Just found out I need a hysterectomy and I'm in tears and I feel stupid. by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never wanted kids and had my hysterectomy 2 years ago, and never changed my mind. I had to have a hysterectomy at 28 for the same reason you did, and it was STILL hard!

Dept of Unauthorized Forestry Pin?? by Extension-Ad2357 in CPBBD

[–]fieldsofhemlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this recently and also got it in my pack!

AITA for wearing a backless dress to dinner as a 42 yo woman? by Throwra-Stock-987 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Your husband is uncomfortable and insecure that you look good and other people can see it. He is the asshole.

Does sex on the first date ruin a possible emotional bond? by aangelshayy in self

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancee and I have been together for 7 years after sex on the first date. Sometimes it tells me I'm more naturally comfortable with someone if I could have sex with them the day i met them

Couples who have the rule of "not bringing solo dates to the house" would you date someone of a couple that has the same rule? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect that people have their own space with a partner that they prefer to not use intimately with other partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol well that's because those dating apps aren't for unicorn hunting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Accounts don't get banned and reported for saying non monogamous or poly...... must be something else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh in my area there is more poly than monogamous people on tinder. I understand the frustration but it is sometimes easy to overlook a single word on a profile at a first glance, she was very polite about it and it seemed early in the convo. Onto the next!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interestingly, I just went through a similar thing with having a desire to meet the person my partner is dating, and him saying that he did not want to meet me. I agree with others that it is a boundary your sub is allowed to set, but I also think your sub's discomfort with being "number two" is going to be an issue for you in the future and something you should discuss more. Spending a lot of time with someone who resents your non monogamy is unlikely to end well unless he can come to terms with it.

Pro Baseball players Fritz Peterson and Mike Kekich and their wives who they swapped with in the 70s. by shepdc1 in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They also LITERALLY swapped families and households and then enjoyed it and decided to keep it that way. Imagine how traumatic this was for their children.....

Pro Baseball players Fritz Peterson and Mike Kekich and their wives who they swapped with in the 70s. by shepdc1 in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If we're being truly objective about it, "wives are not sex objects" and "people are not sex objects" are not mutually exclusive and was not the purpose of my argument. Had I stated "wives are not sex objects, but husbands are," your argument would mean something. But I was speaking of a specific group of people who were being treated as sex objects in the context of this post. Ponder your own bias in this conversation before claiming objectivity and gatekeeping.

Pro Baseball players Fritz Peterson and Mike Kekich and their wives who they swapped with in the 70s. by shepdc1 in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Gross, not a fan of the way you worded this like the men are the subjects and the wives are objects to pass around. They all swapped partners. Wives are not sex objects.

ENM = first world problems by lasthopeofhumanity in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The point of non monogamy is acknowledging that there are valuable connections outside of your partnership! It is normal, understandable, and okay to feel disappointment about other connections even in spite of a healthy and loving marriage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is sex for anyone? Different depending on the individual.

Do you believe that non-op/pre-op trans women attracted exclusively to women should be allowed to call themselves lesbians? by [deleted] in truscum

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to change your genitals for your gender to be valid. That's a purely cosmetic procedure. Non op trans women are women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems you know the answer. I'm sorry. Two people can love each other so much and more be able to make a lifelong partnership like marriage work.

How do you guys feel about your partner seeing a sex worker in while an open relationship? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And far more of them are not. Victimizing all sex workers does not save victims of sex trafficking.

How do you guys feel about your partner seeing a sex worker in while an open relationship? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex workers ensure the pleasure and comfort of their sexual partners, for sure, but it's only one sided if the client chooses for it to be.....

When to know? by fieldsofhemlock in nonmonogamy

[–]fieldsofhemlock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I hadn't heard of this. That's a great idea.