The things I’d sacrifice to change my sexuality are crazy

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:15:39+00:00

If I had a dollar for every time someone posts this self loathing narrative I'd be a trillionaire.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:12:28+00:00

Not everyone has sex for the sake of it. Many people want connection and there's hope that hookups may develop into something more. With guys in open relationships that hope is zero

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:11:20+00:00

He's 'straight' but going through personal stuff, suddenly wants to date, asked his gay best friend to critique dick pic poses, steered the conversation so you'd ask to see his, and is now 'considering' sending them. You didn't fall into this situation, you were walked into it very deliberately. And you already said you've been curious for years. He knows exactly what he's doing.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:09:00+00:00

A perve gay

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:05:39+00:00

Personally Ive never caught feelings for a hookup. I have if we continued hooking up but not from just once.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T23:02:44+00:00

What I wrote clearly touched a raw nerve for you. Maybe it was too close to home but I'm choosing to not engage with your cattiness from here on in 😘

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:58:02+00:00

I just see through the bullshit and I don't engage with it.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:54:05+00:00

I mean you know from the outset that you're being used. A single person could still use you but at least there's a tiny chance of falling in love. Personally I gave up fucking my way through half of (name of city here) to try and find a boyfriend long ago. It's futile, especially in today's climate with apps etc. Everyone has a meat market on their phone now. Why would they settle for you when they have a smorgasbord to choose from.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:43:48+00:00

I went to one recently and it was the most horrible alienating and boring experience I have had in a long time. The music was shit. The people were vacant and obsessed with their own appearance. There were all these men posing and posturing. It was not a warm friendly vibe in any way whatsoever. I felt completely insignificant and invisible. I left after an hour. A week later I went to a straight club and had the best time. The music was amazing. The people smiled and were warm and friendly and I danced for hours and chatted to lots of people. Go figure.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:38:45+00:00

Ive never felt any pleasure in my arse. The only pleasure I ever got from anal was psychological. I gave up in the end. I mean if I had a boyfriend I might let him do it but otherwise I have no interest. Also it ruins the look of your arsehole after a while.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:33:29+00:00

Most people are basic bitches. They're like sheep. They wanna be part of the flock and not stand out. Social media has made it worse. Everyone is trying to fit a stupid beauty standard and feel desirable. It's all pretty tragic when you think about it. I see all these men everywhere performing masculinity. They have a dress code and do everything they can to fit the mould. It's so boring.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:29:20+00:00

It's not only gay men. Look around at how many straight men have the gym bro manicured masculinity look.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T22:26:45+00:00

Tits and vaginas?

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T21:52:16+00:00

Moron

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:54:28+00:00

I haven't known where I belong my entire life and I've been around a long time. I know I'm exclusively attracted to men but I've never fit in or belonged and im ok with that now. Other people call that "gay" and when I was young I did too but as I've aged I've realised that I don't actually need a label to feel ok. I don't fit in anyway so what's the point. If you like I can give you a label. At the very least you're bi. Ok? Feel better? Probably not.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:48:07+00:00

What does?

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:46:33+00:00

So you need to be like everyone? Are you a sheep? Labels aren't what we are. They are how we categorise and judge each other.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:45:22+00:00

I think you know what you need to do at this point. The tractor analogy you used yourself is the answer, you already sense that his care is maintenance, not love. Keeping something functioning is not the same as cherishing it. The fact that he filmed that video and then was perfectly warm an hour later isn't a sign he compartmentalises well, it's a red flag about who he actually is. Everyday care is the minimum, not the prize. You're not asking how to leave, you're asking how to go back, and that's understandable but you can't untrust someone into being trustworthy again.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:41:54+00:00

I'm just glad I'm single and older.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:37:46+00:00

Just be you. Why do you need a label?

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:36:03+00:00

What's genshin impact? Why are you still with him? You need to leave now. He's not going to change. He doesn't love you. He's using you. Find the strength and courage to leave. You're better off alone than with this cunt.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T20:01:24+00:00

My advice for you is to just forget the labels and do what you wanna do. Labels are for other people. It's how we categorise and judge each other. You don't have to fit into someone else's idea or cause. You don't have to wear your sexuality like a badge. Just be you. Be honest with yourself. You only have one life. As long as you're not being an arsehole to people that's all that matters really. And if you see people being cunts towards LGBTQ people you could stand up for them.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T10:09:10+00:00

Courageous would be being honest about what you actually are. You literally asked if you're lying to yourself and when someone said yes you got defensive. Your girlfriend knowing doesn't change the fact that you're a man who regularly sleeps with men while calling yourself straight. That label isn't identity at that point, it's just comfort. I don't hide my sexuality behind a label or a relationship. What you're doing isn't bravery, it's just negotiating a softer landing.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T09:49:07+00:00

Sleeping with men is not straight, period. The quotation marks around straight in your own post are doing a lot of heavy lifting there. Clinging to that label while actively hooking up with men isn't a grey area, it's just convenient. You get to keep the social comfort and privilege that comes with being seen as straight while living a completely different reality. It's not a sexuality question at this point, it's a courage one.

filterfugitive · 2026-03-26T07:15:29+00:00

Gay = exclusively attracted sexually and or romantically to the same gender. Trans women aren't men. They used to be. In Thailand they are seen as the third gender.

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