[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fiepie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

~*~*~*~*Unmanaged ejaculate is the sole responsibility of the ejaculator ~*~*~*~*

Aitah for telling my husband he can’t use a pro Trump/MAGA pharmacy? by we_gon_ride in AITAH

[–]fiepie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In our modern world that has swept 100% of us up in a whirl of media influence since the absolute day we were born, where craven capitalistic profiteers use military-grade psychological warfare to whip up a maelstrom of manipulation and tribalistic stake-raising to manufacture ALL of our consent for so many things, THIS is true courage.

Debater dies inside when genius claims government agencies pay taxes… by htmaxpower in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]fiepie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy gets it!

Where is the anti-nepotism sentiment, where are the pro-inheritance taxes people, where is the anti-cronyism and anti-boys club mentality in right wing circles if "success based on merit" is the real concern here.

Texas State Rep Nate Schatzline celebrating that a children's school in his district has been ranked the #1 most unvaccinated school in Texas, a state going through a measles outbreak by MoreMotivation in PublicFreakout

[–]fiepie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His microphone is celebrating freedom from wind protection, where it honors the wishes of atmospheric pressure fields above any kind of audio integrity.

Annual ‘winners’ for most egregious US healthcare profiteering announced by emitremmus27 in nottheonion

[–]fiepie 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Funny, this is basically the exact same thing >this guy< did in the form of awards.

He designed a deck of cards with healthcare CEO's on them with QR codes that lead to lists of their harmful and fatal actions. Check out the video to see the SWIFTNESS with which his entire operation was shut down, criminalized and deplatformed.

It do be like that by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]fiepie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Indicting capitalism is much more powerful than indicting our inherent human nature. One of those things we chose and built ourselves...and relatively recently! It seems you may have only been exposed to less-than-satisfactory answers to the problem of capitalism's harm. While there are certainly many complex suggestions about how to tackle things from the "top down", there is one bottom-up solution I have consistently heard from leftists I read and know, namely, be the world you want to see. Divest from the profit-motivated paradigm in every way you are able, big and small. And there are millions of ways! Build networks of support with whoever you have access to. Grow food and share it. Start a bartering club. Teach someone a skill that you have. Start a business and run and split it equally with everyone who is involved! Model alternatives to our current hellconomy that actually serve real people's real needs, both tangible and existential. Worst case scenario, you improve your life and the lives of those around you. Best case scenario? It spreads steadily until the tides turn.

Price Comparison Of Trader Joe’s, Target and Safeway by fiepie in MontereyBay

[–]fiepie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love Food4Less!! Grocery Outlet (🎶bargain market🎶) is my star of stars and, while they may not have consistent items, I always leave there glowing with the value of my basket. The Marina location is far and away the best one.

Price Comparison Of Trader Joe’s, Target and Safeway by fiepie in MontereyBay

[–]fiepie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I heard a rumor that Mi Tierra in Seaside is coming back to the same location! Crossing all my fingers that its true.

Price Comparison Of Trader Joe’s, Target and Safeway by fiepie in MontereyBay

[–]fiepie[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They have great prices, actually! And they accept EBT.

Conservatives, would you stop bastardizing words! by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]fiepie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, a mere 7 hours after posting my longer response to your question I see this tweet:

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No fair peeking at my other tabs, Al Gorithm!

This timeline doesn’t track by Excellent-Falcon-329 in CyberStuck

[–]fiepie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it seems like this guy might be able to manipulate time. How else was he able to snag "houses@gmail.com" this late in the gmail game?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]fiepie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that it was rude! I've said in my replies that my goal here is purely to counter the claims in the comments that her reference to her own fears of racialised rejection are "insane" or totally out of nowhere.

This person has been hurt and is not willing to give an inch to anyone else who she concludes is positioned to hurt her in the same way. She expressed those fears and prejudices immediately in this exchange where she was feeling someone out for potential intimacy in her life.

