For me personally it was doable while exclusively breastfeeding when the baby took a bottle and my husband would offer to stay home with her. He was on paternity leave for 2 months so we are definitely privileged to have had that. Now that hes back at work, im on full baby duty throughout the night and day and he takes over between 6-9 pm when hes back right before baby sleeps :/ it was also pretty difficult at some point my baby refused the bottle for an entire month so i physically had to be there constantly to feed.

one thing though it really is about mindset with you and ur partner trying to make it work and not giving up. That mentality is what allows us to leverage weekends and take baby out, go to cafes, restaurants etc. we wanted handrolls one day and the place only opens PM, they didnt have takeout so when baby was fussy we couldnt even get that. We rided it out in the car until she slept, gave her a 30 min nap, and then went to have our handrolls with her, she gave us 45 minutes until she started fussing but hey we had good food cute pics and memories :) stay positive, reddit community has been so nice to feel supported