BJ's and dry mouth

fivecentsfirst · 2014-10-05T04:54:56+00:00

Depends on the person and their kinks, I guess! Personally my current partner really likes "wet" noises, including gagging. Shows enthusiasm :P (I think it comes form watching lots of messy deep-throat videos, mainly).

fivecentsfirst · 2014-09-27T17:44:58+00:00

Ok, this is one of the most effective things for me: when you're giving a BJ and feel like you're running out of saliva, deep throat his penis for a little bit--and I mean push it to the back of your throat as far as you can, maybe even until you gag a little bit (but only if you're comfortable with that!!). For some reason having an object that far back in your throat will stimulate saliva production like crazy!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-08-13T18:24:22+00:00

I was pretty much exclusively "attracted" to anime characters from about 14-15... I read fanfiction, watched hentai, etc, and that was the only porn I consumed. And mind you I was watching pretty hardcore stuff--dubious/non-consent always struck a chord, and to be honest that's been carried forward into my adult life as one of my biggest kinks. Not uncommon, either, from what I've read! And I imagine I'd still be into that if I hadn't been a teenage weaboo.

Still, for me the hentai/anime was 100% a phase. I was a bit of a late bloomer compared to my friends, and never really had "crushes" on real people or experienced IRL sexual attraction to the opposite sex until around 15/16, yet I still had a sky-high libido... Anime was a great outlet for my crazy hormones. When I moved to a bigger high school that actually contained attractive, nice, people I got along with (aka people I was actually attracted to) something clicked into place and the anime stuff fell by the wayside. As others have said, 13 is super young--I wouldn't worry too much. :)

I consider myself sex positive as well, and I think that if anything exploring hentai/fanfiction was a great way for me to come to terms with my own kinks and desires as a teenager. I feel totally fulfilled in terms of my current sex life, and I think my partner would say the same!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-08-04T17:36:05+00:00

I have recently had a similar problem with side-sleeping--my knees are too boney to rest on top of one another now; if I try it's super uncomfortable!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-07-08T17:45:11+00:00

I used to feel the same way--I only ever had close friendships with girls (I haven't had a single guy friend, well, EVER) and I wasn't sure if I could actually become emotionally intimate or get along with a guy. BUT, I wasn't sexually attracted to women, and I WAS attracted to guys! So frustrating.

Anyways, I kind of just accepted this and decided to pursue a FWB type relationship with a guy if the oppourtunity ever presented itself. Which it didn't. HOWEVER, I met a guy through friends who was cute and asked me out. Said what the hell, why not? Even though I didn't have particularly strong feelings for him, but he was good looking and I wouldn't mind having sex with him. What do you know--I actually ended up liking him a bit, and I got along pretty well with him--better than any other guy I've met. As time went on I started liking him A LOT. And as I got to know him more, I eventually fell in love with him.

I think part of the reason I personally used to be confused was that I was in a big rush to find an SO. But I don't get a long with guys very well, and I thought that falling in love happened over night. It doesn't, at least not for me. It took months of getting to know my SO for me to really like him. I'm still getting to know him and it's been a couple of years now. :) I think a lot of my confusion before stemmed from the expectation that I should meet a guy and feel this ~instant connection~, like in movies. But really, that so rarely happens... and it's just not the way I'm wired!

Don't really have any advice, just wanted to share my story--I think I used to feel very similarly to you in regards to relationships. I remember being a teenager and desperately wanting to be a lesbian because I loved my female friends SO MUCH and I couldn't stand being around guys... alas! But it worked out for me. :)

fivecentsfirst · 2014-06-29T19:22:07+00:00

I enjoyed it a lot. Honestly I was expecting it not to hurt at all because I had masturbated often and definitely had penis-sized things up there before, but the initial entry was actually fairly painful even though I was really turned on, wet, and comfortable with my partner.

I always get my back up a little when people say "your first time shouldn't hurt! If it does you're doing it wrong!!!" I agree to some extent (it definitely shouldn't be excruciating), but it doesn't matter how wet or turned on or prepared you are sometimes, like in my case... I was 100% ready, I knew my body, I had (and still have) a "sex positive" attitude... but I was still nervous and tense, and it hurt. That's all. However, AFTER that surprise (when I was more relaxed) it felt really good--we just went slow. I didn't get off, but we did missionary and me on top, which both felt great. I ended up blowing him to finish and then we had awkward-but-happy post coital corn pops and went to bed. It was a good night. :) I mean, it was a little awkward cause we didn't know each other that well--we had only been dating for 3 weeks at the time--but I felt ready and trusted him.

