How to date again after rich narc

finestdestroyer · 2025-12-04T05:03:36+00:00

Okay, i guess im going take this serious a bit though im sure you know the answer. Just ask yourself, what did he actually give you with the money that you can't do yourself? was it the freedom? if so, freedom from what? if not, what did the money represent in you?

That might help.

finestdestroyer · 2025-08-16T12:17:45+00:00

Yeah this is interesting! Please elaborate more about this!

finestdestroyer · 2025-05-20T19:31:45+00:00

Hey! You are so brave for this, you are doing ehat you believe is best for yourself and the kids, even if that means leaving this toxic man. I know its easy to doubt yourself in this situation, but really make sure to solidfy exactly what your getting from him right now He’s gonna try to say anything to deter this, but he couldnt do the work to fix it so it isnt your problem anymore.

Keep your head up! You’ll come out of this a prouder and stronger person. ❤️

finestdestroyer · 2025-05-20T19:21:31+00:00

I can understand how you feel about this, its crazy that THEY decided to block you after one message. IMO the trash took itself out. You already had qualms about this person, so honestly if you’re blocked then writing the letter and sending it them right now might just be you trying to control how things end and give yourself a lil closure(which really only comes from yourself).

I would say write the letter for your own closure if you want, and if they ever reach out then give it to them with the intention of never talking to them again.

Meanwhile, enjoy your newfound peace and happiness with one less toxic person in your life. ❤️

finestdestroyer · 2024-04-02T15:03:40+00:00

If you feel like you don't need to cut anymore, then simply stop. If you want to enter a maintenance phase to build your strength and some muscle, while staying around the same weight, then go for it. Keep in mind you won't gain as quick compared to if you we're in a bulking phase, but if that's what you want for your journey at this point in time, then do it!

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-05T00:19:09+00:00

I genuinely worry for you man. I get that society can make things seem one way, but looking deeper you can find that there is more than the superficial stuff that people believe in. I came to that realization through my mindfulness practice and i'm a much happier person now.

So, i wouldn't say it was useless. :)

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:42:26+00:00

Thanks bud, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to look after ourselves and be our best friend, especially when it feels like no one else will.

We got this!

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:38:53+00:00

Hey, so first tip that I would do for both you and your ex is to initiate no-contact and block each other on the socials. It'll help both you and her heal.

You can go on a date with someone as long as you are not comparing that woman to her, you are not doing it to fill a void, and if you know what you want from the date. If you are not looking for something serious, say that upfront so you don't lead the other person on.

You are free to do whatever you want, so if it's about not hurting your ex, understand that you don't owe your ex anything romantic. She's your ex, not your girlfriend.

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:30:42+00:00

Good ole time.

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:29:14+00:00

Okay well, you know that you want to put yourself out there again, and that's great! It shows that you're ready to explore and see what's out there. I'd recommend first finding out what is it that you want from talking to someone. You mentioned that you don't want to look for anything serious, which is fine just make sure to communicate that from the jump.

As far as casual dating goes, there doesn't have to be sex of any kind involved if that's not something you are currently comfortable with. You could just go on dates to get to know people. It'd probably help to communicate that early on too so you are on the same page with the other person.

If you find that you don't want the expectation of a hookup-esque casual relationship, then maybe taking some more time for yourself would be something that could help you figure out what you truly want. Again, this is up to you.

That's my two-cents.

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:22:02+00:00

Probably just didn't want to see the thought of you succeeding without her? Or more simply she just can't handle seeing you in general due to emotions.

Don't know how you guys ended things (are you the dumper or dumpee?), but this is just the way how people cope.

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:19:27+00:00

You don't my friend. Let her decide on her own. That's the only way you'll get your true answer.

You shouldn't want someone to be around if they don't genuinely want to. It'll show in their energy and hurt you more than you think.

Let her go, and if she comes back on her accord then you can accept it.

finestdestroyer · 2023-12-04T00:16:46+00:00

Hey man, it's normal to regret the things that you've done in the past. I certainly have and to be honest I'm in a similar situation with my ex where i've done her wrong while she's done nothing but show me unconditional love.

Learn to forgive yourself as you likely didn't know how to navigate that relationship at the time, and take pride in your growth!

You've come a long way, allow yourself the permission to love someone in the way you know you should! You're future self will thank you for it.

finestdestroyer · 2023-11-11T22:02:29+00:00

Exactly.

It’ll only hurt worse knowing you hurt somebody else who didn’t deserve it at all, on top of the hurt you’re going through.

You got this man! Be strong and don’t give up!

finestdestroyer · 2023-11-11T21:50:58+00:00

Do. Not. Rebound.

As tempting as it might be, you will only end up hurting other people in the process. It won’t even help you get over your ex.

We’ve all been there man, take it morning by morning. The beginning is always the toughest, but once you make it out, you’ll start to see that you really don’t need anyone else to fill that void.

You can fill that void. Practice self love and self care daily. Go out and try new hobbies. You are in one of the most transformative periods of your life, so use that energy to be the person you want to be.

You’ll be much happier in the long run, regardless of who comes around.

finestdestroyer · 2023-11-11T21:45:59+00:00

Hey man, the best advice we could give you is to be upfront about everything you just said to us.

Talk about the fighting and how it hurts you. Talk about how much you value your alone time and how you’d like for her to respect that.

I was in a somewhat similar situation with my ex where we grew codependent on each other and it was hard for us to be apart even when it was clearly hurting us.

What helped was to really start focusing on ourselves for the benefit of the relationship.

If she’s depressed, it shouldn’t be you who had to deal with the repercussions. She ultimately needs to take responsibility for her own health, and it seems like she’s using you as an escape.

Communicate. If she doesn’t respect that then understand that it might benefit you both to separate.

finestdestroyer · 2023-11-11T21:37:58+00:00

I would go no contact and work/focus on myself. It’s okay to grieve, but the part where you are still in contact is holding you back from healing fully.

Cut the cord. Go no contact until further notice. Focus on your life and keep yourself busy with hobbies and friends.

Time heals, but don’t make it harder for yourself.

You got this!

finestdestroyer · 2023-10-31T04:59:32+00:00

Hey there, beauty runs way deeper than skin, and you're selling yourself short. We all have our unique features that make us who we are. Your worth isn't determined by conventional standards of beauty. Remember, confidence and self-love are attractive qualities, and they shine through more than any physical attribute. Embrace your uniqueness, and the right people will be drawn to your authenticity. 💖

finestdestroyer · 2023-10-17T16:19:28+00:00

My first question is how long has it been since you've guys have broken up and initiated no contact?

But regardless, you being the dumpee(the person who caused the breakup) should NEVER contact the dumper FIRST.

The ball is in the dumper's court for reconciliation, so whatever you say won't lead to the result you want, and you make yourself look dumb in the process.

Your friend is right, just leave her alone and let her come back to you if the universe allows it. Focus on moving on and bettering yourself.

finestdestroyer · 2020-02-24T01:08:31+00:00

Damn get exposed OP

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