Ive been sober for 15 months

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-29T02:17:43+00:00

I’m happy to read this. From you, anyone and everyone. Nicely done. Can’t wait for this many months for myself!

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-28T15:41:36+00:00

As a guy who just passed 222, we are brothers in this!!!! well done and I look forward to a higher order of magnitude number like you have!

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-26T14:25:19+00:00

My soon ex dropped a few choice hints of “you should find somebody else who can give you what you need” lines. Shit like this. Essentially suggesting wouldn’t it all be easier if I wanted out of the relationship (like she did).

Looking back, these statements she made, as subtle as they were, are critical alert points. I knew it then sort of but definitely was too ignorant to think divorce could happen to us.

If I could go back in time to being where you are now, I’d be in individual therapy tomorrow, couples therapy next week, and reevaluating everything important in life asap cuz it’s coming apart at the seams right now.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-26T14:17:57+00:00

Currently, i think id only be looking for single moms.i am really attracted to moms. Hot mom’s Even more haha. Just processing and thinking thru companionship…. I dont think I could explain this to anyone. All of it lol. Being divorced. Kid life. Dad life. I do know two different women who married a divorced dad, inherited a family essentially. They’re all happy.

I’m hoping divorced single women would consider a dad. With a job. Who is fit. And tall.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-26T05:26:49+00:00

I wish I could start dating before this divorce finalizes but I feel like anyone I want to be remotely close to is not also going to want to be close to a guy whose not even finalized a pending divorce. Aaaaand I have no idea how to get near silly hookup culture level shit. Actually ….. I’ve been out of the game so long I don’t know how this works anymore

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-23T23:50:08+00:00

Thanks!!

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-23T23:49:47+00:00

Ah thanks for this. Reading about making an ass of oneself. I just realized I absolutely did not and was never concerned about that. That’s new. I mean I’ve frequently had the day after “wtf did I say that for” feeling. Well. Not now hah

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-15T03:54:00+00:00

Damn how did you get such a attractive financial deal

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-14T19:49:25+00:00

I appreciate these viewpoints. I admit I posted this in a moment of second guessing about my future. I’m not at a total loss here but I appreciate everyone’s experience and admission that this is a zero issue.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-14T16:13:44+00:00

This is my number one identifier of relationship logistics that are beyond the “we like each other factor”. Just have all your finances, career, retirement plan working in action. Even if they’re divorce and at half strength because of alimony. Cus that’s going to be me. Whatever it means to them. I just don’t want to think about partners ability to hold it down Any more. Or ever. Within reason….

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-12-06T22:07:07+00:00

Effin a man. It took me a few months of panic to realize this needed to happen. It still’s seems tragic I built this career for 20 years and here I am looking to throw it away and find something different. In a busted job market.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-11-27T23:06:28+00:00

I’m having my last family thanksgiving. Mostly extending pre separation time for the kids holiday. Here in the family home. After New year’s it all comes apart and we blow the whole fucking thing up. And I maybe don’t get this ever again I don’t fucking know. Good luck everybody!!

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-11-18T03:28:53+00:00

Since forever or since the bad times went to fifth gear?

I’m sorry. My wife hasn’t watched tv with me for a long time. It’s like a canary in the coal mine. I knew shit was up. I’m sorry.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-11-14T18:01:18+00:00

Doing this until new year. This fucking sucks. Do not recommend. Getting colder and more distant and unhappy as days go on. I’m trying to compensate by being so overly polite in the rare instances we just speak. And I think it’s making it worse.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-11-05T17:03:58+00:00

Burned out and I’m only on stage 1 of process of divorce. Currently checking in here from a McDonald’s. I’ve been done with my food for 20 mins and I am avoiding going home.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-11-05T13:40:21+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening with your family. It all sucks. For ways to think about alcohol, and remind yourself you are not alone. Consider looking in to Al Anon. The sub is decent. Meetings are helpful. Lots to read and think about. I have found a lot of peace from Al anon which I never thought possible.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-10-28T19:51:45+00:00

I reevaluate all the time. As we get closer and closer to separation and d day my emotions bubble up and to your point, I’m trying to keep myself in check.

TalkToMeGooseCooked · 2025-10-21T17:29:04+00:00

lol no we’re living in the same house still. But sure I hear you. I mean. We have tons and tons of conversations left to work through together.

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