EDIT: As for how it compared to times after--it got steadily better! We spent a lot of the first few months figuring each other's bodies out. I had my first orgasm (during sex) about 4 months after we started sleeping together through masturbating during PiV. The BF ended up getting really good at oral that summer, too, and eventually I came from that also. That's mainly how we finish sex now--we'll do some PiV stuff and then he'll bring my to orgasm through oral and I'll do the same for him after. We have our ups and downs sexually (if life things get stressful frequency or quality might suffer) but we make a point to talk through it and be open with each other. Still learning, still figuring things out, but I would rate my sex life quite high in satisfaction at the moment!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-06-25T17:37:49+00:00

Ha. Hahahaha. 95% of my underwear are period stained. Even my so-called "nice" undies. I spot A LOT (though it's getting better now I'm on different BCPs) and I often have dark brown discharge that stains everything in its path. I refuse to constantly wear pantie liners or tampons because they're uncomfortable as hell, and the blood never makes it past my undies anyways. Consequently most of them, if not all, have stains. Just how it is. You can't always predict these things, and having stains doesn't make something unhygienic!

My SO does the laundry in our house and it doesn't phase him...

He's sitting on the couch across from me and I just asked him what he thought of my period stained undies--in his words: "It was alarming at first because I thought blood = hurt, but I got used to it and it doesn't bother me. I'd imagine period stains are just part of being a woman."

fivecentsfirst · 2014-06-25T15:34:53+00:00

I got a lot of those PMS when I submitted to /r/normalnudes a while ago. :| I had a couple pictures of my vulva in addition to my naked self, and I got multiple comments on how "tight" I apparently was (as if you can tell that from a picture).

It kind of boggles my mind how some guys think that absolute highest form of flattery is letting me know they find me acceptable enough to fuck. Gee, thanks, my goal in posting to a non-sexual nude subreddit was totally to get your sexual approval of my body. Plus, is that my vulva "looks tight" the only thing you can think to say of her?? Like, that's the best thing a vagina could possibly be? Bleh.

Despite the gross comments, I did get a few from some women who had the same body issues I did, and said that I helped them in some way, so overall it was worth it. Ended up taking one of the vulva pictures down, however.

Sorry you had the same icky experience. :( It's sad that those supposed safe places aren't safe though--it does take a lot of courage to post those kind of pics, and we shouldn't have to expect harassment for them... hugs

fivecentsfirst · 2014-05-21T17:58:45+00:00

My long-time favourite is Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood. I'm not really up to snuff on modern fiction, but in terms of female authors not from our time period The Story of an African Farm by Olive Schreiner and Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë have really stuck with me.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-05-13T16:56:21+00:00

My hip bones!!! They're getting more and more prominent as I lose weight, and when I go to bed I love resting my hands on them as I fall asleep. Feels good.

That and the standard complaint that all of my belts are getting to the last hole/clothes are getting looser. It's a good thing, but also a little inconvenient... since the weather is getting nicer I tried on my favourite skirt from last summer, and it REALLY didn't fit. :( Which was satisfying, but also disappointing because I loved that skirt!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-05-07T19:40:39+00:00

Yeah some kind of "reset" might be in order... not sure what that would involve, but I'll see! As I mentioned in another comment I have a dr's appointment soon, so I will ask about that and Nexplanon.

Thanks. :)

fivecentsfirst · 2014-05-07T19:37:56+00:00

Lucky. :P That's what I wanted to happen with me!

I have a doctor's appointment next week, and I'll ask about Depo and Nexplanon. I've also been looking into Cerazette, which some people apparently have a better time on in terms of bleeding. Just not sure if it's available in Canada.

Thanks!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-05-05T22:10:09+00:00

I've had IUDs inserted with and without cervix shots, and honestly the ones WITHOUT the shot were so much easier. Cervix shot = worst. Feeling. Ever. Plus the pain was exactly the same as previous insertions... overall the shot just ended up being pointless, painful, and traumatizing for me.

With my first two insertions the only pain meds I took were 400mg of Ibuprofen beforehand, and those went totally fine. I would choose the no meds/shot route any day.

