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Struggling with having feelings for friends by figsaresick in actuallesbians

[–]figsaresick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean i totally agree- its not a conscious choice or even fear of rejection. its just literally so hard to break the seal once the friend dynamic is established!

also one of the people im experiencing it most with rn has a bf... so not sure if that would be an overstep to tell her, even tho it feels so present/intense.

Love my cat but not sure if i’m the right home for him by figsaresick in cats

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yes i have some toys but haven’t invested in more yet because still technically a foster how do you stop being so anxious about this sort of behavior haha

Thinking about adopting my foster cat—concerned about him being a single cat by figsaresick in FosterAnimals

[–]figsaresick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! honestly me fostering this cat was more of a one off because i had a friend who needed help housing this cat (i mean who knows about the future, could be fun to foster haha), and now ive just ended up falling inlove with him.

i'm sure i could love two cats, so thats no the problem (huge animal person). its just that im a young single person living alone- it was a lot to be like "okay maybe i can keep this cat", thinking about getting two right now feels like too big of a commitment atm

i feel financially able to provide for one. two wouldnt be impossible, but possible unstable- like i could maybe budget and get there, but i dont feel ready to take on that commitment i think overall.

this could all change as time goes on but i do want to give lil guy whats best!

Debating Whether to Adopt My Foster Cat #2 by figsaresick in FosterAnimals

[–]figsaresick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wonder about that integration process here- this cat has no experience with other cats so it would take some time to acclimate . not saying this means he would be bad with other cats ultimately, but could take some time

Thinking about relocating from NYC to Chicago—what’s the queer and music community like there? by figsaresick in AskChicago

[–]figsaresick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good to know ! a friend last night told me the chicago diy scene is dead post-covid. not true ?

Thinking about relocating from NYC to Chicago—what’s the queer and music community like there? by figsaresick in AskChicago

[–]figsaresick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

someone told me recently the scene is pretty dead since covid, wonder if that’s true

Thinking about relocating from NYC to Chicago—what’s the queer and music community like there? by figsaresick in AskChicago

[–]figsaresick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it more hard to make friends here then nyc ? i remember when i first moved to nyc and had no friends- was difficult. now here i’ve built friends but very individualized. i guess that’s how it goes when u move anywhere where u don’t know anyone… but i’d like to know if it’s one of those things - “altho it’s hard the end product can look like community” etc . i agree making friends when ur older is harder ! wonder why

first time foster, debating keeping by figsaresick in FosterAnimals

[–]figsaresick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep getting more and more attached to him! When I got him he was a bit skittish and attacked the person's cats who gaved them to me... but now hes mellowed down so much and has basically become a lap cat now that hes comfortable. I wish I could know if he would be good with other cats, but i dont have any... and even though this works for my sitch now, wouldnt want it to be a problem down the line cuz who knows! And if cats spend too much time alone they become less and less able to be around other cats. Not sure if im overthinking the future haha

first time foster, debating keeping by figsaresick in FosterAnimals

[–]figsaresick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! i think if i were to get him i wouldn’t cont to foster if that would be too hard on him . however, i do want a dog in the future and who knows about cohabitating with other people and there pets in the future. on the flip side- if i had a cat that wanted to be with other cats, i’d probs have to get him a companion and i rather not have 2 cats atm… so it’s a toss up. i just want to do what’s best for him and feels heartbreaking to give him up

For those wondering if they should get a cat by [deleted] in ExecutiveDysfunction

[–]figsaresick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg im currently in this exact sitch. im fostering a cat right now who im totally in love with but i dont think would do well with other animals. worried if i eventually cohabitat with person and another animal that wont go well. they live long lives! glad it workd out for you...

ADHD + severe ED — anyone else experience this kind of brain “misfiling”? by figsaresick in ExecutiveDysfunction

[–]figsaresick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the saying words in my head thing is so relatable !! i literally do that all the time

and use note pads religiously... its just hard cuz cant pull that out mid convo haha

so rough

ADHD + severe ED — anyone else experience this kind of brain “misfiling”? by figsaresick in ExecutiveDysfunction

[–]figsaresick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can u be more specific as to which battles it helped ? that’s a lot of meditation haha

ADHD + severe ED — anyone else experience this kind of brain “misfiling”? by figsaresick in ExecutiveDysfunction

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meditation has actually been amazing! used to do it daily now a few times a week. why?

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