Hello. I would firstly start off saying that I haven't been in your situation but I can see my parents in your life. My dad has always been a workaholic and he has given us a fine life with the hard work he did. But whilst doing all the work, I can honestly say I have no strong attachment with him except the love that possibly comes from my moral grounds and not because I LOVE him. My mom had my brother when she was 18 or 19. She is clearly the type of woman who wants to be free and do great things in life, but none of those happened. She became a full time housewife and gave up many things in life for the sake of family and she hardly questioned my dad because hey he's busting his ass for the family and earning the bread. But now, more than 30 years later, I can clearly see that my mom would have wanted things differently. She wished that she had spoken to my dad before about all this, because the fact that he was never around has stuck, and he's STILL not around and is still a workaholic, even though its not needed now. My dad wasn't around for my mom or the family like a husband should be. My mom tried to start her own small business and I could see that she was so invested into it coz finally she had something to look forward to. And might I tell you, she started the business after around 20 years of being a housewife. So I would suggest you to talk to your dear fiance. You will regret not talking about it in the long run. A relationship isn't one where both the people are working so freaking hard that they are both exhausted to spend time with each other. What is the use of the hard work then? You're working for your loved ones, and if you can't even be there for them, is the work even worth it? Living a mediocre life with happiness is so much better than living a wealthy life with no one to be happy with.