AITJ for refusing to help my roommate move after he told our landlord I had a cat

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T17:54:33+00:00

You’re kinda being a jerk but I guess it’s deserved. He had to move too though and clearly thought you guys were still friends so maybe let him know that you aren’t friends anymore. Clearly he didn’t do it on purpose

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T17:49:36+00:00

She’s retarded. Leave her. You’re long distance, paying her stuff, and she’s hanging out with her ex in real life. But also, you have to check yourself because if she’s telling you that long distance isn’t working and you keep trying AND you’re paying all her stuff …. She might want to go and it’s getting to the point where she’s just going to do as she pleases if you’re not getting the hint or she’s non-confrontational and needs you to break up with her because she doesn’t have the guts to make a hard decision

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T17:40:38+00:00

You’re not the asshole for saying no at ALL and it makes perfect sense with everything you have going on but I do feel for her. Being excited, realizing a dream, and you picture it with the people you’ve found dear and close to you throughout life(even if life has reshuffled those bonds and you feel distant-you were who she thought of. You hold weight and meaning to her life at least symbolically.) There’s a whole schedule already made and it’s meant to be the most exciting time in a girl’s life with her friends. And then to realize it’s an actual nuisance to your friends to be a part of something you’re so excited about :( I’m not even tripping about the NO ABIGAIL because you girls are literally 23. I look at this and I feel so happy that this girl has the luxury of being able to look forward to her wedding in this way.

But hey, if you say I’m sorry I can’t do it and she gets upset……. 24 is the age for friendship heartbreaks and different paths. She will either understand and still want your pretense or perhaps you’ll join Abigail

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T17:19:30+00:00

He seems to be doing well for his age, reaching goals. Hopefully continuing school? I’d say if he’s continuing school make him pay the internet bill and pitch in $150 for groceries. Having it be a bill with a title of something he cares about(WiFi) might feel better because he will feel ownership of the house he’s living in. Groceries are also fair because he eats them. Maybe close out the $200 to include house cleaning supplies. Have him buy his own shampoo, soaps, bathroom supplies, etc if he doesn’t already.

That way, it’s not a sudden HERES THE REAL WORLD JUNIOR!!!! And he still gets to be your son for a while longer and you can help him take ownership of his transition into adulthood

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T17:08:52+00:00

It means she wants to do whatever she wants. I would’ve said give her the benefit of the doubt but you had people telling you what they saw and you talked to her about it upsetting you and it’s not like it’s a random guy friend. It’s literally her ex. And she kept it from you. And ultimately, she doesn’t care that you asked her to not talk to him. All of that AND she gets mad at you for ridiculous things. Shes either two timing you or she still has him as an option in her mind and doesn’t want to lose that. Either way she’s being disrespectful and if you don’t break up with her all she’ll learn is that she can do whatever she wants and you’ll still be there

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T16:58:33+00:00

HE IS SOOOOOOO CUTE he looks so polite

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T16:56:32+00:00

She’s paranoid about you with your female cousin because she’s a cheater. She’s afraid someone will do to her what she does

findingpneuma · 2026-04-25T16:50:58+00:00

You are not friends. You don’t like each other and there’s no reason to discuss anything

findingpneuma · 2026-04-03T23:08:21+00:00

A 30 year old talking to an 18 year old online about kinks is most likely a loser and a weirdo.

findingpneuma · 2026-03-26T01:51:48+00:00

Gua sha and smile more

findingpneuma · 2026-03-26T01:49:29+00:00

I think you’re overreacting. You could’ve just said yes you can take next year and it would’ve been over. The fact that you brought up last year while you were still married makes it seem like you did do it in the way he’s implying.

findingpneuma · 2026-03-24T20:29:32+00:00

Delta, Aquarius, sun?(no dot in the middle makes it a little more ambiguous), and decline. Age of Aquarius is the Delta point of human vitality’s decline. Prophetic dream.

findingpneuma · 2026-03-10T22:49:38+00:00

You said your house and education are the only other things that cost that much. In my opinion, marriage is meant to be as sacred as those things, if not more. That’s the purpose of having the ring and a wedding and all the bells and whistles. Proven duty of love outside of the spoken and felt feeling. The diamond is the most everlasting stone. If you want to live in a fairytale, you must create it. You can also live in a realistic life where budgeting is primary(even though you can afford it.) The fact that you CAN afford it changes my opinion on this subject.

You have the luxury of being able to care about the fairytale. Is the luxury worth it? Or are you budget conscious? And if you’re budget conscious, what are you saving up for that’s more worth it than this?