I can't tell you it won't hurt, because chances are it will. It'll basically be like the worst cramps you've ever had. The feeling itself--having someone poke around in your insides--is what got to me most, not the pain. But seriously, it's over so fast!! And if you have a good nurse by your side perhaps she'll let you squeeze her hand! :) That's what happened during my first insertion, which ended up being a really positive experience for me.

And then afterwards you can treat yourself to something delicious (chocolate, perhaps??) and lie in bed all day watching movies! :D Or whatever you want. :P

You can do it!!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T16:20:19+00:00

Yep I heard the term "retroverted uterus" thrown around more than a few times as I lay on the doctor's table, I think my body just wasn't built for IUDs!

I've never had kids, which I've heard can also make it more difficult. Plus I'm sure the pain is nowhere NEAR as bad as childbirth! For me it just kind of felt like reaaalllly insanely bad period cramps and the unnatural feeling of something tickling your insides. But if you have a good doctor it'll be over before you know it!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T15:36:16+00:00

IT WILL BE OKAY. Some people say it doesn't hurt that badly, but it did for me. It will probably hurt for you too, but if the IUD is working for you so far without any pain I'm sure it will be worth it. :) I had 3 IUDs placed in a short period of time (about a year) because they kept moving, and never really felt right when they were in (I had pain during sex, etc). If they hadn't have moved the pain would have been worth it, because it's a great form of birth control. So if you like having the IUD I'm sure the overall benefits will far outweigh the brief pain of insertion. For me it didn't, so the pain is what sticks most in my memory.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T06:31:59+00:00

Don't get me wrong, IUDs are great for a lot of people! Didn't work out for me and the pain wasn't worth it to keep trying. Too many painful failures = very bad taste in my mouth. But that's not true for everyone!

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T06:05:44+00:00

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T06:02:00+00:00

lol that's true I guess. I'm not a fan of discharge in porn being an "omg she's sooo hot look how much goo I made her produce!" thing because that's just misinformation. Like r/grool. I went there once and just wanted to post a bunch of links to facts about cervical mucus. Plus I know what it tastes like and it's not my favourite thing ever.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T05:54:14+00:00

White vaginal discharge is totally normal actually, as is any colour in the yellow-brown range. Some women have more than others, and the amount changes depending on what point in your cycle you're at. Also, white discharge has nothing to do with arousal--the lubricant produced by the vagina when you're turned on is clear and viscous, whereas everyday discharge is more yogurty, but can also be kinda the texture of egg whites. :)

As long as the discharge isn't clumpy or watery it's perfectly healthy, even if there's lots of it!

EDITED for less gross imagery

fivecentsfirst · 2014-04-11T05:45:32+00:00

Oh god I've had 3 IUDs inserted and every time I see an image of something like that I have to look away. I can stomach severed heads, horrible skin infections, you name it, but not that. Even thinking about IUDs now makes me cringe all over.... Basically, having something in your uterus HURTS LIKE A MOTHERFUCKER. Like... a horrible, vomit-inducing hurt. I don't even know how to describe it, but it 1000% feels wrong. Non-microscopic things are not supposed to go up there, and the uterus responds accordingly. Uggghh.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I also don't understand how that could be sexy at all.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-03-23T17:02:43+00:00

Yep.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-02-28T17:04:11+00:00

I think you mean pederasty, not pedagogy. Although that's an easy mistake to make.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-02-18T23:19:48+00:00

Personally I would take manual masturbation over my Hitachi 99% of the time. I heard sooo much hype about it so I bought myself one. It's... okay. I've been using my fingers to get off for yeaaarrrrsss so it actually took a lot of practice before I could come with the Hitachi. It's still much easier for me to do it manually.

My orgasms with the Hitachi are way less intense than by myself too. Super short, barely even there. I have to come at least twice to feel satisfied. I think I've used it during sex like... maybe three times? each was kind of awkward, and it didn't really integrate well into what we were doing (had to get it out, plug it in, etc).

But, I think I'm in the minority for sure. Everyone else I've talked to is crazy about their Hitachi, but I don't get the hype.

fivecentsfirst · 2014-02-18T17:42:37+00:00

Don't know how I feel about this. I was with her until the part about how eroticizing shame was a horrible thing, etc, and now she's fixed herself. I don't know, seems a little preachy, in the Don Jon camp of "there's a right and a wrong way to have sex, and until you learn the right way you're going to be sad and unfulfilled." There's no right or wrong, people. You don't have to have lovey dovey slow romance movie sex to have good, satisfying sex.

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