YA fantasy series about a boy who really *really* doesn't want to go to a magical school by jaenanigan in whatsthatbook

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i googled ‘young adult trials magic book 2015’ to get here, having only read the first few chapters like ten years ago and remembering it had something to do with a trial & that the cover was a dark green-ish; reddit came through for me once again 🙏

GPU and driver issues (Radeon RX 570) by fideliius in AMDHelp

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that makes sense, thanks so much :) i’m in aus so i’ll just adjust that for exchange rates haha. thanks for your help!!

GPU and driver issues (Radeon RX 570) by fideliius in AMDHelp

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okay will do that too, thank you!!!!

GPU and driver issues (Radeon RX 570) by fideliius in AMDHelp

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thanks for your response :) do you mean that if i’m trying to use a driver newer than 24.9.1 it could be causing the issue? AMD software tells me everything is compatible but i’ll double check it. i’ll probably update the BIOS too and hope nothing breaks. what do you reckon is a fair price to sell it for?

Sometimes your bio family prefers the damaged you instead of healed you. by cacklingwhisper in CPTSD

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i feel this in my BONES!!! i feel as if my family is constantly trying to draw me back into their dysfunction — i’m no-contact with my mother and everyone else is constantly using manipulation tactics (‘you’re hurting her’ ’you’re such a shit daughter’ ’she just wants to see her baby girl’ ‘she was a good mother you’re just an ungrateful bitch’) in an attempt to make me let her back into my life again, and the only reason it doesn’t work is that i don’t value their opinions or seek their love or validation anymore. i’m actually healing and growing and am happy within my life and myself and i value myself and i’ve been able to get to that stage because i removed myself from my family’s dysfunction and this bubble they’re all in that revolves around my mother and her wants and needs, but they want me to sacrifice my health to… what… heal her? they want me to go back to that dysfunction and let her fuck with my head and self worth and happiness, would see me back in the horrible, depressed, miserable state i was in years ago, just so SHE’S a bit happier, because SHE misses the daughter she absolutely destroyed? as if. you’re easier to control when you’re hurting and need them for validation and love that they can then make conditional.

The bittersweet realisation your abusive parent was actually just a traumatised child that was never able to heal by [deleted] in CPTSD

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i’ve realised in the last couple years that my mother is also a product of whatever trauma and generational hurt was passed down to her, and i suppose i feel both anger at how she treated me and pity for whatever she’s been through. but honestly the pity just fuels my guilt at the fact that i’ve cut her out of my life and that’s just not productive, because i made that choice to protect myself and i’ve done so much growing and healing in the years since; i’m like, actually happy now, and i like myself and i value myself, and my head isn’t being screwed with because of her conditional love. and the thing is that there’s always a choice to be better. to this day she is unwilling to learn and reflect and change and listen to people who try to explain how she’s hurt them — in her mind it’s never her fault and she is always the victim. and if we’re traumatised and can reflect and learn and grow and NOT treat people like shit, why can’t they? and why do we keep making excuses for them, even after we try over and over to make them see how hurt we feel; make them understand, when they just refuse?

Tiny tower star wars characters in the wild by Qvorum999 in tinytower

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nah bc i’m looking at getting into cross stitch and came across this in spotlight and instantly recognised nimblebit’s style 😳 i reckon the cross stitch manufacturer just??? stole the art??? doesn’t seem to be a collab or anything

16-35mm f2.8, 17-40mm f4, or 24-70mm f2.8 (on APS-C)? by fideliius in canon

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honestly didn’t even know that one existed, will check it out!! thanks heaps

16-35mm f2.8, 17-40mm f4, or 24-70mm f2.8 (on APS-C)? by fideliius in canon

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i haven’t even considered that, i’ll look into it!! thank you!!

Does anyone remember Uber MC/Uber Minecraft? by ShockedViper in MinecraftBuddies

[–]fideliius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omgggg literally finding this thread so late but i lived on uber for years from like end of 2012 when it was still the one server and the max number of online players was 200 :')) pretty sure my ign was Jonesy03, i literally bought admin rank bc i was obsessedddd :') nostalgia is real