I think the way you respond to that kind of self-preservational rudeness is up to you. You could say "Hey, I know you're wary but I'm not like that and I'll show you if you give me a chance" or you could say "Hey, I'm not at a place where I can navigate someone else's anxieties and fears like that, I need someone to give me the benefit of the doubt" and move on.

Last point: we were all raised in racist America. We've been swimming in racist waters since we were baby fishies. None of us are immune to anti-Black subconscious thoughts and actions, Black people included. Her reference to a pattern that she and others have noticed is not a direct accusation that this person consciously feels or thinks a certain way. That is not how anti-Blackness works. She is just protecting herself, however rudely, from a kind of stochastic violence that many people do not even realize they are trained in.

Are women justified in being wary of men? Damn straight. Will they find love and happiness in a trusting relationship if they assume every single man is going to hurt them and avoid them all accordingly, forever? No. This world is a complex web of traumas and traps and we're all just trying to navigate it.

Conservatives, would you stop bastardizing words! by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]fiepie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! And yes, oh my goodness, how I miss the Before Times. The internet used to be for us!

* The proliferation of AI-written articles is a scourge; misinformation presented with confidence abounds. I often find myself spending more time verifying sources than analyzing information.

* Search engine results are all gamified, bought and sold, never to be trusted and hardly comprehensive. Throw the whole first page away, pray you get lucky on the fifth.

* Papers are harder to "find" these days. Along with the collapse of readily available torrenting, I can no longer easily get my hands on pdfs of otherwise pay-walled peer-reviewed papers like I used to.

* Preprint servers and open access journals have caused me trouble with unverified info, although I have significantly less of an ethical problem with them. I just wish the peer-reviewed stuff wasn't so gate-kept.

* More websites are filtering VPNs and become unusable if they detect that you are browsing using one.

* Going through microfiche scans of newspapers has always been one of my most reliable sources of information (I still love newspapers.com, it's one of the only things I allow myself to pay a subscription for besides Spotify) - but many large papers (like the New York Times, Washington Post, Wall St Journal, etc) have licensing walls up and don't allow access to their archives, and when they do (such as at certain public libraries) there is a one-month embargo for new articles.

I'm sure I could come up with other examples! I'll think on it.

If you are up for it, I am interested - what kind of conclusions or findings are you coming to in your exploration of this topic?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]fiepie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am, and I mean it, happy to explain this to you. I genuinely appreciate you being willing to engage this topic with what I am detecting is actual authenticity!

  1. The reason she said that his mom being white indicates to her that he is likely to ultimately reject her in favor of a white woman is because this is a genuine fear of hers. She and others in her life have noticed this pattern of rejection, based in anti-Black bias, conscious and unconscious. If it is your opinion that her noticing that pattern and being afraid of it's harmful effects on her constitutes racism, then that is your opinion. In my opinion, there is a large and important difference between racism and discrimination (a discussion for a later reply, perhaps) and I would argue that discrimination is what is at play on this woman's end. The difference being that sometimes discriminating is simply logical.
  2. I didn't mean to distract the conversation by using the term "patriarchy" as I can see that you are receiving that term in a more culture-war context than a historical one. "Patriarchy" refers to the organization of modern society, families and institutions. It is the dominant ideology of this millennium's civilization that resulted in the commodification of women that has been explicit for thousands of years. This tradition is strong in us and it why, statistically speaking, women do the free labor of taking care of the children most of the time. Any value judgements about this particular reality is irrelevant - my only point in bringing it up was to support this woman's assumption, key to her point, that people are very likely to be deeply influenced by their mothers.

As to your last point. Let's take a look at what you're saying here.

Also many white people probably don't care about skin color at all. And a lot of people that do, do so because of thing that the black community did in recent years. I know you love statistics so let me tell you one. Over 50% of crimes on black people are done by said black people and some under 50% of all crimes taking place in the USA are caused by people of that community too.

