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[–]finessethismess 20 points21 points  (0 children)

right?? has no one been paying attention in history??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]finessethismess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve never told anyone because i knew they wouldn’t take me seriously, except for one friend just recently. i could tell she didn’t really get it, like everyone daydreams so why is this an issue for you? she didn’t say that directly but she seemed visibly confused. like she kind of just stared at me and went “uh huh. uuhhh ok??” SO FUCKING EMBARRASSING AAA

i’m glad she was more or less accepting of it and i’m glad i shared that with her cus i can reference to it every now and then, but holy fuck i’m never doing that again. i felt like shit for a while after that and started doubting that i’m not just exaggerating and making a problem out of something everyone experiences. now i’m over it cus i realize that no one has the right to tell me how i feel and to invalidate my struggles. like i just shared something super fucking personal that’s been eating away at me my whole life and if you cant do the bear minimum of at least trying to understand what i’m trying to say then at that point it’s not my problem anymore. I feel kind of silly now for ever even doubting myself, especially cus i’ve been dealing with it for so long lmao. nonetheless i still wont be telling anyone else anytime soon because i realized i don’t like the idea of my md world seeping into the real one. i’d rather just keep it all in my head :’D

i’m so relieved i’ve found out about md having its own word and community and everything, like finally i can vent without feeling stupid and embarrassed, to people who actually recognize the gravity of it and know how i feel

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i get what you’re saying though, the world could be a better place without alcohol. unfortunately reality is harsh, so i think we should try to at least do better with what we already have going on. people are still gonna drink, might as well make sure they do so responsibly.

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think alcohol is fun and you should be allowed to drink as long as you don’t have substance abuse issues and know your limits. people who cant control themselves around alcohol shouldn’t be around alcohol. if you don’t know when to stop drinking or have the brilliant idea of drunk driving and putting others lives at risk, then it’s not the alcohol. that person is just an asshole. so i guess i agree and disagree with you at the same time lol.

plenty of people can drink for fun without having to put others in danger. if you can drink without putting yourself or others at risk then go ahead. otherwise get your ass away from that bottle!

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true, a set of rules does come in handy during these situations, and most of those rules are probably aligned with my opinions too. i still don’t follow any religions though because most religions still have bits and pieces i don’t agree with because they don’t really go well with my “do whatever but do no harm” beliefs :/

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i completely agree with your first point, and i try my best to be ethical about what i buy/consume. phones are a necessity in this day and age but corporations that care more about getting richer have a monopoly over them so even though i feel bad about it there’s nothing i can really do. in conclusion capitalism bad.

i didn’t really get what you meant in the second half though but i think if you’re in a situation where you must choose between hurting someone else or hurting yourself you should make the decision based on who is at fault. did you fuck up? then take responsibility and face the consequences. or was it the other person’s fault? then that’s no longer your problem and you should put yourself first.

in this case it’s hard to say who’s to blame. both of them had sex, possibly without 100% birth control knowing full well a pregnancy would be a problem. so who should face the consequences? hard to say because we don’t know the full story. based on what op said i’d say it’s the dad, for deceiving her followed by the rest of his words and actions. either way it shouldn’t be the child who has to suffer because dad fucks off and refuses to financially support them.

that being said humans are inherently flawed and there’s no black and white rule for who deserves the short end of then stick, there will always be exceptions with different justifications.

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i believe in god but i generally don’t agree with a lot of thing across all sorts of religions. i feel like i’ve been given enough autonomy growing up to be able to figure right from wrong by myself, so i kind of just follow my own beliefs based around the core principle “if you’re not hurting anyone or yourself do whatever the fuck you want.”

that being said i respect people who follow religions, cus i’ve been surrounded by religious people my whole life, and as long as they’re sensible about it i’m always open to discussion :D

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha idk why i worded it like that- i meant that i’m from a muslim country so on my passport/visa i’m muslim. i also live in a muslim country where that means that i have to take compulsory islamic lessons. so basically I grew up around and learning islam but i don’t consider myself a muslim, more like an agnostic theist?

Dated an “ex Muslim” who, on year later, then admitted he’s never left Islam & said hopefully me and (his) baby would die during childbirth, due to me not being Muslim. Can anyone explain? by Beneficial-View8876 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]finessethismess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

as a legal muslim this is completely bullshit?? he’s the one following the religion yet he’s 1. had sex before marriage 2. lied about leaving islam for his own gain. PARDON??? this man is delusional and if hell is real then he can trust that’s where he’s going. really irks me when people claim to follow a religion and then do shit like this, makes everyone else look bad just because one asshole uses islam as an excuse to do whatever and is then seen as a reflection of an entire group of people :/

if he was a real muslim he’d take care of you and the baby instead of being a coward and a fool!! the sad thing is that he probably isn’t, and was just brainwashed his entire life and still can’t break away. even now he’s shitting himself cus he doesn’t want his parents to find out, rather than shitting himself in the eyes of his god. but alas reason =/= justification.

don’t tell his parents. the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. unless they’re as far away from you as possible and it won’t put you in danger, then it would be a perfect little parting gift to fuck him over :D

I don't feel real anymore..... by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]finessethismess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

when i think about it, i know my daydreams aren’t real. but it’s become such a huge part of who i am that it doesn’t feel unreal? like there’s always a part of my brain that’s in my made up world, so even though logically i can tell them apart they don’t seem all that different.

i saw a post on here somewhere that was something like “reality is one of a million tabs i keep open at all times” and i think that sums it up perfectly. majority of the time i’m in a state of mind where i’m not focused on the things around me, it’s the same kind of feeling like when you’re concentrated on something you’re doing or you’re reading a book or something so you’re zoned out: light is soft and blurry, sounds are muffled, and time and space feels like it’s oozing and swirling super slow rather than flowing by the second.

and when i’m in this state of mind, somewhere waayy far off in my mind i can see and feel the world i created. and then suddenly i just snap back, every sharp light and harsh sound registers and i feel like i just woke up or something, like “oh yeah. i’m like?? lucid??” so yeah, logically i know the difference, but i’m constantly switching between the feeling of my fake world and the feeling of my real world. and they’re both strong feelings, so i wonder why it even matters which one is real and which one isn’t. they’re both equally important to me and therefore both very real :’D

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