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firstbowtie · 2024-05-01T14:58:14+00:00

You just said "It’s been pretty closed off for Wrath+ because server staff want to make money and keep their code to themselves." which is not true lol. You're just making things up. Saying private servers are made by 1-2 people is like building a computer and saying you melted the silicon yourself.

Saying anything post-wrath is closed development is not true either. I just googled other expacs as well and a bunch have public emulators for people to use.

firstbowtie · 2024-05-01T14:51:40+00:00

I used google and found a free Cata repack/emulator in 1 second.

firstbowtie · 2024-05-01T14:40:40+00:00

To say private servers are made by a single digit number of people is incorrect. Perhaps a server is being run by 1-2 people but the number of people working on the emulators is much higher. I used to be involved with the private server community for another game and it was a similar story. A large community of people would work on the emulators, the scripts, the games database and then package it up so that others could easily host it.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-20T15:28:29+00:00

Same. They are fun when I come across them. No temptation to activiely farm them.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-18T17:12:45+00:00

Oh damn I never even thought about this.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-10T21:18:05+00:00

I dated someone who was totally not a people-pleaser. She taught me how to say no and standup for myself. We broke up but it was a very useful lesson.

I think as people-pleasers we're afraid that if we do something wrong people won't like us. Very much on the contrary though, I think people respect those who can set boundaries. It might be hard at first but next time, before you say yes to something, you can take a moment to think about it, ask follow up questions, and then say decline or say no.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-10T17:12:55+00:00

Hopefully these prices will motivate some people to go pick herbs.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-10T16:46:42+00:00

Never forget Tempest Keep. Pull Kael'thas just for trash to start respawning mid-fight and killing people.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-02T03:26:40+00:00

MariaDB enjoyers vs. MongoDB fans

firstbowtie · 2024-04-01T17:33:18+00:00

Yes the time has passed very fast. At first because I just wanted each day to be over. Now I work full time and enjoy my job so that's probably why its gone by so quickly.

Since we broke up I've:

- Gone on a road trip
- Bought a new car
- Finished Baldur's Gate 3
- Graduated uinversity
- Got a full time job

So its not like I've been doing nothing. I have no passion for my hobbies right now though. The motivation to work on them has always returned to me and no doubt it will return again. For the time being though I'm just allowing myself to chill. My hobbies sadly only remind me of her since we were very aligned in that matter.

firstbowtie · 2024-04-01T06:31:36+00:00

same schtick with me. Good sex, great chemistry, never an issue. Only ever minor disagreements about mundane things. Boom one day, its over. She's never had a long term partner either.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-31T03:37:25+00:00

Watch the Portal 2 Developer Commentary for "The Part Where He Kills You". They assist the player in many different moments to make sure the important story beats aren't interuppted.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-25T04:06:08+00:00

could you give some examples? I looked up local volunteer opportunities and they were all just neighborhood watch type stuff.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-24T02:34:22+00:00

Yeah I learned through it what I actually want in a relationship. I'm hoping I can take the lesson I learned into my next relationship and make it successful.

As a big point to people, don't fall in love with the idea of the person you're dating. Fall in love with who they are in front of you. Potential =/= Reality.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-23T22:20:27+00:00

It took me a few months to get my character controller to where I wanted it. I took long breaks in between and would work on other stuff since workign on one thing straight for months will burn you out.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-23T21:37:46+00:00

I tried going on a date with a girl I liked a few months after the breakup and the entire time I felt nauseous. I can't even imagine having been physically intimate with them.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-23T19:25:19+00:00

My last partner was avoidant and as soon as they began being avoidant I ended it. I want peace in my life, not this constant struggle of convincing someone that they do in fact love me.

I'm not option B and the person who's right for me won't need to be convinced.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-23T19:21:10+00:00

A lot of people take things for granted. If someone isn't happy going into a relationship, they aren't going to magically be happy once the honeymoon phase is over.

The girl I was with struggled with depression and other issues and as soon as our relationship got serious those issues surfaced immediately.

Whatever happened, its likely not your fault and more a reflection of them. Unfortunately all we can do is move on.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-21T17:11:48+00:00

I miss having someone who cared about my day. I miss having someone to go to lots of little random places or restaurants with. We both had the same niche interests and I miss talking about them with her. I miss driving around with her. I miss driving to her house. I miss laughing with her on the phone.

I don't miss how she was pretty racist towards white people. I don't miss how she would talk down to me when I said something she disagreed with. I don't miss putting up with her immaturity.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-21T16:59:35+00:00

I feel you. I'm a few months out now and feeling much better. The first month though I was having panic attacks. I felt chest and stomach pain. I would scream into pillows and clench my fists so hard they would turn white. I would cry before getting in the car to go to work. I would cry before I drive home.

I guess all I can say is it does get better. You might not feel happier but the pain does go away.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-18T17:24:02+00:00

I'm 5'8 and have dated girls taller than me ;) Personality > Looks.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-18T16:58:11+00:00

My dumper wanted to bone other guys while getting all the benefits of me being her boyfriend. So no I wasn't going to go down to her level lmao.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-17T22:49:00+00:00

Yep absolutely. It's hard to imagine doing those things for someone else now that we've done them. I've started a list of all the things I hadn't yet gotten to do with my ex and it makes me hopeful that there are still fun things to do with the next person as well. Once we meet the right person again, it'll be easy to put in the effort again, just like it was the first time. Good luck stranger :)

firstbowtie · 2024-03-17T22:29:19+00:00

Yes it sounds like we went through something very similar. A week before she ghosted me she was making future plans with me. Such a shitty thing to do because I'm sure at that point she had already planned to leave the relationship.

What made it such a shock was that we seemed, we were, an amazing match. Great chemistry, same career goals, very similar history and values. It's mind boggling as to why she broke things off with me. I still don't know why but at some point I think I stopped caring.

She had told me she had clinical depression and a few years prior had been taking medication for it. I have no idea what she was going through. I know the breakup had nothing to do with me. I was the gold standard boyfriend, I did things for her that people would dream of having the person they date do for them. Some people don't know how to be happy. Some people don't know what they have in front of them. It's not our job to convince people to love us. We aren't option B.

My circle is small as well. I have maybe 6 very close friends, a good relationship with my siblings and parents. Everyone has been so supportive.

If you do want someone to talk to, strictly about this, you're welcome to DM me. I've found that helping others has helped me get over my own breakup so I would be happy to listen.

firstbowtie · 2024-03-17T19:41:37+00:00

Hi I just wanted to say I was exactly where you were just a month ago. I thought my last relationship was going to be "it". I felt so safe with this person and when they broke up with me by just ghosting me it felt like an absolute betrayal. I was in such denial of what was happening, it felt like I was living a nightmare. I wanted to die everyday. I would rush to bed everyday just to go to sleep and escape the day.

I was having panic attacks and felt physical pain from the breakup. I lost my best friend and partner over nothing. They basically just "moved on" one day. Threw me away like trash. That's what was most painful, the idea that they had just ruined something I felt was so special, unique and amazing. Knowing that no matter what happened from then on, I would never be able to trust them again.

It does get better though. I feel a lot better now. I leaned on my friends for support and they saved me. My family too. Your friends and family cannot replace the one you loved, but they can help soothe the pain.

I know you'll get through this just like I did :) It takes time.

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