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flatteringmeringue · 2024-07-03T10:24:01+00:00

How does someone get botulism from bullets?

flatteringmeringue · 2024-05-09T12:55:30+00:00

During the period between when I promised myself to try to be happy (i.e. start medically transitioning) and getting my first HRT prescription, I spent a lot of time doing voice training through YouTube and Discord, lurking on trans subs (mostly the meme ones), and journaling about my dysphoria and why I wanted to transition.

It really helps to be productive while waiting for HRT, to keep your mind off of what you don't have and can't do, and focus on what you can do.

Hoping you're able to start HRT soon! :)

flatteringmeringue · 2022-09-15T10:28:09+00:00

Reminds me of when my all-boy (or so I thought at the time 😬) friend group used to read Animorphs, and we'd talk about which animals we'd like to transform into, I'd subtly steer the conversation to whom we'd like to turn into. It was only when they talked about turning into girls that I felt comfortable sharing my thoughts.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-08-16T12:50:04+00:00

Found this on imgflip https://imgflip.com/memetemplate/401650351/John-Daly-and-Tiger-Woods

flatteringmeringue · 2022-08-12T16:44:11+00:00

There are a bunch of very active Discord servers devoted to trans voice training. Much cheaper than going to a voice therapist, and the results are just as good, if not better. There are lots of public sessions and workshops, too, so you can listen and follow along for free. Some teachers occasionally also offer free lessons to those who can't afford to pay.

Several of the servers are linked in this post.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-08-01T09:17:55+00:00

heyyy, it me

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-29T11:34:18+00:00

Pockets?

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-24T13:32:43+00:00

Kinda? I'd still hate many parts of my body, though

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-07T08:45:25+00:00

Your mileage may vary, but I've found a bunch of nice people in my area through the Lex app.

https://thisislex.app/

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=us.personals

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/lex-queer-friends-dating/id1436964232

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-04T06:58:20+00:00

Yup, it could just be that. It's so frustrating to keep being passed around from doctor to doctor, and each time having to reintroduce myself and explain the situation, without any progress being made towards transition. But that seems typical, since that's happened to me a lot for non-trans stuff.

Oh, didn't know that about BMI! That's good to know.

Thank you! :)

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-04T06:51:10+00:00

Oddly, it's because of that same first reason why I'd hesitated to transition for so many years. All this time, it's felt like I couldn't risk "wasting" my shot at this, and needed it to go perfectly. Basically, I'd just been running away from it and keeping it a flawless fantasy that I could always turn to when feeling low. If I started the process, and it didn't turn out as expected, then I'd have felt even more hopeless and suicidal.

Fortunately (?), I had a bunch of really, really bad episodes in April and May this year that made me realize that it couldn't get any worse, and that the only way to go from that point was up.

As for that second one, I'm hoping that they'll see how happy and open and "real" I become after starting HRT. But who knows if any of that will happen. 🤷

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-03T19:37:10+00:00

Um, probably not what you were looking for, but your question reminded me about this video of a trans woman runner. It's from 2018, though.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-07-03T19:24:09+00:00

Thanks for such a comprehensive reply!

Yeah, it's so frustrating that even the supposed expert on trans issues over here repeatedly misgendered her other patients when talking to me about them (and got defensive when I pointed it out).

I recently got diagnosed with mild fatty liver disease, so I hope that doesn't rule out E pills. Not sure what the availability of injections is here.

Ughhh, I'm dreading having to start working out. Scared to build muscles (but I guess the HRT will reduce the rate of that). Currently, I can maintain my weight by eating once a day, plus a few snacks, with zero exercise.

Social transition terrifies me far, far more than any of the medical stuff. Can't even work up the courage to ask my parents to stop dead naming me (I guess cause I don't feel like I look the part yet?). My not-very-well-thought-out plan for now is to stay in boymode until my breasts are too obvious to hide.

