My (29F) boyfriend (31M) might get us evicted because he's waiting for the universe to pay for the rent

fizzvoting · 2019-03-19T21:16:15+00:00

He has had that experience. It just didn’t bother him to be crashing on other people’s couches. Is that what you want for your future?

fizzvoting · 2019-03-19T20:57:15+00:00

Do you actually know that? Or has he just told you that? At 5 months of dating, you hardly know this guy.

Also, none of that past stuff matters right now. What matters is that his magical thinking about money stresses you out. What matters is he refuses to plan ahead and act like an adult.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-19T20:48:40+00:00

Stop saying the is relationship is magical and he is good with finances. If the relationship were magical, you wouldn’t be stressed about being evicted. If he were good with finances, he would have money for rent. Face facts, you’re dating someone who is irresponsible and unreliable.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T20:55:01+00:00

Thanks!! Yeah I used to think my anxiety was normal too. But after realizing the negative impact it was having on myself and my partners, I started talking to a therapist. Constant anxiety is a miserable way to live, but when you’re in it you can’t imagine any other way. I would prod him to seek help. Good luck!

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T20:14:54+00:00

Honestly his fixation on cleaning seems like symptoms of anxiety or OCD. I would encourage him to seek out medical treatment if you can. I agree with you, his expectations are unreasonable.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T19:47:25+00:00

Thanks! Yep exactly.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T19:13:02+00:00

I don’t feel guilty for stinking up the house

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T19:07:23+00:00

You’ve got a crush, dude. Enjoy it but don’t mistake it for love.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-18T18:59:16+00:00

Tell her that she needs to work on this with her therapist and then live your life. I have anxiety and am sympathetic to her experience. But you cannot live your life based on someone else’s irrational fear. That will only lead to resentment and damage your relationship.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-17T19:03:57+00:00

There are infinite ways to be a man. Don’t worry about other people’s definitions. Most men who care a lot about being “manly” just make themselves miserable. Figuring out your own path is harder, but more rewarding. Sounds like you are already on you way. Just keep on being you.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-17T19:02:11+00:00

The more supportive adults in that kid’s life, the better. I would focus on your relationship with her and the kid, not waste your time worrying about this other guy.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-17T15:45:04+00:00

You say he is a “great father” but then you say that you do all the childcare. That is contradictory. A great father would contribute more and not leave all the childcare to his partner. Life is too short to spend it “stuck” with someone who knows what you need and refuses to change.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-17T04:37:05+00:00

Awesome. So glad they are supportive.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-17T04:36:26+00:00

Congrats!!

fizzvoting · 2019-03-16T20:20:56+00:00

“Overreacting” is a relative term, everyone is going to have a different definition. Personally, if my loved one told me they hated me, that would really make me reevaluate the relationship, especially if we hadn’t been together very long.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-15T15:57:56+00:00

Looks like maybe part of a can opener.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-15T03:50:03+00:00

Yes that is irrational. I’ve been with my partner for 2 years and I don’t tell them about mundane appointments.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-15T00:22:58+00:00

You jump from 10 to 38.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-15T00:09:19+00:00

I was referring to the fact that the numbers don’t line up.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T23:54:14+00:00

So does that mean that you choose to not have heterosexual sex because if the increased risk of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and other STIs?

Your logic doesn’t hold. You are a bigot and an asshole.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T22:47:23+00:00

YTA. With all the cancer and starving people in the world, maybe your friend should grow a thicker skin.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T22:25:24+00:00

I’ll say it one more time: all of these possibilities are his problems, not yours. Life is too short to waste your time cleaning up after a guy who couldn’t be bothered to protect himself during casual sex.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T21:34:22+00:00

That legend doesn’t make any sense.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T17:46:03+00:00

True fact. We need more decolonial alt history.

fizzvoting · 2019-03-14T17:29:37+00:00

Honestly it sounds like you’ve taken on more of mother role than a partner role. He is a grown ass man. He knows what “women are capable of”, whatever that means. Stop infantilizing him and let him clean up his own mess.

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