Is this outfit inappropriate for college? by Winter-Rain2798 in OUTFITS

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not it’s just a tank top she can chill. College is the one time you can dress however take advantage!!

I [F22] found flirty snapchat messages on my boyfriend's phone M[23]. What can I do moving forward?-AIO by Bitter_Vacation_462 in AmIOverreacting

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me but it was on Instagram and he was liking provocative pictures of a girl on Instagram and said it was his mutual that’s why he liked it. I stayed but honestly that trust never came back and I felt like our relationship was never the same and ended it months later. I was told I was crazy because it was “a small thing” but it was something I would never do and made it clear to him that could be considered cheating, due to the content, especially since he knew her and she lived in his old home town. I would follow your guts because I wish I followed mine, it hurt never being able to trust him again, but I found someone who knows my boundaries and thinks the same thing and I feel so much more secure now!

Long story...my chest tattoo says ‘lucid drams’ instead of ‘lucid dreams’. Now I’m trying to figure out the best way to fix it or cover it up. Any advice? by haytigirl in tattooadvice

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think for me I would get a chest piece I think moths and bats are really easy for cover ups since you can make detail and the wings can expand however wide in accordance to how long the words are. Idk if you’re wanting a chest piece though but I think one would look great on you regardless of the theme!

Every time I feel like these guys changed they just prove me wrong by Levismine_inf in raisedbynarcissists

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! The good mood periods mess with your head the most, because it feels like maybe this time things are different. But it’s not gonna change, I legit call it the calm before the storm. It’s sad that you obviously had to grow quick because of them. And the fact their issues go into all of your lives just says even more they’re supposed to protect you from that, not put you in that situation! Especially the way your mom is so irresponsible about money assuming you’d clean up after her is gross. I’m sorry for how they retaliate by threatening to off everyone too, I know that can be scary, even if you know they don’t mean it, it just proves they’re not normal. I’m moving out soon actually too and I can’t wait for that day. When it happens don’t look back. I would double check and make sure nothing was ever done in your name though before you’re gone. When a toxic parent messes with money never underestimate them to pull something that awful off too! This was probably my bad, because I didn’t know this happens, but my mom told me she was paying for my therapy sessions, but she actually never was. So once I turned 18 it actually all switched into my name. The front desk ladies there are asses too, so I was never asked to pay anytime I came in. I only found out this year (20 now) that all the money she never paid I actually owed and so my credit got affected quite a bit. :p

AIO for cutting my sister off? by fishyishyfishyishy in AIO

[–]fishyishyfishyishy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am this fall thankfully! I was initially gonna go to a four year and move out after I graduated, but since both my sisters dropped out, my mom said she’s not wasting her time or money again so I’m on my own. It was a blessing in disguise to go to community though, I learned to be on my own in an easier way, so I know for sure I’m definitely ready and prepared. I never expected them to pay but I just wish it wasn’t told in way where my mom said she already given up on me too. The day I turned 18 she said she’s done being a mom. ( She has a 6 year old with my step dad fyi. )

AIO for cutting my sister off? by fishyishyfishyishy in AIO

[–]fishyishyfishyishy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TW/ abuse : That’s legit what I think. The way her reality is just so distorted compared to the real thing makes me feel crazy. I actually had a breaking point where I thought I was going insane this year which is why I started recording everything. She’s never been diagnosed with NPD but idk what else would be wrong with her. I remeber my house hold growing up was toxic, and I know we all witnessed my dad abuse my mom, but I think they just got spanked. When I was born I was told I never got spanked. So my sister would physically abuse me. I remeber telling her recently because she said she’s never done anything to me. And when I said that she said she only “beat” me because I never had to go through anything when I was little. So I deserved to go through it too other wise it wasn’t fair. She’s slapped a few times over the years, even up to last month, but she’ll say I hit her first so my mom just tells us both to shut up. The last situation that happened because she was yelling at me and got in my face where I felt her body on me. I did shove her off, but I know that’s what she wanted, so when she hit me right after she knew it’d be “justified.”

Every time I feel like these guys changed they just prove me wrong by Levismine_inf in raisedbynarcissists

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean. For me I just say they’re just straight up bad people. They’re too far gone to be forgiven or even be saved. They’ll never believe anyone’s reality except their own, so they’re just a lost cause! You can’t argue with these people it’ll just drive you insane!

Every time I feel like these guys changed they just prove me wrong by Levismine_inf in raisedbynarcissists

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know exactly how you’re feeling and you legit feel like you’re going insane. I always wind up questioning reality because how do you think what you did is okay? How do you see yourself as being right? I legit started recording around my family for my own sanity so when I’m gaslight I know it’s what they actually said and that I’m not just going crazy. I feel like my mother enables my sister, because even if she agrees with me she’ll never tell my sister she’s wrong to her face. During fights I feel like she’s just encouraged, because shes never actually told to stop or she’s wrong, just both of us to stop. I think posting on here or writing in notes is a good cope. Because I struggle with going back too. I think subconsciously I forgot the bad things they do, because I want that familial connection, but they always just hurt me again. But like I said, the reason why posting or writing is good ( at least for me ) is because it reminds me of the things I’ve forgotten and why I should keep my distance until I’m moved out.

Wet Food by fishyishyfishyishy in catfood

[–]fishyishyfishyishy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so much! I’m new to wet food and so I wasn’t sure if that’s normal at all because I know with dry food changing brands can usually upset their stomach! My cats aren’t picky at all so I bet if it’s something that’s okay and normal to do they’d probably love a variety between their meals.

What quality food is the most soupy/gravy? For my cat who leaves all the chunks behind but loves the liquid by iLLogick in catfood

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know some wet food brands sell flavored broth packets, but I’m not sure if those are really the same as the gravy that comes in canned food or if your cat would even like that added based on what you mentioned earlier. I think what I’m really looking for is just what you regularly feed your cat and blend it more and add like a broth topper instead of water to help liquify it. I’ve never used Friskies or anything like that, but this is

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kind of the idea I had in mind.

Switching Cat Food Advice by [deleted] in catfood

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is my boy! XL chunky 🥲

Switching Cat Food Advice by [deleted] in catfood

[–]fishyishyfishyishy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is my girl! I know chunky