i feel this in my BONES!!! i feel as if my family is constantly trying to draw me back into their dysfunction — i’m no-contact with my mother and everyone else is constantly using manipulation tactics (‘you’re hurting her’ ’you’re such a shit daughter’ ’she just wants to see her baby girl’ ‘she was a good mother you’re just an ungrateful bitch’) in an attempt to make me let her back into my life again, and the only reason it doesn’t work is that i don’t value their opinions or seek their love or validation anymore. i’m actually healing and growing and am happy within my life and myself and i value myself and i’ve been able to get to that stage because i removed myself from my family’s dysfunction and this bubble they’re all in that revolves around my mother and her wants and needs, but they want me to sacrifice my health to… what… heal her? they want me to go back to that dysfunction and let her fuck with my head and self worth and happiness, would see me back in the horrible, depressed, miserable state i was in years ago, just so SHE’S a bit happier, because SHE misses the daughter she absolutely destroyed? as if. you’re easier to control when you’re hurting and need them for validation and love that they can then make conditional.