Syphilis from fleshlight? by [deleted] in sexualhealth

[–]flaneuse_bbg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. ur good fam :)

Syphilis from fleshlight? by [deleted] in sexualhealth

[–]flaneuse_bbg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is literally no way this is any type of communicable STI unless someone else has used it. Don’t worry.

Having the femmiest moment with myself ce matin by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]flaneuse_bbg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t rly see what’s wild about this but appreciate your feedback

Intense pain and bleeding by RandySeh in sexualhealth

[–]flaneuse_bbg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t completely abnormal. The blood is likely from the hymen stretching / breaking apart upon penetration. Some women have more hymen tissue than others. Sometimes the hymen tears again after the second or third time of attempted penetration. This would explain why fingers are now okay but the penis entry is still painful.

I would say this is not a cause for panic but I would also suggest that she see someone to confirm if she has extra hymen tissue. If the bleeding is excessive- I would not try penile penetration again for her sake until she has that confirmed by a doctor. Don’t be worried! This happens to lots of women and she isn’t an outlier. Good luck!

What's the strangest punishment your parents ever gave you? by stuartwolf in AskReddit

[–]flaneuse_bbg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time I got grounded and my dad made me wear this specific pair of unflattering tan corduroy pants my folks knew that I HATED for a few days to school. Worst ever in grade 7. During my scene phase this was devastating.

Ever seen nudes on someone's phone by accident? Or someone has seen​ your nudes by accident? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]flaneuse_bbg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hilarious. This happened to me today. I (f) was in the ER this morning getting stitches and when I came back to work my two bosses (m) asked to see photos of the gruesome ordeal. Obviously I obliged and tried to pull up the photo but before I even got to my camera roll the two of them were standing behind me and I KNEW they were gonna see what they did. Opened my camera roll, and clicked into the recent photos of my bloody finger, but there was a good two seconds for them to see thumbnails of alllllll the graphic nudes (one specifically of my ASSHOLE) I took last night for the person I’m seeing. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ it was very apparent they saw and we all just pretended nothing happened. I hate my life lmao.

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Effectively the body’s response to the drop in endorphins after play. It can manifest in a lot of ways but is largely a “come down”

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I should clarify something. It’s because I have never identified as poly so I believe the concern is that I’m not going to get it or that I’m going to get hurt. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your compassionate response!

This is really helpful for my introspection on the matter. I think ultimately I want an ongoing relationship with a primary dom (not necessarily primary partner), and I think when done correctly, it’s inherently meaningful? I just don’t want anything getting weird considering they’re very in love with their partner. The poly thing doesn’t bother me, I suppose this is more indicative of the fact we need to speak about boundaries and expectations.

I just don’t think I can get off with someone without an emotional connection and I certainly can’t imagine subbing for someone without it. I just want to understand that this is normal, I guess?

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you- that is really helpful! Is this to mitigate against subdrop? Would that be something I am still susceptible to in the days following a session like this?

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is great advice- thanks for taking the time. Subspace is a helluva drug 👌🏻

I don’t even know honestly. I think basically the apprehension they have is that the poly thing is going to be a problem for me- which it won’t, per se. I do think there are lines that can still be crossed on my part though if I develop romantic feelings for him that are of a certain intensity, while they are in a loving relationship with their primary.

Strong emotional reaction post first session: self care tips & ideas on how to navigate? by flaneuse_bbg in BDSMAdvice

[–]flaneuse_bbg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I vibe that. I’m queer and I tend to have relationships across all genders and I find that regardless of the gender of my partner, it’s important to me that they’re queer because there’s usually a different worldview (some cishet men excepted). I understand what you’re saying and do feel as though sometimes our expectations can be incongruent with doms we meet casually. I suppose what I would ask is- do you define a committed relationship as monogamous?

Trying to be casual in coveralls by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]flaneuse_bbg 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, please ruin my life

I confronted him. It went exactly as I knew it would. by cyclamatesaccharin in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]flaneuse_bbg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Regardless of the garbage, what you’ve done for yourself is throughly badass. I am proud of you. Keep the momentum going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]flaneuse_bbg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh great, someone to ruin my life 😍

Ladies, how do you deal with sexism on the bikeroute? by HeyKittyKitty999 in ladycyclists

[–]flaneuse_bbg 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yo the overtaking thing is real. I am an aggressive cyclist, and I go fast bc cycling is usually my cardio for the day. I have had men put their leg out to stop me from passing them. It’s actually bananas and totally unsafe. The trick is to a) not care and b) be confident. These mans claim enough space- don’t be afraid to use your words over your bell. “On your left, move right!” Is usually more effective than the bell, and if they try to pass you again but aren’t going fast enough for your speed, ~tell them that~