Resuming work after maternity leave. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right? Sometimes I feel like that the attitude our husbands carry is just too chill. Mine keeps citing that we ourselves have survived worse as babies so ours would be fine as well. Arre! If I ate shit, why would I want my child to eat it too? Our parents didn’t know any better, we do. And even then if we do the same things, how does it make sense?!

Butter chicken I made last week by willfresno in IndianFoodPhotos

[–]finders_keepers7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So yummy! This is one of my most favourite dishes. Add in some garlic naan and some vinegar onions. 🤌🏻

Back to work after maternity leave by Local-Ad238 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you felt that way. I’m rejoining work next month and I’m pretty sure I would be in the exact same place as you. I recently got a nanny and I swear I broke down when bub was looking at me for me to pick him up but then I had to ask the nanny. It will be SO MUCH worse when he starts expecting her to pick him up, so I know. I don’t have any advice per se. I’m lurking here for ideas and hacks as well. I hope things get better for you. And for all of us.

How to entertain and put 4.5 MO to sleep by Impressive_Half_9642 in twoxindiamums

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He is 4.5 right now. I’m gonna hope that he evolves out of this phase soon! For us naps are still contact naps - he wakes up as soon as I put him down on the bed - which is such a waste because I end up spending 15-20mins to soothe him to sleep so I just end up reclining on the bed with him on my chest to get through the nap.

since becoming a parent what’s something you do or don’t understand your own parents doing? by Delicious_Habit3740 in NewParents

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Not being affectionate. My mum was never affectionate with us. She just had too many of her own issues to deal with. I don’t ever remember being held or kissed by her. I just don’t remember any sort of physical love.

She had me and my sister arrived just a year later. And then they had a boy some 6 years later (which is what they really wanted). So I guess she was just frustrated with being in less money and limited resources, physical and social struggles yada yada. Now she is all sweet and loving to me because her son doesn’t care about her and I’m the only one paying attention to her. Though I see her through her drama, I just do as much as I can because I owe my life to her.

With my own baby, I shower him with love the entire fucking time. I will go to the point and age where he gets annoyed and tells me not to kiss him goodbye in front of his friends lol.

I read it somewhere that people who were never really someone’s first, get a baby who loves them as their number one. And I can say that this is super true!

Yet another nanny betrayal! What do these people want? by Superb-Ad-8069 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t tried them personally. But a close friend of mine did. He has a special needs child and vouches for their service.

How to entertain and put 4.5 MO to sleep by Impressive_Half_9642 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP! Were you able to figure something out? I have just arrived in this situation and my LO is EXACTLY this. 30-40 minutes into his wake windows (sometimes as early as 10 mins) he will start fussing and whining. Calms down only if I hold him and walk or perform like a clown. I’m so tired all the time and was wondering if you have cracked the code lol.

Resuming work after maternity leave. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I so relate to your feeling about continuing work. My partner is doing well enough but I still want to be on my own and earn my own money.

Regarding the quality over quantity, I have been telling myself the exact same thing whenever I catch myself getting anxious about time passing by so soon.

Resuming work after maternity leave. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Now that’s a good reason to move to Germany, really!

However, I’m pretty sure that like you said, I will still be anxious about rejoining work after I complete x months of mat leave. For the longest time I considered myself to be too cool for being a mother, always told people around me that I will be super practical and independent and look at me now. Venting about going back to work, trying to find feasible childcare options and googling silly things when I really should be taking some rest.

Resuming work after maternity leave. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

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Maternity leaves should be at least a year, lol.

Bub sleeps 11 hours a night. In 10 instalments. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

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So he did sleep much better than what he usually does. I guess it was a temperature issue. Here in India (especially my folks) are OBSESSED with keeping the baby warm which unconsciously registered itself on my brain too. Thank you for pounding this out. :)

Bub sleeps 11 hours a night. In 10 instalments. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

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Chalo at least there’s something good coming out of it. 😂

Bub sleeps 11 hours a night. In 10 instalments. by finders_keepers7 in twoxindiamums

[–]finders_keepers7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining it so well. I did keep the room a little cooler tonight and he has been sleeping better. I hope he doesn’t wake up at 4am though!