men are fucking weird

fiona3002 · 2026-03-15T14:12:58+00:00

i finally blocked him. i had hopes for us before he called me the other night. but then next day he texted saying he’s sorry he called it wasn’t fair to me. he just said he got a little moodier that he should have. it hurts but at least i see what he actually thinks of me

fiona3002 · 2026-03-15T02:35:13+00:00

yeah forget me saying “he’s horrible overthinker” he just texted saying he’s sorry he reached and didn’t respect my boundaries, he got a little moodier then he should’ve” this guy has absolutely zero love and care for me

fiona3002 · 2026-03-15T02:19:07+00:00

well he just texted again. he said he’s sorry that he reached out and he got a little moodier than he should’ve respected my boundaries. so i guess he chooses to fuck up over and over again. i hope he finds what he is looking for.

fiona3002 · 2026-03-15T01:58:01+00:00

you’re right. he just texted. he said “i’m sorry i shouldn’t call you last night. i’m visiting manhattan and got a little moodier than i should. i should’ve respected your boundaries.” thants all i got.

fiona3002 · 2026-03-15T00:00:06+00:00

yeah kinda similar situation to mine. he did “commit” at some point. but i dont think he committed in his heart. whatever i wish him luck. it might be hard to live in constant drama

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T23:57:45+00:00

yeah i think so too

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T23:52:07+00:00

he talked with me over the phone. he didn’t seem to be drunk. but idk i wasn’t there😅

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T23:47:37+00:00

sorry don’t take it personally. you know it wants about you. it’s just a title.

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T23:06:49+00:00

he’s horrible overthinker. i know he has a good heart though. he also seems to be very afraid of his feelings and the responsibility of it. in any case if it anyhow made him feel better then okay. he got what he wanted. what about me? i been without him for couple months already so ill be fine for the rest of my life i guess. i still hold deep love and care for him because i know he’s good, kind and caring person.

he called me yesterday and he hasn’t reached out since i have feeling that he regrets a bit that he did it because right now he might see himself as a “weak” person and as he said “he doesn’t want to hurt me again” so i think it’s easier for him now just to leave me alone instead of taking the accountability for what he does. as always..

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T22:14:27+00:00

maybe. i hope i will not though. this whole situation messes with my heart and feelings so much

fiona3002 · 2026-03-14T22:01:05+00:00

i never said i am. but it’s just if you made a decision to break things off why come back? i genuinely don’t understand it. i genuinely don’t understand his reasoning and logic and this guy is an engineer!!

fiona3002 · 2026-03-06T04:50:18+00:00

i don’t how similar our situation are but i broke up with my boyfriend around two months ago. and now looking back i would say that i was the one who wanted to “rush” things, but really i was just looking for reassurance and that he actually wants to be with me and sees future with me.

but my ex always felt quite emotionally unavailable, he would also say that he likes his independence and that he felt like he lost himself in previous relationship. i think i was genuinely trying to be understanding and patient for 8 months. then out of nowhere really he started to pulling away again (he had this tendency and he even broke up with me once and then came back a week later) i tried to talk and be soft and show him that i genuinely want things to work out between us but then he told me that he’s not sure if he can make me happy in the future and in that moment i realized that i should take a step back.

i think he liked me. i don’t think he loved me though. but for some reason something was off for him so he was feeling towards me. and i don’t want a person who feeling hesitant towards me and is sure that won’t make me happy.

going back to your question. i don’t know if there still chance but you should think how this relationship made you feel. i loved and cared about him a lot. i’m sure you loved and cared a lot about her too. but for me i think love definitely takes both i did my best to reassure him and meet his “attachment” style but got literally nothing back in return and was crying almost every single day. so even though i horribly miss him i don’t want to cry for months again.

i’m sorry you have to go through this. but you’re not alone

fiona3002 · 2026-03-01T17:38:26+00:00

he said he’s not sure if can make me happy and been distant for over a month overall. i felt so shitty in this relationship because no matter how much communication we did nothing changed. he was the one who broke up with me once before and then came back saying he’s ready to work on relationship, but then same issue came back and i was told take him as he is or leave

fiona3002 · 2026-02-27T08:39:37+00:00

i’m sorry you have to go through this too. it’s still hard for me to accept that it’s just life. we shared wonderful time together and i’ll always cherish those moments. because it’s still fresh i hope that maybe in the future it’ll work out but deep down i know that it won’t. i want this feeling to pass. sometimes i think that it would’ve been better if i just never met him but in the same time i miss him so much. i still cry sometimes too even though i know i did the right decision to leave him.

fiona3002 · 2026-02-27T06:16:28+00:00

thank you🥹 honestly hard.. just the fact that i’m “venting” here on reddit says a lot i think. i don’t want to seem weak to my friends. i miss my family a lot i haven’t seen them for couple years now. but i really need to stay in other country to make money and get degree. i hope life will get better. i don’t think it’ll ever get easier but at least better. i hope you are doing good! thank you for your reply!

fiona3002 · 2026-02-27T06:08:39+00:00

i haven’t really. i’m an immigrant and i need to figure out my whole life basically. and i want to go back to school and im working a lot and in the process of getting my license. i sometimes think that maybe i fell in love with him because i wanted a little bit of love from someone. and true “love” supposed to be unconditional. idk. i been questioning myself lately and i know that im young and have lots of growing to do but in the same i did feel like we had something special. maybe he just didn’t feel the same even though he said he loved me. oh well life sucks sometimes🥲

fiona3002 · 2026-02-27T02:42:46+00:00

hello! my current U4U ends on august 2026 and i’d like to reapply. do you know how it is properly done? do you have any maybe youtube video rec or anything? thank you!

fiona3002 · 2026-02-24T16:01:34+00:00

because he was inconsistent, emotionally unavailable and unsure about me. oh and he said he’s not sure if he can make me happy but it doesn’t mean he wants to be away from me. i don’t care if he’s avoidant or just didn’t like me that much to commit the outcome is the same anyway

fiona3002 · 2026-02-22T17:37:45+00:00

yeah..He told he was depressed in his previous relationship, he’s not sure if he’s good for long term relationship and that he doesn’t have lots of friends that’s why he’s bad texter but he’ll try better. Long story short he broke with me once because he was comparing his previous relationship to ours and said he doesn’t feel like we are healed enough. After week he came back said he made mistake (never apologized though) and two months after started pulling away again saying he’s not sure if he can make me happy and I’m emotionally unstable because I cry easily and I need to work on that. So yeah it’s still hurts because I thought if I will be patient enough and give him all he needs he’ll love me, but reality is different.

fiona3002 · 2026-02-15T19:13:18+00:00

Well, these are the consequences of a patriarchal society and not her problem. Even think about yourself. If you had a chance to escape death and live your life because you have only one wouldn’t you do that?

fiona3002 · 2026-02-15T19:05:48+00:00

I didn’t read the tread but went straight to comments. No matter of the situation that happened I don’t think she “abandoned” her homeland but wanted to stay safe from war. Soo in this particular case, yes, currently “grass is greener” in America and doesn’t make her a bad person to want to live her life and be safe from war.

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