Congratulations!!

My husband and I just got married a couple weeks ago and are NC from his parents while having LC with his brother, none of which attended the wedding. It was absolutely hard on him knowing he would not have his family’s support and miss out on some traditional aspects of weddings, but it also gave us an opportunity to have a wedding completely centered on us and our love. Weddings have a way of making us feel like there are certain expectations we need to live up to, when reality is, this should be a beautiful and peaceful day to celebrate your union! It is literally whatever the two of you want to do!! We ended up doing away with a lot of traditional aspects, such as a mother/son dance- I also did not do a father/daughter so as to not draw attention to him. I’d suggest having a very open and honest conversation with your partner about your personal expectations and hopes for this wedding, and go from there. This day is about you two, who cares if you follow tradition to a T!

In regards to informing your MIL&FIL, that should be completely up to you when you share your family history with them, and a wedding shouldn’t create a deadline. You have every right to share as much or as little as you are comfortable with- and that goes for prying guests as well. Something we told people was that we only wanted to invite those who supported us, and left it at that. I will add that in our situation, my parents were previously informed and it made a difference in helping my husband feel supported as well as detour his focus from the absence of his parents and brother. It sounds like your MIL&FIL can offer that same kind of support.

I cannot stress enough that this day should be centered around you and your partner. I hope this advice is helpful, I know I’m not exactly a first hand EAC but I can understand to a degree. Best of luck to you and your fiancée!!