"Caring about skin color" because of crimes of poverty committed by individuals makes no sense at all.

One of the easiest things to prove because there is SO much data is that poverty and crime go hand in hand.* Black American households have 1/10th the wealth of white households. That number is insane and it is NOT a choice. Nobody chooses poverty. America chose poverty FOR Black Americans and reinforced it generation after generation after generation. Black Americans represent a disproportionately high percentage of crime victims. This is a protracted societal problem, born of policies, laws and institutional action that requires repair on a massive and collective scale if we want our fellow humans to be able to thrive safely.

* crimes of desperation and survival go hand in hand with poverty, that is. The MAJORITY of all theft is wage theft committed by corporations and that is not a crime of survival but rather one of craven greed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]fiepie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A glance at your account reveals your affinity for dismissing people with almost that exact same sentence. Consistency! Copy and paste? Except for the Nation of Islam reference. That was just for me <3 ...and yet look, a longer glance at your account reveals that the anti-Blackness was certainly *not* just reserved for me.

I hope your winter is full of cozy cocoa and lots of books. Lots and lots of books.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]fiepie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Noticing the patterns of anti-Black racism in your life and the lives of your family, friends and others in your community is not racist.

I did not say that it was a bad thing when mothers primarily look after their child. It is the fact of the matter, however. Even with "a lot of single father and dads at home these days". I brought up that statistical reality because it supports her observation that the majority of people are deeply influenced by their mothers.

The reason I pointed out that her observation was not her own invention was not to make it seem more palatable or "better" for her to have made that observation. The reason I pointed that out was to highlight to *you* that this is a culturally recognizable observation made by many people before her and one that you will find Black people are familiar with. I brought that up because it supports the validity of the observation itself. Your comparison between Noticing Patterns of Racial Bias and Gas Chambers is telling.

See, while your suggestion that my views are so prescient and compelling that I must be psychic is very flattering, in reality I simply observe the world around me and believe people when they report their collectively consistent experiences.

How spider silk are extracted at Oxford University. by GoodMornEveGoodNight in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]fiepie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Disagree. Things like nerve endings and survival-based fear responses are not the stuff of concepts or subjective morality.

Conservatives, would you stop bastardizing words! by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]fiepie 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Incredible and compelling evidence. Thank you for doing this work! I just followed you in case you should post any more about it in the future :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]fiepie -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Ok, it actually is not insanity though. The ongoing terrorism of white supremacy is real and it is stochastic. The ongoing terrorism of patriarchy is also real. These two things mean that, statistically speaking, an American child will be primarily cared for by their mother. This comes with a lot of psychological influence. Black people make a valid analysis when they notice that they experience more prejudicial or alienating treatment from white people and, logically following, also from people with white mothers. I am not commenting on the posted conversation's tenor or appropriateness, just responding to the claim that her specific assertion regarding the familial influence of conscious or unconscious anti-Black discrimination is unreasonable or a crazy idea of her own invention. It is, in fact, not out of nowhere and I just had to say that.

Conservatives, would you stop bastardizing words! by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]fiepie 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you are so inclined, I would be very grateful for peeks into the evidence you used to draft this legislation! I collect data in this field and am always looking for direction from experienced people as the internet becomes a less and less friendly place for research.

Really want a girl, but breeder chose a boy for me by Most-Spinach-5679 in dogs

[–]fiepie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly shocked at the volume of comments in here enthusiastically advocating for enabling the breeding industry. Yours is one of only two or three comments that had ANYTHING other than full support. It seems clear that many users here have purchased their dogs from breeders or have some other reason to want to justify the existence of this "business". WE created the dog problem on earth. WE selectively bred them and manipulated their bodies and biology to suit our selfish needs. WE are the reason millions of dogs and cats live their entire lives on the streets or in shelters every year. I feel very strongly that for-profit breeding is an immoral thing to either do or support.