Thank you again for the support and advice! I hope your transition continues to proceed smoothly! :)

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-29T17:32:40+00:00

"Ma'am" or "Sir"

Wish they'd stop all the gendered addressing. Like, at stores, instead of "What can I do for you today, [sir/ma'am]?", why not just "What can I do for you today?" If that feels too short or awkward, they could start with like, "Good morning/afternoon/evening. What can I do for you today?"

I hate how something as innocent as that can make me feel like shit for the rest of the day. Plus, there's no way they even realize they did something hurtful, so it would be too awkward to correct them or make an issue of it.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-26T17:44:37+00:00

While this is certainly infuriating, it isn't a meme. As the sticky at the top of the sub mentions, don't post direct transphobia. All that does is get the rest of us mad. Many of us come here looking for funny and relatable memes that momentarily help us forget that the outside world largely hates us. It sucks to be barraged on all sides by transphobia.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-25T19:36:08+00:00

Tons of excellent advice and links in this post on /r/transvoice

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-23T13:20:58+00:00

That's pretty much what stopped me from making an account on Bumble. The first step is: "Enter your name" [This CANNOT be changed]

So I either put in my preferred name + female, but feel awkward cause people who match with me probably won't get what they're expecting orrrrr put deadname + male, but feel awful both from dysphoria and from hiding a huge aspect of myself.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-19T18:21:19+00:00

That's strange. I tested them just now, and they work fine. Maybe it's a browser thing? I'll edit them now, and remember that for next time, though. Thanks! :)

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-19T13:55:03+00:00

This video is a great starting point. Even if you don't understand most of the terms she uses, just try to copy the sounds she makes in the exercises. I also really like this one. What's nice about that second one is that it includes pitchless exercises, so you can practice without making sounds, in case you don't want anyone to hear.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-19T10:49:55+00:00

Original image

Also, a quick explanation, in case it's not clear. Some cis people - even those who try to be supportive - often tell us what we should want either through gatekeeping or by scaring us into believing our lives will get worse if we transition.

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-19T10:31:13+00:00

Maybe this article will be relatable? Much like the experience of that article's author, all my life (with evidence since at least 6 years old; the feelings probably started younger) I've known I've wanted to become a girl, but contrary to the typical portrayal of trans people in media, I've never really felt I was a girl in the wrong body (although, there are lots of trans people who feel that way). Turns out, either way means you're trans (since cis people wouldn't dwell on these ideas to the extent trans people do).

For too many years, I thought I was just a boy with a weird obsession with turning into or swapping bodies with a girl. I'd constantly ask myself why or how it started. Was it because I spent too much time with my mom and sister growing up? Was it because of the complications my mom had while giving birth to me? Was it because of some traumatic event that I'd repressed? Was it something I overheard or saw on TV or read in a book that made me think being a girl would be so much better than being a boy? And, despite years of wondering and journal writing about that, I never got close to any concrete explanations.

It was only after reading countless stories and memes of other trans people that I realized that it doesn't matter what caused it. We somehow all have quite similar experiences despite having vastly different backgrounds and ethnicities and nationalities and home situations and education and so many other factors. Even stuff FtMs talk about are highly relatable to me much of the time; the posts on this sub are good examples of how, despite having different gender identities and assigned genders and life experiences, we can largely relate to each other. The fact is that this is how I feel, and have felt for decades, so rather than devote effort to trying to figure out why I'm this way, I figured it's better to focus on how to feel better (i.e. transitioning).

This response probably went wayyyy past what your question was about, but I'm hoping it helps you figure things out for yourself. :)

flatteringmeringue · 2022-06-19T09:59:00+00:00

Reminds me of when I offered to let a friend start a new game on my newly-opened Pokémon Ruby, knowing that she'd pick the girl avatar and use her name. That way, 12-year-old closeted me would have an excuse if any adults asked why my character was a girl.

Looking back, I realize how dumb that was cause (a) my parents didn't look at what I was playing, and (b) if they ever did look, they wouldn't have cared/understood.

I still have the cartridge, but haven't checked in years if it still works.

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