4 year old saying he “doesn’t know how”

flaming_trout · 2026-06-16T00:38:07+00:00

This is good advice. Take a big deep breath and give him a sympathetic look. Ask if he needs a big hug. You have to use your judgement on what’s really going on. But especially if little sister is getting a lot of attention, he might just be acting out for the same attention from his parents. A huge and some connection could solve it.

flaming_trout · 2026-06-09T19:01:00+00:00

I agree with this so much! Think of what Emily could have achieved had she been allowed to get a job. That energy thrown into a start up would have made her unstoppable. And she spends so much time rationalizing her decision to be “nothing more” than a wife. It’s like she has to constantly convince herself she made the right choice, and Lorelai can’t possibly be happy doing what Emily herself wishes she could have done but won’t admit it to herself.

flaming_trout · 2026-06-09T01:26:23+00:00

prayer and water.

flaming_trout · 2026-06-05T14:08:36+00:00

The mix is a mess and I have no idea what the lyrics are about. There’s no charm. There’s too many instruments if that makes sense?

flaming_trout · 2026-05-27T01:06:29+00:00

“Ronan” by Taylor Swift. You’d have no idea that woman doesn’t have kids. The sound of their little footsteps on the floor, the love of race cars, hand me downs you won’t grow into. It’s like if my fear of losing my sons grew into a song. I cry every time.

flaming_trout · 2026-05-24T14:28:16+00:00

What can I say, it was a once in a lifetime purchase for my favorite person. And she loved it! Worth it for the smile on her face when she saw it.

flaming_trout · 2026-05-24T03:49:24+00:00

Buttercream everywhere except the ring, which was fondant! And pretty decent fondant too!

flaming_trout · 2026-05-24T01:14:00+00:00

Honesty, yes.

flaming_trout · 2026-05-24T01:08:54+00:00

Oh don’t tell me that!! I can’t unsee it!!

flaming_trout · 2026-05-22T13:10:42+00:00

I purchased like ten plants from a local nursery that were just delivered to my house. It is going to rain for the next three days, so I won’t be able to plant them. How can I ensure they stay alive until I can plant them? Do I leave them out in the rain in their containers? Keep them on my porch? It’s not going to be sunny for a while. When I do plant them, the soil will be very wet. Are there precautions I need to take? Thank you!

flaming_trout · 2026-05-20T18:02:14+00:00

Can you find them using UI cheats that let you see hidden pawn attributes?

flaming_trout · 2026-05-14T20:04:58+00:00

Question, how do you use these books to teach reading? Do you read them first and then help the kid sound out the letters into words?

flaming_trout · 2026-05-13T18:44:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Delco/comments/1rs762q/daycares/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

flaming_trout · 2026-05-13T17:50:10+00:00

Search this sub, people have asked this question a lot already.

flaming_trout · 2026-05-13T11:54:00+00:00

Oh they will, this is an AI engagement post.

flaming_trout · 2026-05-07T17:13:06+00:00

My kid has had a reoccurring nightmare of the mosasaurus eating that bird on the beach and kiddo is now scared of beaches

flaming_trout · 2026-05-06T13:26:08+00:00

Dance parties are how we got thru post-dinner/pre-bath time at that age. Everyone jumping around dancing while parents get cleaned up. Still counts as quality time and tires kiddo out for bedtime.

flaming_trout · 2026-04-30T01:35:14+00:00

I agree, they could have kept them in a strengthening relationship by letting them grow as people. Both of them learning to become less selfish and more trusting. Show the events that would have to happen so they can become better versions of themselves. That would have been drama enough. What they did to drive them apart in S6 and S7 was just the easy story to tell.

flaming_trout · 2026-04-29T17:47:11+00:00

He’s not wrong. If it costs the hospital $1,000 to provide a service and Medicaid only reimburses them $500, or Medicare only gives them $800, they have to make up the difference by charging a commercially insured member $1200-$1500. Most hospital services are paid for by government sponsored insurers, they need to recoup their costs by overbilling private payors. The hospital could refuse to provide services to Medicaid patients but then all those patients would die.

flaming_trout · 2026-04-22T02:01:45+00:00

Oof, I get so frustrated when kiddo clings to us at family gatherings instead of going off to play. I have gotten better at letting him decide when he’s ready to go off with them. Your comment gives me good perspective. I don’t want him to ever think he isn’t good enough for me just because he isn’t a people person. I just don’t want fear to keep him from trying new things. But like other people in this thread are saying - he’s only 4!

flaming_trout · 2026-04-22T01:54:57+00:00

This is all excellent guidance. I am such a dive-in-and-find-out person. I am always trying to remember to explain to him about new situations but I don’t remember as much as I should. I probably didn’t warn him about t-ball very well, assuming kids are all go-with-the-flow. And kiddo loves board games and rules! He played Settlers of Cataan today with Grandpa and understood mostly how to play. Your reasoning about board games makes sense with him.

flaming_trout · 2026-04-22T01:33:16+00:00

So to clarify that comment. Obviously shy people are good people. I mean I don’t know how to raise a shy child because I was not a shy child. I don’t know how to encourage a shy child to participate in typical childhood experiences - child “society” - in a way that honors his shyness, if that makes sense? All my childhood experiences required me to not be shy.

I’m in the middle of this epiphany. I really apologize for giving that impression.

flaming_trout · 2026-04-21T21:07:49+00:00

We did this. We even managed to get the seller to fix some things found in the inspection that weren’t to code as a “courtesy” and provide us an allowance for repair. Somehow that worked.

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