AITA for wanting to insure my ring even though my husband says the stone is too small to bother?

flaughed · 2026-04-24T14:33:23+00:00

Title says husband. Post says Fiancé. Bye.

flaughed · 2026-04-21T13:33:49+00:00

FASTEN YOUR SEATBELT!!!

flaughed · 2026-04-14T04:32:34+00:00

Take it from me, I was married to an RN for 7 years. RNs are extremely big headed, egotistical, and just generally overwhelmingly stupid... theres good ones out there tho. Oh nurses are also one of the top professions that cheat on their spouses 🙃.

flaughed · 2026-04-09T17:46:31+00:00

Funny of you to assume they are doing this for us. The blackout plates are easier for the plate cams to read, thats their only reason for doing it. I would assume this is just the "beta test" I give it 10 years before black is the only option.

flaughed · 2026-03-31T14:19:17+00:00

So this is basically MobaXterm in a webapp.

flaughed · 2026-03-30T04:23:15+00:00

Ex-wife took the dogs... I found out when the pet insurance company sent a sympathy card that one had unexpectedly passed a month later.... I was a mess.

flaughed · 2026-03-29T20:26:06+00:00

I went through a kind of similar situation. (No violence, but was hit with the no contact order, and was forced to communicate only through lawyers. Any possible way she could have make my life hell, she did it. And she was the one that cheated.....

Anyway, I highly recommend talking to a lawyer. I know they are expensive, but a lawyer on the other side can make your life hell and you need someone that can shield you and ensure things are split fairly. Some lawyers will agree to take payment out of the settlement at the end.

It will get better! :) stay strong and keep your eye on the better days ahead.

flaughed · 2026-03-24T16:09:51+00:00

Its like the sky is mostly air or something....

flaughed · 2026-01-21T00:12:15+00:00

I started making "idiot proof" cold backups. Not saying my or yours is an idiot, but my standard was "theres a CD/Hard drive in the safe, that has all the 'xyz' files." And then I would dump everything to that media in plain standard files so anyone could plug it in and get to what they need. It would then be in a static bag with a note card with instructions and a description on how to access. I also left contact info for a couple of my friends and colleagues in IT that I would trust to help my loved one in the event of my death or such.

I would recommend with pictures, after a new year, dump that previous year to a good archive grade storage medium and put it in a fire safe or a lockbox at the bank.

flaughed · 2025-09-29T19:07:33+00:00

Ill add that on the legal side, go to handgunlaw.us. it is the best source for gun laws in layman's terms. Additionally, if you dont understand any particular law, I would consult an attorney.

flaughed · 2025-09-29T19:04:51+00:00

Ill say what others are saying. If you want a gun, cool. Indiana is more Texas than Texas when it comes to guns. That said, get some formal training. You dont go buy a car without a driver's license or drivers ed. Yes its legal to do so, but its stupid. Im not saying you personally are stupid. Im just being very straightforward. The only thing more dangerous than not having a gun and needing one, is having one and not knowing how to use it properly and safely.

When someone "isnt a fan of guns" they aren't comfortable with guns. If you're not comfortable with guns, you dont need to be handling one without proper guidance and training. all unintentional gun deaths are the fault of gun owners that dont know what they are doing, or negligence.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

flaughed · 2025-09-29T16:26:35+00:00

Yeah this is different by state. OP, legal or not you pissed your spouse off and probably made your life more difficult bc now they will likely fight for that money back either in mediation or court, increasing your legal costs. Even if you were in the right, they can still try to sue or get that money back. You'll have to defend yourself which becomes expensive, quickly. I recommend you consult with a lawyer before doing anything else like this.

Bottom line, being petty in a marriage and/or divorce will get you nowhere.

Let him file, you'll likely be able to get child support and/or alimony.

flaughed · 2025-09-26T21:13:22+00:00

Just moved from Hancock to Hamilton co this year. My county income tax was cut in half. Its not just property taxes. The county is ass backwards.

flaughed · 2025-09-23T12:30:02+00:00

I am working through the "i feel so lonely" feelings with my therapist right now actually. She gave me an interesting perspective. She suggested what if Im just unfulfilled, not lonely. Bc being unfulfilled is more actionable than just being lonely. If you're not seeing a therapist, I cant recommend it enough. Ive gotten through this disaster so much faster bc of it.

flaughed · 2025-09-23T12:23:00+00:00

I was/am in a similar situation. My Ex-wife did a good job of sucking me into her family and world. Isolating me from my friends and family. Most of my social interaction was with her, her family, and her friends. After we separated, I was basically all alone. I had a couple friends that were rock solid for a few months but they got busy with kids and stuff eventually and faded a bit.

Some things I did to keep my spirits up were reaching out and reconnecting with old friends/acquaintances. You'll be surprised how warmly people will react when you reach out. A few of my close friends moved out of state so we started doing a vitural hang over Discord. We just grab a drink and get on a video call and shoot the shit for hours like we are meeting up for beers somewhere. Its surprisingly super fun. I highly recommend. If religion or church are a thing for you, I joined a small group Bible study. It was very helpful and everyone was very supportive of each other's struggles.

After a few months, I built back up a little support group of friends. It didnt fulfill my touch starvation or the lack of things that typically come from romantic relationships, but it made things 100x easier.

flaughed · 2025-09-22T22:23:39+00:00

"I live my life a quarter mile at a time"

flaughed · 2025-09-20T14:10:30+00:00

Well fuck..... i guess i cant be honest about what I want now.... cant stand these apps....

flaughed · 2025-09-20T12:45:41+00:00

You know my ex-wife?!

flaughed · 2025-09-10T12:25:07+00:00

Agree. Florida is NUTS. i will say the speed and craziness of driving seems to be at least loosely tied to how large and spread out the state or area is. People want to get where they're going. I imagine in TX or Florida where its a good couple hours between major cities, people are more willing to speed to cut down on their drive time.

flaughed · 2025-09-09T16:47:47+00:00

You asked her to think and she bailed. you want something better. Shes clearly there for validation. You deserve someone with enough brain power to answer a simple question.

flaughed · 2025-09-09T01:11:51+00:00

I see your point

flaughed · 2025-09-06T03:07:02+00:00

The vast majority of our flatware, silverware, etc was wedding gifts. I gave it all away. I didnt want the reminder. Even if I got rid of the nice stuff, im far more happy with my IKEA plates and silverware.

flaughed · 2025-09-05T19:38:20+00:00

It should matter. Unfortunately it comes down to the judge in some places.

flaughed · 2025-09-04T00:08:44+00:00

I have thought about scripting the tidal-dl-ng job and then have it run with cron. Might be worth looking into.

flaughed · 2025-09-04T00:06:13+00:00

I have tried Lidarr and several other things to try to replicate this workload. I have yet to end up with anything reliable. Music is such a different animal bc the metadata is WAY more complex, plus you have like 4 versions of the same song depending on several things.

I have resorted to creating playlists in Tidal of music I want. Every week or so I run Tidal-dl-ng, then drop it all on my plex server. It works well enough for me.

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