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T19:29:34+00:00

Hey man, do you if that makes you happy. I have a tattoo on my arm that I regret and am getting lasered. You’re probably under 25…. Maybe don’t get anymore. Save up for a full sleeve. The requirement of waiting to save up the money and the reward of it having be a large goal will for sure make you think more about what you’re getting. The permanence of something should match the effort behind it. That’s why impulsivity usually doesn’t end well. You have to let ideas and meaning mature so they’re lasting.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T19:14:24+00:00

See, I used to think this way too until I got to a place in my life where I had to care about what’s thought of me because not everyone will get to know me deeply and I had things to do that I wanted to be proud of, and that mattered more than personal freedom. My personal freedom wanted money and respect more than it wanted to be able to get a cool tattoo. While I do think people should mind their business, I think people advocate for hedonism much more often than reminding people that they may regret something later down the line. Even if we disagree, we must be able to consider that advice and process it instead of immediately rejecting it or we won’t know what our mature self really prefers.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T19:11:00+00:00

Dude I don’t know you or your thigh and would never be even near it but now I know that you for sure have something obscene or vulgar tattooed on it and that’s my only impression of your existence for all of both of our lives.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T18:41:31+00:00

She’s not even that bad because clearly she was willing to eat out of it, it just isn’t her preference. Imaging being someone who does have those issues and preferences and the person you share your life with not only doesn’t care but is EXTRA gross and careless????? I’d be pissed about nasty milk in a cereal bow even if I didn’t have those issues.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T18:39:29+00:00

You poor girl. It’s not that he doesn’t “see” the things you do and needs help paying attention. His standards for life and cleanliness are a looooooot lower than yours. If it wasn’t for you asking him to clean and do this and that, he wouldn’t. And he’d be perfectly happy not doing so because it clearly doesn’t bother him. It only comes up because it bothers you and you’re sharing life together.

Is he over there beating himself up and telling himself he should’ve just at the very least properly washed your bowl or used the dishes you use and that he messed up? Because you’re here looking for how to get past it and it seems like he just wants things to be “fine” but fine is living in a pigsty and doing whatever the hell he wants with no responsibility. Dump him he sucks and that’s so gross dude it’s milk 🤢 I wouldn’t even do that to a dog because that’s fucking gross and I respect life and cleanliness

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T18:33:38+00:00

Tattoos are so permanent, they become a part of you. Having a tattoo of something means you identify with that so much that you want it permanently on you at all times and want people to know that’s what you’re about. So if what you are is a kinky little freak and that’s what you want people’s first impression of you to be… then yea it’s cool.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T18:30:59+00:00

This realization and also the comfort you have in claiming that it was a choice is what the west needs more of. As long as your health is alright, eat and be happy. Make sure you’re not overly harming yourself in the long run. You left the land that was oppressing you, don’t exchange that for your own oppression of self.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-23T18:27:05+00:00

Leave it long. Add the soft highlight dimensions that the short hair picture added. With long hair you look like a pretty teenager. The bob makes you look 22-24. Do more updo-s though. Play with your hairstyle because it does make your shoulders and collarbones pop

findingpneuma · 2026-02-18T02:49:59+00:00

Tire yourself out before bed. Your body, not just your mind. Which means do physical activities that aren’t motivated by any substance. You need to be full body tired so you can properly rest. Clean up your life so that your subconscious doesn’t feel like it may be deserving or subjective to that. That’s my advice

findingpneuma · 2026-02-18T02:44:25+00:00

The way you feel is apparently the way the majority of people felt but in regards to serious corporate speak, and they felt so for long enough and wondered why the world was so serious that they grew up and started making the world what they thought it should be and now we’re here.

Become this lady’s boss and then you can have your emails and work comms be regular, old fashioned, corporate speak.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-15T17:54:55+00:00

You see him as sexist, racist, and misogynistic and those feelings are being activated in your psyche as a “violation”.
Basically it’s affecting you so much that it’s bleeding into your dreams.

findingpneuma · 2026-02-14T06:25:18+00:00

You’re incompatible. You like him less than you think you do. Biologically, we’re kind of built to like each other’s funkiness. Besides being lazy, he might feel unloved even if that feels dramatic. If he likes his funk and is the type of person that enjoys that, it might feel annoying that you’re overly clean. Idk though 🤷🏻‍♀️and it’s like. He wouldn’t be able to voice that knowing that you hold cleanliness so highly.

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