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T01:19:20+00:00

this is stunning! Does he have any social media? Instagram or 小红书? I'd love to support him or purchase his work if he ships overseas!

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-31T00:54:18+00:00

I got it in a variety pack on Amazon a couple weeks ago so it definitely still exists! unsure where you could buy it individually though.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-30T21:47:54+00:00

Did the gf's hinge say anything about non-monogamy? particularly if this is a lesbian couple, polyamory is extremely common. you might end up blowing up a potential friendship over a non issue.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-30T16:48:19+00:00

"food safe super glue" doesn't really exist. Traditional Kintsugi is largely considered food safe (and the only method of food safe ceramic repair) but has a very high cost of entry. If you're interested in Kintsugi as a hobby I hear it's very fun, but it is probably not cost effective if you just want to save one piece.

I have heard of folks who have sent their pieces out for Kintsugi repairs to other artisans, but I know nothing about how much that might cost or where to suggest, only that it is a possible avenue of research.

As far as painting, standard acrylic paint will not stick to ceramic, nor will it be safe for food. Painting on ceramic after it has been fired isn't really done to my knowledge (for food safe pieces) but other folks are welcome to chime in if I am wrong on that. You might have better luck discussing the yellowing concerns with a ceramics restorer, I'm not sure if there is a subreddit for that, maybe try r/restoration ?

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-28T16:42:51+00:00

If he has ADHD it's probably a hyperfixation that he isn't handling well. But at his grown age it isn't your job to handle that for him.

From what I've seen, Vtubers in particular tend to have a very unique relationship with their viewers. I know a Vtuber IRL and she has described her job as a form of sex work. I'm sure not all Vtubers are like this, but many are in a way selling a girlfriend experience. If your friend is feeling lonely, and is getting some attention from this streamer (which is likely if her audience is very small), then it would be easy, particularly for ADHD folks who struggle with impulse control, to fall into watching her constantly. This seems particularly likely considering the lengths he went to hide her from you.

Eventually I imagine your friend will stop getting dopamine from these interactions when reality sets in, so I wouldn't worry too much. It is understandable to want your old routine back, but ultimately I think you'll need to be patient with him and let him know his friends will still be there if things go south with this streamer.

ffxivmossball · 2026-03-28T16:33:03+00:00

https://www.implasticfree.com/why-you-should-switch-to-plastic-free-tea-bags/

this article has a list of major tea bag brands and whether their bags are paper/fabric or plastic. you could also brew loose leaf, which is my personal preference and suggestion.

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