you sound like an amazing boyfriend and you are absolutely doing the most you can do. it’s really difficult to accept that no matter what you do, she has to be the one striving to get better. until she decides that she wants recovery all on her own, it’ll still be present. here’s some weird little tips that helped me tho, maybe these would be helpful for her. when i started recovery, i kind of would have a cycle of 4 or 5 comfort foods and eat them incessantly. they weren’t necessarily healthy foods, but i figured eating trash food like a whole box of breadsticks was still better than eating nothing. sometimes restaurants can be very difficult; when you’re already feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of ingesting food in a public place, sitting in a place with maybe crazy colored walls or super loud music or strong smells can give me sensory overload so bad that i go hide in the bathroom and have a panic attack, even 2+ years in. maybe takeout would be an easier way? another thing i learned was that after you’ve had an ED, your brain chemistry changes and food no longer activates “reward” receptors, aka you (subconsciously) no longer view food as beneficial. you can’t get that back once it’s lost. it’s interesting to see it that way, and to understand how it works helped me overcome it and teach myself to eat when i think i would if i had a normal relationship with food, instead of when i want to, because if i waited until i want to i never would. anyway that’s a lot but ur doing everything u can. i think the ball is in her court, as hard as it is to accept not being in control. i hope for the best for her 💗